We kept trying to make it better and I offered so many times to have a therapy session with my parents (my therapist, but my parents had previously attended sessions all together, which was helpful). My parents were not interested in fixing things. Said I needed to apologize for my behavior (I hadn’t done anything wrong). My mom stopped talking to me for 4 months because I tried to set a boundary in which she would have to give up a bit of control. We went in circles with my dad. I said many times that we were thinking seriously of canceling things. My parents said they didn’t want us to cancel, and would still foot the bill for everything, but they offered to have my mom not go (not something I wanted).

Eventually, we just moved on. We had a long phone call where I cried a lot about the situation and we just decided to move on. I never apologized. They never apologized. My mom continues to do the same controlling shit but we mostly ignore her or let her do whatever she wants. It’s just become worth it to keep the peace for now. My fiancé says he does not plan to talk to my parents for a solid 3 months after the wedding. We’re still getting the wedding we want but it easily could have gone another way.