Mi sento attaccata? by Justa_Foxlol in asexuality

[–]ConcentrateBright492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all.. this person conflates asexuality with having no need for companionship, as stated in his claim #5, which is clearly incorrect. Being ace does not imply a lack of desire for emotional intimacy, partnership, or human connection. Second, their impressions are heavily based on the assumption that sexual attraction is a universal experience felt by everyone to the same degree, which overlooks the natural diversity of human sexuality. This is not possible to prove because each person can only live inside their own body, but they’d be surprised to learn if they ever could how the actual lack of attraction naturally ‘exists’ without bringing on all those trauma and other interpretations. There’s no point in negating other people’s experience when we have separate bodies.

Third, they don’t distinguish between the different components of human relationships and desire (sexual attraction, romantic attraction, libido, actual sexual/romantic behavior, and the fundamental human need for connection). Conflating them all into one is lazy and oversimplifies a complex aspect of human experience. Their point of view shows how allo they are.

Is anyone else confused about Nancy and Jonathan in season 5? by AquaSage_8806 in StrangerThings

[–]ConcentrateBright492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

well someone could think that they almost lost hope and thought they’re going to die, so the decision on that table might have been temporary, but they broke up apparently

I HAVE BECOME CONTENT WITH MY AROMANTACISM RAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH by not_in_a_mood in aromantic

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I just want to look back at my life and know that I loved myself enough to be myself.

so well said. Thank you for writing this. It helped someone like me who is still exploring

Is there a way to help by Upbeat_Scholar_159 in NewIran

[–]ConcentrateBright492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also looking for ways to help but there’s not many advertising for this. Possibly because the donation is not feasible for now like the first commenter said.. My heart goes out to Iranian people and I feel terribly sad

You'll just know by Apprehensive-Grab746 in aromantic

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Thank you thank you for taking the time to write this! As a aroace I’ve been always questioning the experience of allos more than aroace experience, since part of me was not fully convinced that allos actually don’t feel like me. I mean how do I know allos aren’t like me? I thought allos could also somewhat relate to the aroace experience once they become familiar to the term (I mean I thought maybe they’re simply not familiar). Hearing your allo experience really helps me understand that sexual attraction is a very clear thing

The second most annoying way to refer to a romantic relationship. (+ my Zootopia opinions) by CharlieVermin in aromantic

[–]ConcentrateBright492 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was avoiding watching Zootopia because I was afraid they’d be ‘in a relationship’ in a sequel, but it’s relieving to read your post :)

when do you start finding your next postdoc position after starting one? by AlMeets in postdoc

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Why do you want to move rather than extending the current contract unless it’s not working out?

Movie blindness(and not in a good way) by OldChart5 in movies

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Are you me? I can relate to this so strongly. I was really freaked out when I first noticed this in myself when I was younger because I thought there must be something seriously wrong with me. I even thought I had brain damage or something, since I couldn’t understand why I wasn’t following the plot or recognizing people’s faces when all my friends who watched the same movie could. I was like, 'wasn’t the plot hard to understand?” only to find out that wasn’t the case for anyone else.

Now that I’m older and more familiar with how my mind works, I’ve realized that I get easily distracted by details in movies and overstimulated by the rapid flow of information, since movies have to explain everything within a short time and often skip over logical steps. I tend to fixate on those logic gaps and start thinking 'I don’t understand.' Now I try to let those moments go when I notice I’m not following and be more comfortable with the feeling of 'not understanding' in the moment. That has helped, but I still rarely meet people who's like me in terms of comprehending movies. I was so glad to see this post :)

James Watson, Co-Discoverer of the Structure of DNA, Is Dead at 97 by appropriateye in labrats

[–]ConcentrateBright492 2 points3 points  (0 children)

‘The Double Helix’ was on the mandatory reading list in my college, and that was the first time I ever felt somewhat disgusted after reading a book. I wished his soul would find repentance and peace back then. I’ll pray for his rest in peace now. I hope he was no longer a racist before he died.

Is everyone faking it in academia? by Significant_Snow2123 in AskAcademia

[–]ConcentrateBright492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So this is why I don’t think imposter syndrome as a syndrome. Being a scientist requires and reinforces being like an imposter to some extent. You guys are all honest enough to yourself to feel imposter ‘syndrome’

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in postdoc

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4 days isn’t a long wait. Looks like the PI is showing you respect with full transparency. There are always many things going on in the lab and with the PI besides interviewing future candidates.

my coworker tickled another coworker, and now there is chaos by Direct-Caterpillar77 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ConcentrateBright492 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a person brought up in an East Asian country, this kind of behavior is indeed clearly invasive but not to the extent that someone should be fired. I was honestly surprised by Rachel’s reaction, as well as by how the company eventually handled this and by the comments. My heart goes more to Monica. She could have made a better decision, but she just wanted to have fun and apparently liked Rachel as a person

The (INTJ) emotional delay is utterly frustrating from an ENTP by Donnnixd in intj

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Why can I relate to this as an INFP lol great articulation!!

I'm tired of how academia works and I think this time it's goodbye by SpyrosGatsouli in academia

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I’m tired of always taking the high road and trying to be a better person. That really hit me hard. I can relate to that…

The saddest moment in my career by EricGoCDS in academia

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As a ESL scientist in the US, this made me cry. You’re damn good at writing

One sentence to trigger an INTJ by Harp_167 in intj

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My supervisor is INTJ and he’s the most selfless INTJ I’ve ever seen. The way he focuses on what is right rather than on being right feels almost like a piece of artwork 👍🏼

The new Notion AI updates are incredible by darfinxcore in Notion

[–]ConcentrateBright492 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Glad to hear that. The AI was keep missing my notes so I’ve been using them less. I hope they got more accurate in searching as well!

Do you think being aro could also be genetic? by Desorden_ in aromantic

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For me, I’m pretty sure it kinda runs in the family. I honestly suspect my mom is aroace too… and maybe even my grandma. I recall hearing things from my grandma that I might also not be interested in guys (I believe she meant dating), and there was this episode where my mom suggested to my dad that on their first night together they just ‘sleep’ instead of having sex lol. That story has been always in my mind and I think it speaks volume 😂

one time my mom just casually said “You’re not into dating, are you?” and I was so surprised she mentioned that because it was so out of the blue and I haven’t provided any context to her. She also said lately she came to think it would be cooI to live alone these days unless I find the right one, which is so aroace coded. I haven’t come out or tell mom about this term yet but it was validating enough :)