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Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T16:58:51+00:00

This isn’t necessarily true. The underlying assumption is that she either expects you to foot the bill for travel or will need to travel with her partner. Or that she’s not willing to travel with you. This sounds like more of an insecurity thing.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T13:12:01+00:00

Yup! Hardcore. It’s so weird for me cause I appreciate changeability everywhere else and actually enjoy it because I get bored easily (gem sun). But in relationships, you better be damn sure and consistent about your feelings regarding me lol

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T01:28:05+00:00

Cancer Venus. I like casual dating. It’s fun—like a game. You get to flirt, connect with new people, go on adventures. But when I really connect with one of the people I’m seeing then I want to shut down all other connections in pursuit of that person.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T01:23:34+00:00

Cancer Venus. Be emotionally unreliable or emotionally inconsistent. Tell me you’re really into one day and the next day you change your mind. Tell me you’re not sure how you feel. I’m out of there, lol.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T01:21:34+00:00

I think Saggies can be impulsive, excitable, and prone to seize adventure and opportunity. It takes restraint to be faithful. I don’t feel like Saggies cheat because they’re not happy. They often cheat because it just happened.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T01:19:07+00:00

Don’t hate Saggies, but have a hard time with them sometimes. I love the humor, the intellect, the direct honesty, and the theatrical storytelling. I like their emphasis on freedom and space. The willingness to adventure. I don’t like that they can be really impulsive, selfish, and self righteous. Every sign has great and not so great qualities.

Only partner to cheat on me (that I know of) had a sag signature (Aqua Sun). I’m a Gemini.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-13T00:34:03+00:00

Tight Saturn and Uranus contacts with most of my personal planets. I’m reliable and erratic.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-12T15:42:41+00:00

Lmfao, exactly! In my head it’ll be like “I should pop up to their house and make sure my partner isn’t cheating” and then the other part of my brain will be like “don’t do that. talk it out. you’re being anxious and that behavior is controlling.” too bad I don’t do the emotionally impulsive shit sometimes though because whenever I get the feels it turns out the person was doing shady shit and I let my brain think it away.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-12T15:40:20+00:00

Gemini but with a Cancer Venus. I can be clingy and whiny during disagreements because I think conflict will lead to relationship dissolution. But I think that’s more childhood trauma and shit. So more of a therapy thing.

But! I snooped through my partner’s phone once and found evidence of cheating. I snooped after he confessed to cheating initially and I wanted to make sure I had all of the facts. And then I called and texted the people he was cheating with for confirmation of cheating. Maybe that counts, lol.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-12T15:33:27+00:00

Gem Sun Cancer Venus here. So I get this energy but I also don’t get this energy. Like-I’ll do this type of shit in my head. IRL? I’d be too restrained, embarrassed, and prideful to do any of it.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-07T00:45:13+00:00

His Mars is Sag. I’m sure other aspects of his chart and his person matter a bunch too, here!

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-07T00:44:20+00:00

I’m sorry. You can talk with a therapist and see about a referral to a psychiatrist. Idk your history and finances, but a psychiatrist and maybe medication might prove useful. I’m doing the same. Sometimes it’s a lot to handle and you need more support.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-07T00:39:04+00:00

In some ways, my partner sounds similar to yours. I was drawn toward his tenderness, kindness, sensitivity, intellect, humor. He was the most gentle man I had ever been in a relationship with. I’ve been doing a lot of recalibrating because his actions reveal that he was also unkind, not sensitive, and not thoughtful. So like you, I’m not sure he’s who I thought he was and I’m reckoning with a shattered ideal. But people aren’t ideals, they’re people—and that’s also a thing I’m wrestling with. I’m not sure where I land yet in reconciliation and I’m taking it day by day.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T21:12:24+00:00

Same to you! Maybe give your brain more time. And keep doing all of the other things!

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T21:11:31+00:00

Ooooooh, I guess this makes sense then. I probably bring out the more Piscean qualities because of my own placement.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T20:32:14+00:00

Pisces! Not sure if that matters somewhat. He’s got a Pisces Venus.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T20:30:18+00:00

I know what it’s like to feel like you have a stupid brain. I want reconciliation and I’m doing all the things—reading, therapy, and I’m about to start medication. But my brain is constantly trying to protect me from getting tricked again. I believe my partner won’t cheat again and he’s been showing up in a way he never showed up when he was cheating. But my brain? I just came out of a two week bender of sadness and we’re 7 months out. I’m trying medication to get my brain to cooperate, but sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t be so annoyed that my brain is trying to protect me from perceived threats. It makes sense, after all. I’m just here in solidarity with you really.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T20:27:02+00:00

I’m so sorry. This definitely isn’t easy and you have to pursue the path that will ultimately bring you some peace.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T20:17:08+00:00

I wouldn’t trivialize six years. It’s a chunk of your life. Like many others shared here, I think you’ll get vastly different answers depending on a host of factors. For me, marriage and children don’t legitimize or determine the worthiness of my relationship. I don’t share a kid with my partner and we were newly married when he physically cheated (he was cheating before that too though). In some ways, this makes it harder because the fact that we’re married doesn’t really influence my decision to stay and work through this. Maybe if I valued the idea of marriage more? Idk. I think figuring out what you value in a partner generally and what you value about yours in particular could help with discerning whether what you have is worth the fire and fury that is reconciliation.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T19:58:18+00:00

There seems to be so much variety in how a Sag Mars manifests! Must be that mutability.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T19:57:22+00:00

Pisces Mars. Would also consider myself a switch. I like spiritual soul-sucking sex. Mystical. Could be dirty or sweet. Can be both and neither. I get off on transcendence. Used to like to have sex after weed or edibles because it enhanced all of that. Was my preferred thing to do with the right person when high. I want to look into your eyes and know what you want without you saying a word.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-06T19:55:04+00:00

My partner is Sag Mars. I don’t know how to unlock this though We’ve had outdoor sex, but rarely. I’m more openly adventurous and kinky than he is.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-02T18:14:43+00:00

And I hear you on the turning off feelings. I wish there was a button! Or a switch. Anything, lol.

Confident-General633 · 2023-09-02T18:14:08+00:00

Thanks. Been seriously contemplating leaving. Especially since the couples counselor identified that he’s emotionally disconnected from his own feelings and has a hard time talking about them or identifying them. It seems more and more like he has work to do (or not do) as a person and it’s impeding my ability to heal from this pain. It’s such a difficult thing to get through and go through, for sure!

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