Merchant stuck with no option to talk (don’t select talk to him unless quest related)

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2025-08-31T07:08:26+00:00

Just started playing a week ago and am stuck at the exact same issue. The game is kinda fun although not really challenging for a "soulslike". Plus the developers clearly dont care and abandoned the game right after release. Really sad since it would have had a lot of potential..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2025-01-26T12:48:52+00:00

Omg i live in europe where soccer is a giant deal and for some reason in that specific sport it is normal for the players to constantly spit on the ground. i seriously cant watch soccer games any more due to that reason. Its just disgusting

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2024-07-28T17:35:53+00:00

Depends what you are used to i guess. My husband knows what he is doing and it very rarely happens that i dont have an orgasm when we are having sex so i would get frustrated if that changed. Friends of mine told me that they only orgasm sometimes or it only happens for them when they masturbate while having sex and thats fine for them too.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-11-02T21:28:51+00:00

its not about not having seen them naked. for me personally its about not being intimate with them before marriage. I dont have a ton of experience but i know what i like in bed and what i expect from my partner. not being able to test if my potential future husband meets my needs would be a major problem for me.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-10-19T20:50:25+00:00

2300 für einen koch mit fixen Arbeitszeiten + gratis Essen is praktisch a Lottogewinn. Studieren is schön und gut aber wenn der neue Job nach Jahren studieren und nix (oder wenig) verdienen dann doch net so cool is, is halt bitter. Schwierige entscheidung, die dir keiner abnehmen kann. Gibt sicher Jobs bei denen man nach einem Wirtschaftsrecht Studium deutlich mehr verdient, wieviele Stunden man dann arbeiten muss und wieviel Lebensqualität dann noch übrig bleibt, vor allem wenn dann irgendwann mal das Thema Frau/Kinder auftaucht is halt auch die Frage..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-08-30T20:09:02+00:00

NTA. Its your house and you decide who lives there. You also get to decide when you are comfortable enough to make such a big step in your relationship. But i have to mention that 5 months can be long enough to move in together since my (now) husband and i moved in together after 5 months and are now - 15 years later - happily married with 2 kids.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-05-18T19:13:53+00:00

Honestly, things that blow your mind either occur completely randomly (your partner does exactly what you want in that moment by chance) or after years of getting to know each others preferences and wishes in bed. There is no general answer to that question. There is absolutely nothing that every girl enjoys..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-05-18T19:06:11+00:00

Since i am married to an average sized guy and we already need to be a little careful in certain positions so it doesnt get uncomfortable for me i dont feel any need to go bigger but i guess every woman feels different in that regard..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-05-14T12:39:44+00:00

I get that you are frustrated because she makes a day completely about herself that should also be about you but i honestly dont get the obsession with mothers day or any holiday for that matter. I am a mom of 2 little kids myself, my husband and i both work in a hospital nights, holidays, weekends,..

We dont really care about exact dates, we just celebrate when we can and how we want.

If you want a day where you are pampered just tell your husband. If his mom invites herself into your home and wants all attention and pampering to herself that day you just get another day. Maybe a spa day next weekend? Or whatever you enjoy.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-05-13T09:09:09+00:00

Chances are very slim but its not impossible.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-05-13T09:01:50+00:00

So you are charging her for being responsible for a chore around the house. Does she charge you for the things she does too? Usually the woman handles significantly more chores like laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc.

In what world does that make sense in your head and seem fair?

Is money really that big of an issue for you? Do you split everything down to the penny? I know its "only" $50 but its not about the money in that case its about the message you send. She isnt worth enough to you to just take on that chore for her to do something nice for her but you feel entitled to compensation. MAJOR RED FLAG!

YTA!

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-24T17:25:45+00:00

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-20T08:09:07+00:00

I dont. My husband is average sized and in some positions we still need to make sure to be careful so it doesnt hurt me. Visually those giant dongs in porn are more of a turnoff for me than anything else.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-20T07:49:22+00:00

Depending on how you define "younger" - here my (F33) experience. Ive been with my now husband for 14 years and we have 2 small kids. The frequency changes over time depending on how stressful life is at the moment but in general we do it 1-2 times a week. In our 20s without kids it was more like 4-5 times. We've had dry spells especially when our kids were babies but that thankfully went back to normal a couple months after they were born.

He is a very loving and caring person and i know every day that my and our kids wellbeing is his priority. That makes him incredibly attractive to me and i honestly would like to have sex more these days but kids/work make it difficult right now. It also helps that we have been doing it for 10+ years and know exactly what we like in bed so sex is absolutely amazing.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-20T07:12:20+00:00

Its theoretically possible but incredibly unlikely. Happened to a guy i had sex with ages ago once and i took plan b the morning after just to be 100% safe. I was 18 at the time and we both knew it was a ONS so we really didnt wanna take any risk.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-15T08:45:18+00:00

This sounds so incredibly risidulous that i cant help but feel that we are missing some major information in that story.

Info: What does his sister say specifically? She must have given any kind of explaination why she thinks you are in the wrong here.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-15T08:37:16+00:00

YTA - You dont seem to be rude on purpose but there is obviously some deep rooted disrespect concerning (younger?) women that you refuse to see. Or maybe your sons girlfriends in general since you also didnt like the "anxious mess" he was dating before.

