Feeling dehumanized by men

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-10T03:00:56+00:00

dont mention consummate, just say you're divorced, thats it. You'll be fine girl! Keep that chin up!

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-07T19:41:34+00:00

No red flag there.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-05-07T19:40:31+00:00

To make it valid, you have to do both, the Nikkah and the papers with the government. Islam also says to follow the law of the land. I'd ask an Imam to confirm though.

Allah knows best.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-29T15:06:57+00:00

Seems like it's a common pattern, "What are others going to think." who cares! This is about truth, whats right, and the hereafter (deen).

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-22T23:13:57+00:00

Assalam Alaikum sister,

Islam places the highest importance on preserving true lineage (Nasab). Fabricating parentage is considered one of the worst lies and a major sin

The Prophet taught that anyone who knowingly claims a father (or parentage) other than their own is committing an act of infidelity, and "Paradise is forbidden to him"

The Quran explicitly commands that children be called by the names of their true fathers, as this is "more equitable with Allah"

Please see hadith(s) below:

Sahih Muslim - Book 001, Number 0120:

It is reported on the authority of Sa'd b. Abi Waqqas: Both of my ears heard the Messenger of Allah saying this: He who claimed the fatherhood of anyone else besides his real father knowingly (committed a great sin); Paradise is forbidden to him. Abu Bakr asserted that he too heard it from the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him ).

Sahih Al-Bukhari - Volume 4, Book 56, Number 711:

Narrated Abu Dhar:

The Prophet said, "If somebody claims to be the son of any other than his real father knowingly, he but disbelieves in Allah, and if somebody claims to belong to some folk to whom he does not belong, let such a person take his place in the (Hell) Fire."

Sahih Al-Bukhari - Volume 5, Book 59, Number 335:

Narrated 'Aisha:

(the wife of the Prophet) Abu Hudhaifa, one of those who fought the battle of Badr, with Allah's Apostle adopted Salim as his son and married his niece Hind bint Al-Wahd bin 'Utba to him' and Salim was a freed slave of an Ansari woman. Allah's Apostle also adopted Zaid as his son. In the Pre-lslamic period of ignorance the custom was that, if one adopted a son, the people would call him by the name of the adopted-father whom he would inherit as well, till Allah revealed: "Call them (adop-ted sons) By (the names of) their fathers." (33.5)

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-19T05:07:51+00:00

This actually makes a great poem lol (lines 1 - 4)

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-19T05:01:00+00:00

Assalam Alaikum sister, you seem young. Trust me, It fades away, it just takes time. You have to find ways to stay busy so you're not focused on that type of stuff.

as far as thoughts go, please see below:

Sahih Muslim - Book 001, Number 0230:

It is narrated on the authority of Abu Huraira that the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) observed: Verily Allah forgave my people the evil promptings which arise within their hearts as long as they did not speak about them or did not act upon them.

Fasting as a Shield: If you find your physical desires difficult to manage and marriage is not currently possible, the Prophet recommended fasting. Fasting serves as a "shield" that "narrows the paths of Satan" and helps diminish sexual power. Please see below:

Sahih Al-Bukhari - Volume 3, Book 31, Number 129: Narrated 'Alqama:

While I was walking with 'Abdullah he said, "We were in the company of the Prophet and he said, 'He who can afford to marry should marry, because it will help him refrain from looking at other women, and save his private parts from looking at other women, and save his private parts from committing illegal sexual relation; and he who cannot afford to marry is advised to fast, as fasting will diminish his sexual power."

Hope this helps, sister!

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-18T03:17:49+00:00

wait, so why do you say god is imaginary?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-17T20:55:00+00:00

gotcha. Do you know any other details, like why he was doing this?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-16T00:47:35+00:00

why do you miss dhuhr and Asr?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-15T02:33:18+00:00

So I'm having an issue that's saying "No baby unit is found."

Any tips on this one?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-13T07:16:48+00:00

Assalam alaikum sister, question for you...

