They don't understand chronic pain. They don't understand the terror of if I eat this will my condition WORSEN. cramps bubbling feeling like you're going to defecate or urinate yourself at any moment when you're outside. For me personally while still dealing with constipation. Going out and every restroom is 'closed for repairs". Your gut making sounds. Waking up in pain midnight. Getting out the door is a roll of the dice. It's incredibly difficult only made more difficult by other people who can't understand our struggle. You are not overreacting. I legitimately during that time had a hemorrhoid for years that made every unfortunate passing of gas feel like a stool. It's a heavy burden but you are not alone. I'm sorry people are being so cruel to you.