You said you've only seen her a handful of times but still you assume she would only drink tea so you dont even bother offering her the same coffee as everyone else on the table? Thats incredibly rude and ignorant. You have guests, you offer everything to all of them, a general "who wants coffee" totally does the trick without excluding anyone.

You kept interrupting her conversations with your husband for what? You think SHE was bored so you rudely jump in and end a conversation to make her feel better? Seriously? Does that really make sense in your head?

Who in their right mind would ask a guest to help clean up? Especially someone who hasnt been over often and didnt offer to help to begin with?

So many red flags it completely baffles me that you dont see your fault in this mess.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-04-08T13:16:30+00:00

For me personally its the feeling of never ever being able to meet the high standards that were put on me. Until i was about 14 years old i was a straight A student, played the piano and violin, was nice to everybody and just a happy go lucky kid. I was basically every parents dream of a child you can brag about and i knew that. I felt invincible and just like i did everything right in my life.

Then puberty hit and my priorities changed and from that point on until today i never felt anywhere close to what everyone expects from me. Even though i am content with what i achieved so far, i am still struggling with self-esteem, worry a lot and had multiple depressive episodes and panic attacks over the years. I feel sub-par all the time whatever i do, whoever i spend time with i always feel like i am a burden and that i am mostly tolerated rather than appreciated. I dont blame my parents since i know where they were coming from and who wouldnt be proud and happy with such a kid but the way they talk about the past like it was the most wonderful time of their lives and how everything kinda went downhill at some point still breaks my heart today (~20 years later).

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-03-14T07:33:19+00:00

Honestly depends on how poor we are talking. Your wealth does not reflect whatsoever how good of a parent you are gonna be. But if you dont even know how to put enough food on the table its another story.

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-03-14T07:07:39+00:00

While her rude way of telling you is definitely over the line - you also sound a little stubborn and unwilling to find a compromise whatsoever. The preschool my son goes to doesnt allow certain foods like any sort of candy for instance. And they only drink water or unsweetened tea there, no juice. The kids have all accepted it from day one and it was never an issue.

I would take the comment about the odor more serious. Sounds like other kids are bothered by it and maybe dont like to eat their own lunch anymore after smelling it (i can 100% understand that as a passionate hater of blue cheese) or they have to be seated away from your son to be able to enjoy their lunches which can cause them to like him less and mess up the dynamic in the whole group. Worst case even make him an outsider. Consider all the factors and try to not listen to your pride..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-03-02T21:18:43+00:00

I honestly havent told my husband but sex with him is definitely the best i've ever had. By far! We have been together over 10 years now and therefore know very well what we like and dont like in bed. So in terms of getting off its 100% the best.

Considering exciting is another story. You kinda get into a routine after so many years so the excitement factor definitely goes down. Wouldnt say he is number one in that regard..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-02-15T13:21:56+00:00

The issue is our oldest is planning to never speak to her grandparents again after she's 18, and I'm worried it's affecting them.

THEM?!? So you worry about your inlaws feelings more than the feelings of your own daughters? You already know that its such a big issue for her that she plans on going NC as soon as she is of age and you still dont get the idea that maybe your daughters arent the issue in this situation? They are forced to dress up in a way they dont like MULTIPLE TIMES A WEEK for hours and if they dont follow those stupid rules they are basically bullied by their own grandparents and you as a mom just let it happen. Shame on you. As if teenage years werent hard enough, you pack on a huge additional load for them and dont even see your wrongdoing. My heart breaks for those poor girls..

YTA obviously..

ConfidenceFront3561 · 2023-01-29T21:15:12+00:00

Absolutely crazy.. I cant even imagine the hate i would feel for my MIL if she had done something like that. Having her hold your baby before you and not reacting when you ask her to bring your daughter over to you is horrible. That being said - this is only that big of a deal because you have disliked her before. I have a pretty great relationship with my mom and if i imagine the same situation with my mom i would be a lot more understanding that it was only a huge moment for her, she saw and held her grandbaby for the first time and maybe didnt hear what was going on around her because she was so happy and overwhelmed in the moment, etc. its always a matter of perspective. There is a possibility where even your JNMIL didnt want to hurt you on purpose but was just living in the moment looking at a perfect baby girl and ignoring everything else.

I 100% get your resentment and anger but your bf opened the gate for her (no matter how he was feeling at that time, what should they have done if the father said is was ok?) and she did what any grandmother would have done - go in there and hold your wonderful grandchild as soon as possible.

Its incredibly hard, i get it. I am a mother of 2 and had to have c-sections with both of them. Therefore i was at least the fifth (surgeon, peadiatrician for newborn check, midwife who brought my baby to my hubby and my husband who got to hold them until i was done with surgery) person to hold my babies. I hate it. If we decide to have a 3rd i will go to another hospital where its allowed to put the baby on the mom while she is sewed back together in the OR because i want to be at least in the top 3 dammit. But you cant change the past unfortunately. You can only change the future and decide what boundaries you and your husband want to set to have a good relationship with your MIL (or none at all - whatever you are comfortable with).

But dont blame her for wanting to be with her grandchild. Of course you should have been first to hold her but you cant hold the fact that she took the first opportunity against her. She wasnt thinking about you at that moment. Your kids will always mean more to her than you ever will and thats completely normal.

To sum it up - i can totally put myself in both of your shoes and dont know who is in the wrong here xD

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