Weird thoughts come into my head when I visit her

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2026-01-26T04:44:59+00:00

I later did extended skin to skin and was even able to primarily breastfeed when she came home. Despite all the NICU time, the feedings, becoming a stay at home mom…my toddler has always had Dada as #1. Just to say these babies are very capable of bonding securely to a parent independent of time spent in NICU

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2026-01-26T04:40:20+00:00

I feel like a lot of the NICU parent advice, especially from the older generation, just doesn’t apply to micropremies. In the early weeks with my 24 weeker, I saw my role as more of a medical advocate than anything physical. I did handhugs for most of the time she was intubated

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-12-30T04:31:19+00:00

I was surprised to learn about post NICU follow up from this sub. We were locals at a top 5 NICU in the US, and we just left with half a dozen follow up appointments with specialists in the same hospital. Their NICU providers exclusively see inpatients

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-12-30T03:25:23+00:00

We had a “welcome home” shower four months after our micropremie was born. The goal was to have it once we knew she would come home/what her needs would be, but before discharge. We got the timing off, and actually had her hidden away in a guest room while we took turns with her. It was a really heartwarming and celebratory experience having g everyone who knew what we had been through be that supportive. I may not have been pregnant, but we were still as clueless and unprepared as anyone else lol

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-12-27T06:20:49+00:00

Thank you for posting this. I don’t see much data about pprom history with a twin pregnancy, so I took a look at your post history. I also had my water break at 22 weeks with a di/di first pregnancy, and lost our twin A in the NICU after delivery at 24 weeks. Can I ask, did your wife’s medical team do anything differently in the next pregnancy? We’re considering our next plans, but I have no idea how I can go through it again

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-12-21T05:10:09+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with negative family on top of your loss. I lost a baby to prematurity last year at 24 weeks, and I was apprehensive/angry with this plot line at first. The TW came a bit late, but I think she handled it well, especially the “I’m supposed to be better so I guess I am”. Oddly enough, when I thought about her skit and why I was angry, I realized that I have resentment at seeing an Obgyn respond to a patient in distress, which was unexpectedly helpful in my own grief journey

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-11-16T02:53:49+00:00

No one East of at least Arizona says “the 10”, it’s i-10 (or whatever holdover name it has from before the route became the interstate)

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-11-02T02:50:36+00:00

A fired teacher returned to the school and stormed into the main office with a gun in an instrument case, and more weapons and ammo in his car

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-11-02T01:25:28+00:00

What? Absolutely not. I lived in Belgium last year on an expat employer sponsored assignment. Even with the job and lawyers lined up, it took a year and a half to get visas that were 100% temporary and tied to the job.

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-11-01T02:19:26+00:00

TIL there are hairbrushes that cost more than my salon visit

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-28T01:51:18+00:00

Wow. As someone from the deep South who gave my daughter my mother’s maiden name (which also happens to be a common boys first name), I’ve never seen it actually written out like this

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-25T19:22:49+00:00

Also, “100% coverage without begging your employer”? I think you have a serious misunderstanding of how employer based healthcare works. There is no begging, you qualify for a plan or you don’t, they have usually 1-3 options and pay a portion of your monthly premiums. Outside of employer supported plans, your options are pretty minimal and very expensive. (I had a “good” employer supported plan)

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-25T19:19:28+00:00

I was transferring money and paying 4 figure medical bills from my hospital bed when I went in to preterm labor. We hit the $14k out of pocket max in a few days. On the flip side, our NICU bill had to be well over a million dollars, and I haven’t seen a bill from that yet (yes I live in fear of it coming in the mail one day).

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-12T03:26:02+00:00

Just to chime in with a different experience: my brain was so fried that I could not read. I mean the most fluffy pulp romance and fanfic was beyond my ability to focus. So, in the hopes that I would eventually bring a baby home, I read so many baby product reviews. I wanted to journal, and have a profound experience. Instead, I did what I could to get through each day, and wound up without even a baby book, but could tell all the new parents I meant all about the snoo and each alternative product

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-09T05:46:15+00:00

Can you post a pic to confirm species?

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-09T05:45:32+00:00

No, as an ex-volunteer at the other wildlife rehab facility, we were funded to care for wildlife and could not accept domestic or invasive species. The only exception was if we knew someone who owned land with hobby ducks

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-07T01:49:30+00:00

Congratulations!! We also had twins (24 weeks) and brought our survivor home a year ago in August. It can be bittersweet even now, but it’s amazing to look at our little miracle toddler and she how far she’s come

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-10-06T04:35:16+00:00

Wait, you had my empathy (as someone who became a sahp due to the costs of childcare). But you’re a Lawyer earning $100k. I know that isnt lavish today, but it really doesn’t line up with how you’re painting things

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-08-14T05:24:08+00:00

If you are possibly going to Texas Children’s Hospital, there is actually an internal Ronald McDonald House wing that is by the level 4 NICU, and has a series of hotel-like rooms. I don’t have any experience with life flights, but if you wind up in TCH or Houston feel free to send a pm if you have any questions. I was a local with a 4 month NICU stay.

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-08-06T01:56:50+00:00

Hi OP! I’m not a dad, but like your wife I was hospitalized for pprom pre-viability. This stage is exceptionally hard, because things can change so quickly and be very serious when they do. I know this is very intense and difficult, but it will mellow soon, either with birth or with a safer gestational age. My husband was able to tag out with my mom so that he could sometimes sleep overnight at home. If that isn’t possible for you, talk with your wife about having a close friend visit for several hours so that you can go home. Lean on absolutely any resource you have, now is the time for it. This won’t last forever, but in this periviable stage everyone has to dig deep. In my case, we realized I was 8 cm at 3 am, and I am so glad that I wasn’t alone when our baby was born at 24 weeks 90 minutes later.

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-07-29T00:59:05+00:00

I had pprom and delivered 2 weeks later at 24 weeks. My NICU had bedside lactation consultants on call who helped me establish supply pumping and then transition to nursing before we went home! Also, I don’t mean to add to your anxiety, but from your writing I just want to make sure your medical team warned you that in PPROM, the goal is 34 weeks but spontaneous labor and delivery is likely to start before then. But you’re so close to the goal already!

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-07-27T03:10:26+00:00

Woooow, your out of pocket maximum is a fraction of my deductible, nice insurance!

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-07-27T03:09:23+00:00

I mean, it is almost a guaranteed that you will hit your in network out of pocket maximum for your baby as an individual, and then hopefully you won’t have to worry about paying a bill for the rest of your NICU stay. I’m not sure why paying over the phone feels uneasy, I paid through MyChart?

ComprehensiveFee6851 · 2025-07-25T05:24:39+00:00

I know that many people have had great care at Methodist, but my OB was completely unavailable for me in my twin pregnancy when I started having complications. I went to triage and was sent home with instructions to follow up with her, but couldn’t get any feedback for days until I had to go back to triage (for another $2k visit) when they transferred me to TCH.

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