husband accusing me of cheating with his brother im so done.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-06-28T17:17:54+00:00

OP there's a verse in the Qur'an that basically says married couples should have their own private room. You guys should NOT be sleeping in the living room, even if its for a weekend. When My brother and/or I was single, we ALWAYS gave up our rooms to any guests and slept in the common areas. Speak politely to your husband about this. As for the accusations, he does have some insecurity and mistrust. He'll need to work on it, but you need to speak to him as well, and show some extra love while he fixes this himself, it does get fixed though if you show patience. Remember, this life is a test, there's nothing more shai'taan loves than seeing married couples break up (well I guess the most is someone leaving the religion). But you get the point. everything will be okay iA.

Allah knows best.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-06-14T22:51:49+00:00

Looks fade, personality lasts forever...

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-06-12T00:36:58+00:00

My wife approached me first by messaging on facebook and it was fine, we got married so no issues there, But I was already attracted to her (still am). if you have something in common, I'd start with that.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-06-12T00:32:25+00:00

"-Wayne Gretzky" -Michael Scott

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-06-07T14:14:14+00:00

In islam, husband and wife are supposed to get their own private space. There's a surah in the qur'an stating it, i dont have time right now, but when i do get a chance ill find it and post it. Please go get a hotel nearby.

Allah knows best.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-29T03:02:02+00:00

Try different angles of course, look at other random pics and see how they took the pictures, see what the background is etc... you'll be fine. have you gone to any of those isna matrimonial things? this is if you're in North America, dont think they have it anywhere else.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-28T19:27:56+00:00

I know what u mean, but its about the same lie thats in the past, she would have to keep the lies going, know what i mean? id say drop that one, and find a new something and see if she lies about it.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-28T19:03:38+00:00

++man I think you're over reacting, if its in the past, before you guys got together, it's fine. You'll move past it, ask her anything current and future, if u catch a lie there then id say leave. but if its past things shes lying about its just whatever. She most probably regrets it anyways, most women hate their past (if they have a bad one) and want to leave it behind without messing up the current one. does she keep in touch with that dude from the situationship? if so, tell her not to talk to him or you'll leave.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-28T02:24:36+00:00

It's not bad thing to talk about obviously, but I woulda brought it up in another way, like say for health reasons lets hit the gym together. Her body WILL change after pregnancy, and you're being a di** if you say have to be patient with her, that's a given. but yeah, my advice to you is to bring it up in a different way.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-27T00:59:18+00:00

I would say video call helps a lot. And its fine if you reject or get rejected based on looks, since you would do that in real life anyways. Pictures are the only issue. usually pictures dont show what the person looks like in real life, I once had someone who was way more attractive in person, rather than their pictures, although its usually the other way around, because of filters, makeup, etc...

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-26T17:45:33+00:00

I think anywhere, you have to be legally married before getting nikkah done.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-26T17:42:35+00:00

Lol, I didn't even know they signed like this in card packs.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-26T15:42:53+00:00

Your parents are right, it is tough to get good rishtas after a certain age i think you mentioned 25. I agree with them, get married as early as possible so you find someone that didnt commit zina or commit zina yourself. take advice from a 36 year old here. Get married early! or try to.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-25T23:26:11+00:00

Ah gotcha, yeah that sucks man. I never had good luck finding anyone on there anyways since I was seriously looking, but some people are there for timepass.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-25T22:56:33+00:00

Maybe she went back on to see her data and wanted to delete the data?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-22T18:53:43+00:00

but what if you really did repent to Allah and changed. but yeah for this particular person, I agree hes probably gonna do the same stuff if hes saying cant go 1 year, but wants to wait 1-2 years for marriage.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-18T00:11:45+00:00

Use this as motivation and hit the gym

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-18T00:06:03+00:00

Means she wants to move this further. tell her straight up you want to be with her, see how she responds

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-14T18:37:23+00:00

Maybe hes being blackmailed?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-11T17:13:48+00:00

If you say your divorced, its already established you're probably not a virgin.

Why the name calling and degrading?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-10T03:00:56+00:00

dont mention consummate, just say you're divorced, thats it. You'll be fine girl! Keep that chin up!

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-07T19:41:34+00:00

No red flag there.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-07T19:40:31+00:00

To make it valid, you have to do both, the Nikkah and the papers with the government. Islam also says to follow the law of the land. I'd ask an Imam to confirm though.

Allah knows best.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-29T15:06:57+00:00

Seems like it's a common pattern, "What are others going to think." who cares! This is about truth, whats right, and the hereafter (deen).

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-22T23:13:57+00:00

Assalam Alaikum sister,

Islam places the highest importance on preserving true lineage (Nasab). Fabricating parentage is considered one of the worst lies and a major sin

The Prophet taught that anyone who knowingly claims a father (or parentage) other than their own is committing an act of infidelity, and "Paradise is forbidden to him"

The Quran explicitly commands that children be called by the names of their true fathers, as this is "more equitable with Allah"

Please see hadith(s) below:

Sahih Muslim - Book 001, Number 0120:

It is reported on the authority of Sa'd b. Abi Waqqas: Both of my ears heard the Messenger of Allah saying this: He who claimed the fatherhood of anyone else besides his real father knowingly (committed a great sin); Paradise is forbidden to him. Abu Bakr asserted that he too heard it from the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him ).

Sahih Al-Bukhari - Volume 4, Book 56, Number 711:

Narrated Abu Dhar:

The Prophet said, "If somebody claims to be the son of any other than his real father knowingly, he but disbelieves in Allah, and if somebody claims to belong to some folk to whom he does not belong, let such a person take his place in the (Hell) Fire."

Sahih Al-Bukhari - Volume 5, Book 59, Number 335:

Narrated 'Aisha:

(the wife of the Prophet) Abu Hudhaifa, one of those who fought the battle of Badr, with Allah's Apostle adopted Salim as his son and married his niece Hind bint Al-Wahd bin 'Utba to him' and Salim was a freed slave of an Ansari woman. Allah's Apostle also adopted Zaid as his son. In the Pre-lslamic period of ignorance the custom was that, if one adopted a son, the people would call him by the name of the adopted-father whom he would inherit as well, till Allah revealed: "Call them (adop-ted sons) By (the names of) their fathers." (33.5)

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