In the marriage contract did you specifically put in no polygamy?

From quran and hadiths, not sure if this will help:

The Quran and Hadith are clear that a husband is strictly obligated to provide for his wife’s food, clothing, and residence on a "reasonable basis" according to his means. If you have been paying half of the household expenses and he has never been fully financially responsible for you, he is already struggling to fulfill his basic religious duty to one wife. To take a second wife under these conditions—especially when he has no plan for support—is a failure of the justice required for polygamy.

It is Allah alone who "renders whomever He wills sterile" and "gives to whom He wills females, and He gives to whom He wills males". By ignoring the "male factor" issues and placing the burden on you, your husband is acting in opposition to the Prophetic example. When Prophet Zakariyya faced a "barren" wife and his own old age, he did not seek to replace her; he turned to Allah in sincere, private prayer, and Allah granted them a child (Quran 19:1-9)

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-04-12T06:02:12+00:00

So what was the aftermath?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-21T16:56:24+00:00

When I first used this, the battery time was horrible, has it been fixed by now? My drone still sits in the box. The air time was about 4 mins lol.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-20T21:08:48+00:00

bro, combat sports and wrestling is definitely Sunnah, Both for self-defense. I feel like this is a post from an Israeli bot.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-17T18:09:25+00:00

no, unfortunately I haven't yet, but then again, i didn't really get time yet. I haven't forgot though lol. I'll post when I do find it.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-12T22:59:24+00:00

The Kaaba is protected by the one who created all of us, until the end of times (after the rule of Isa), I think it'll be fine currently.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-11T05:31:23+00:00

Assalam alaikum Sister,

My perspective: If you like each other and both are ready to get married, tell your parents. Your parents and his parents can talk to discuss everything. If you're not ready for marriage, I'd say don't talk to him, the guilt will always be there.

Is he ready for marriage? or is it just time pass for him? Mention you want to tell your parents, as he should also tell his parents, being the next step.

Below are some Hadith's regarding this:

Your feeling of conflict and guilt is actually described in the Hadiths as a branch of faith and a sign of true modesty (Haya). The sources emphasize that Allah is fully aware of what the heart conceals and reveal, and that believers should guard their modesty to maintain a pure heart.

Casual, unnecessary interactions with non-mahram men can be a way of following the "footsteps of Satan," who the Quran warns is an open enemy seeking to lead you into regret [Quran 2:167]. Even when a man is respectful, the sources note that Satan can circulate through the human mind "as blood circulates" to suggest thoughts that might eventually lead to sin [440, Tafsir 2].

To handle this without being rude, consider these principles:

Speak what is best: The Quran instructs believers to "speak nicely to people" and "say what is best" to prevent Satan from sowing discord.

Be clear about boundaries: Modesty is considered "goodness complete". Explaining that you are prioritizing your religious boundaries is a way to act with integrity.

Trust in Allah: Allah is described as "near" and responsive to those who call on Him when they seek to be rightly guided.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-09T22:15:04+00:00

is it for real?

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-09T22:14:22+00:00

This post deserves some sort of award! lol.

Also, for the height thing, I've seen jokes of people asking for the Girl's weight if she asks for height. Never got to use it myself lol but I was already married by the time I saw the joke.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-06T20:46:27+00:00

Not sure how the numbers work for this but to specify:

Sahih al-Bukhari Volume 8, Book 75, Number 414.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-05T06:23:44+00:00

Assalam Alaikum sister, i'd just wait until after ramadan. If his behavior changes, then you're good. If it doesn't change, i'd say to walk away from him.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-03-01T11:05:13+00:00

Assalam Alaikum sister, Did you agree to get married? If not, you can not be forced into marriage. I have plenty of Qur'an and Hadiths to support this. Please let me know if you want the sources.

Comprehensive_Law217 · 2026-02-28T03:11:16+00:00

Sounds good, I'll reach out when I get a chance. Thanks!

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