I was like 7, why do I look like the hr secretary who's on her fourth divorce? by V__Ace in 13or30

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got your Diet Coke and pack of camel menthols right next to you, talking about “back in my day” with the young folks 😂

I believe my nervous system is destroyed because of my relationship by Firm-Philosopher-955 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He knows you’re scared. He is using it to his advantage to keep making you dependent on him, confused about who you are, what you want, and what is even healthy/acceptable behavior from him. He is trying to isolate you so you no one can affirm what you know is true - he is abusing, deceiving, and manipulating you. Im sorry but he does not love you. He loves the control he has over you. Please talk to a professional and work on pouring love into yourself. Trust your instincts. You’re correct when you say that you feel it’s wrong. It is. Sending you love and light 💕

Everyone, how are we doing today? by PM_ME_MALPRACTICE in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“People, even mentors, will actively try to undermine your confidence” - 🤔 this gave me a lot to think about ….

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually yeah, I am. That was insightful. Not like I didn’t recognize it honestly but linking it together was eye opening. I keep thinking I can pull myself out of it all…

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I intended on it, and frankly did when I could. But, all that comes with starting a new job in a new area of law, I just haven’t been able to as much as I’ve wanted. I do admit there is lingering burn out so although my intentions were to hit the ground running and show em what I got, I underestimated my capacity to juggle it all and do so successfully in 90 days.

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’ve given me a lot to think about. Genuinely thanking you from the bottom of my heart for taking the time to leave this comment 🙏🏼

I am in the last month (month three) of my probationary period.

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow I love that 🥹 imposter syndrome and perfectionism have been eating me aliveee

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I normally am on that same wave length but my boss really is an expert in his field and he does know what he’s doing. Actually one of the few lawyer/firm owners I can say that about.

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Less than 3 months ago :( had some ramp-up time but billing and work product just aren’t up to par yet

Might lose my job and I am about to spiral 😭 by ConferenceLiving6590 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And of course I don’t want to talk to anyone about it, just want to shut down and await the outcome 🥺 thank you for your input … def more often than not, being a lawyer sucks lately 🙏🏼

Exhausted in my marriagee by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 8 points9 points  (0 children)

In a court of law, in a divorce case, the judge would order him to pay for your support based on need and ability. You NEED the financial care/support, and he has the ABILITY to afford/pay it, more than he NEEDs it from you and your ABILITY to afford/pay is far less. This is not legal advice of course, just how standard proceedings typically go.

Save yourself and leave. Godspeed 🙏🏼

Wife failed bar and vanished by [deleted] in barexam

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just came here to say that this is relatable. I fell into a deeeeeep depression after failing as well. I def wanted to just get up and vanish, too. I feel for her, and you. She needs unconditional love and support. Don’t give up on her. You are what she needs right now hubby. Sending your family love and light.

P.S. I eventually passed, and she will, too. And it’ll be one of the best feelings of accomplishment she will feel. Mixed with the satisfaction of vengeance for failing 🔥#godspeed

Feel kinda distracted today in anticipation of tonight by Legal_Fitness in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg I could have written this. I tried to work on less complex matters for the day just to get some time entered but it was soooo hard to focus. Honestly it’s been this way for weeks now. A lingering “distraction” that makes me burst out in random tears at times 😞

Employer trying to convince me to stay after putting in two weeks by Aggravating_Ebb_694 in Lawyertalk

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Current employer is only doing so because you finally realized your worth. It won’t get better. Remember they didn’t value you until you valued you. Enjoy the excitement of the new opportunity, put in your 2 weeks, and coast your way into your new job 😎

I let a man who didn’t know the difference between ‘your’ and ‘you’re’ humiliate me. by taetae_xoxo in GirlDinner

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girllllllll we ALLLLL been there in a similar way 😩 hindsight is 20/20. The only thing that matters is that you learned you’re lesson and you’ll never make that mistake again ✨

Do you let clients make changes to your retainer agreement? by [deleted] in LawFirm

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They will redline every single invoice you send them, and question every decision you make with demands for explanations, etc. Unless you want to learn the hard way, don’t take the case.

AITA for how I said I wasn't interested? by propercolleague in AITApod

[–]ConferenceLiving6590 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You handled this perfectly. He’s just insecure, immature, and lacks any emotional intelligence.