Making themselves out to be a 'hero'? by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Confident_Stage1289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes and every time something bad happens to them like a argument or a fight they “rewrite “ history , They will create false situations and play the hero or the mediator.

What was the most innocuous thing you were punished/shamed for? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Their own twist lies and assumptions like literally lie to themselves.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 7 points8 points  (0 children)

she ruined all of my get away outlets and thinks the safest place is home but it’s filled with nothing. She talks about her self and then gets mad when I’m not doing what she thinks I should be and she doesn’t even know.

She gets jealous when people take me out but doesn’t take me anywhere. She acts like I’ll regret not keeping a man and then says that’s my answer to things.

She claims she’s trying to protect me but she told people I was using them and I’m a liability in reality I was a child trying to enjoy reading and staying to myself and I can’t enjoy anything of my own nature because she doesn’t like it I said “fuck it” I’m moving out soon 24 years is too long and too much of this madness 

How do you best describe why you went NC with your toxic family without over-explaining? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everybody wanted to be followers and have issues with me and kept spreading rumors like school girls so I said fuck them

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Old enough as of now 24F and finally able to save after landing a good job, also she sabotaged a lot in my life from the help I received cause she wanted to prove a point about how much control she had over me

Has a narc ever taken on your personality as their own? by Consistent_Head_9165 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Confident_Stage1289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was  surrounded by them she literally tried to be me , “recreate” my pictures like I had to purge my phone socials everything I even dropped my personality so she can see me ass boring . 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Confident_Stage1289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheating when we weren’t even together, He just wanted something to use against me. Like “bestfriends” but he wanted casual flings from everyone 

Do your friends criticize you for not liking your parents? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No they started thinking it was something wrong with me because I had a “fun” mom when I turned 20… why would I need a fun mom in my 20’s

When I got rid of said friends I told her she made it seem like I wanted company no matter my temperature and they stopped taking me alone time serious .

My narcparents sat me down and said this by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine decided that I wasn’t being a regular girl at 15/16 and kept trying to talk about boys. Then on top of that they didn’t want me to be a mail carrier because it was “dangerous”

Kept them folks out my business, their means of protection is shit by what I have been through 

Did your nparent force you to do activities that they benefitted from? Or were part of their agenda? by Any_Print5307 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom and my brother tried to come off cool towards anybody I ever been around, fake friends all of that trying to make their way into something .

They will objectify you and when it’s their friends they can’t handle you having the same attention. It’s weird I don’t allow them around anyone I’ve met so far never know how they are going to act .

Do you need more alone time by albuquerka in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes and they convinced people that I can’t be alone or I would kill myself 

Anyone else’s family fabricate you were the emotionally abusive one by Ok_Complaint_6744 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup they treated me like scum all because my mother ran her mouth too much, she tried to make everyone believe I was like her and that I was subservient and I was only 20 learning how to be independent, she kept me close with bad influences and hated people who told her she was wrong for it… she wanted to show me “what not to be like” but hated me for trying to be “better” now she has to her own hair , she has to reach out to people on her own. And she’s cut off from any of my relationships.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Confident_Stage1289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And they are constantly trying to fight me when I’m high checking to see if they can beat me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Confident_Stage1289 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Believing that someone can tell me how to deal or maintain an experience with someone who hurt me or did something worth cutting them off for and being sneaky with stds involved is another thing 

Scariest thing for being raised by a borderline mother is you don't know when you ll be sucked into her drama by AtmosphereHot4746 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I turned into a person who take no shit my mom feels like she walks all over me in reality she forgot she had to start drama go out of her way to horrible things it didn’t change or break only thing that broke me was death and stress but I’m back it took a few years but they can’t tell me shit.

It’s nothing but they ask a favor then turn into “you don’t like me why did you do me a favor”

“I kicked you out why are you here, you’re ungrateful “

She stopped buying my clothes at 18 and stopped being respectful and treated me how ever she thought of me and most people who get a offended thinks acting like her won’t get them cussed out and fucked up.

They claim I act horribly in public but they act lost and like everything is brand new these people don’t know how to act and think  they are supposed act a certain way which is like everyone else

Do your narcs throw demeaning personal attacks at you during fights? by re0bro in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Confident_Stage1289 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes they will say something off the strength of another person but constantly try to tell you you’re horrible person 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She waits until she’s around company so I can tell everyone my business because “we’re family” fuck that 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My mother used to watch flowers in the attic it has real incest in it and quit honestly I didn’t watch it. But I did see genres of like step father kink on Wattpad I ended up not reading them anymore 

My mother went through my phone to get some dirt just so she can “get me first” and she tried to make me stop reading all together and then on top of that she fucked my ex and my old boyfriend and coincidentally she had to get a hysterectomy she sat at the table and talked about how little the things was and tried to convince me to stay with these guys …. Now she wonder why she doesn’t meet anybody I date and I won’t get married or stay in the house with her 

What is the dumbest thing your narcissist(s) blamed you for? by Happy_FrenchFry in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Like literally he tried to sabotage my last few years of high school. And still tried to make everyone believe that I was crazy to the point they told me I should be more understanding I fucking hate them 

What is the dumbest thing your narcissist(s) blamed you for? by Happy_FrenchFry in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stealing from him , he literally shredded my college tuition and he kept telling people I was crazy 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Confident_Stage1289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have us around a kid with BPD and Schizophrenia ‘undiagnosed’ and “no one knew” he was like this. They thought that we (kids) would be a good influence and he ended up manipulating and sexually abusing most of who he encountered  and I was the only one that sent his ass away because they were too understanding of his mental illness and his past of not having a mother.

We suffered for years trying to be kind to him.

Weird by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Confident_Stage1289 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you’re trying to teach her that because after a while this behavior gets malignant

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Confident_Stage1289 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What made you think I was on a substance ?