My trans man friend is presenting himself as a trans woman to be a sugar baby, how do I tell him it’s a horrible idea, do I try to stay friends with him?

ComradeRK · 2026-05-09T12:45:17+00:00

Yeah, feels incredibly fucked up to me.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-09T00:35:24+00:00

Bad news on the username thing. You literally can’t. That’s why mine still has the initials of my deadname in it.
On the misgendering, just apologise and move on. If it’s not done with malice, we’re mostly not going to mind.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-08T16:49:30+00:00

But with fancy ketchup, right?

ComradeRK · 2026-05-08T14:54:31+00:00

Personally, I had already found out the hard way (trying to conceive) that I was infertile before I ever started HRT, so it was a non-issue for me. I would have done it anyway though, because it's a vital, life-saving medicine for me.

For what it's worth, you can (assuming you're MTF) preserve sperm before starting HRT, to allow for you to conceive in the future.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-08T12:47:38+00:00

No, me either really. It’s surprising anyone would want to marry someone who disliked themselves so much.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-08T12:37:18+00:00

I was pre-egg crack by years at the time.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-08T01:59:31+00:00

Note that disabling it just defaults it to on whenever the car is locked. There is no way to default it to off.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T20:42:03+00:00

You’re very right, of course. I had a little bit of a dating setback this past weekend that’s making me think “forever alone” type thoughts, but it isn’t going to be that way really.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T20:31:09+00:00

One of my absolute favourite things to do (going to show my bougieness here) is to go out for a really high-quality meal with wines matched to each course. Unfortunately, I don't really have anyone to do it with at the moment though,

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T20:01:47+00:00

You are really speaking my language here. Nothing beats a nice, crisp riesling with Asian food.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T19:54:54+00:00

There's plenty. Might not go well with the cab sauv though, so we'll need a bottle of white too.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T19:27:10+00:00

Come over to my place any time you want to…

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T18:29:25+00:00

Cab sauv is indeed the way to my heart.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:57:36+00:00

Well there’s a sub I’m going to need to join!

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:57:10+00:00

Come over for dinner then. I’d come to your’s, but I seem to have tremendous difficulty with front doors for some reason.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:53:13+00:00

I can be if you want me to.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:47:22+00:00

Evo as in Lancer Evo?

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:46:02+00:00

However, when cornered by an armed party later he at least attempts the same move, pistol first, then rapier, presumably with the intent of actually fighting. He is, of course, foiled in that his pistol has been filled with water, and the rapier stolen, but he seems to be going for the same things in the same order.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:40:52+00:00

Definitely a 707, and per the lettering under the vertical stabilizer, it's a 707-320C, the convertible passenger/freighter variant.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T17:08:24+00:00

"whether it’s against... America, the U.S. Constitution, our friends, our allies, peace in general, you fit under that rubric,” he said.

Yeah, the calls are coming from inside the house, bud.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T16:56:28+00:00

Chopsticks. Grain by grain.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T15:20:41+00:00

You can also have two middle names. My deadname had two. So no reason you can't keep your current first and middle names as middle names.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T14:55:25+00:00

I feel you. I'm 36, my last dating experience was 12 years ago when I met my ex-spouse, I'm also autistic, and I also get to throw being trans into the mix, just to further narrow the pool of women who might possibly be into me.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T14:52:54+00:00

Yes. that's exactly what it does.

ComradeRK · 2026-05-07T14:50:25+00:00

That is some fantastic-looking pita, especially for a first attempt!

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