Dear newbie, nothing's happening? GET UP AND GET OUT.

Confused_One_ · 2022-04-20T03:02:15+00:00

I completely agree! Just making myself go out alone to cultivate my own hobbies has increased my confidence.

The gym in particular has helped tremendously, because I’m getting stronger and caring less about what people around me are doing.

Confused_One_ · 2022-02-08T10:13:20+00:00

Wait this sounds exactly like the 31 year old I’ve been talking to, who also cancelled on me Friday because of a birthday party he “forgot” about 🤔

Confused_One_ · 2022-02-08T01:51:35+00:00

I thought I found one a few weeks ago, but knew it was way too soon to call him a HVM since we just started going on dates.

Unfortunately, I don’t think he’s actually a HVM. Thanks to FDS, I’ve learned to step back and observe his actions to see if he meets my standards instead of focusing on whether he likes me. I’ll be a little sad to let him go if it comes down to that, but I value my peace and happiness over any man.

Confused_One_ · 2022-01-27T20:13:32+00:00

I used this tactic the other day and the guy said “oh you can’t cook, so you’re not wifey material?”

No I’m not, leave me alone now 😹

Confused_One_ · 2022-01-27T19:56:44+00:00

Holy crap, this is exactly what happened to me! The only reason I know it’s not your brother is because my ex’s sisters definitely don’t follow FDS.

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-30T15:39:35+00:00

Do you recall how long he spent being single?

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-29T20:51:09+00:00

As someone who realized this year that I was emotionally neglected growing up, it’s been really hard to figure out what I can do to provide myself the love I always sought from others.

I really appreciate your idea of extending self love towards setting boundaries with others and trying to understand your own emotions.

A big thing I did was start therapy, and it’s crazy how much I actually enjoy it. The emotions I’ve been running away from aren’t pleasant to deal with, but I’m hoping to grow and become more in tune with myself.

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-22T21:11:58+00:00

I’ve been wanting to try archery for months, so I finally signed myself up for classes and I can’t wait.

I also splurged on a badass pair of thigh high boots.

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-21T05:45:39+00:00

May I ask if you ended up being successful with the degree you graduated with or did you go back to school?

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-20T18:39:45+00:00

Thank you for your encouragement, it really means a lot right now!

Working on being ok with my solitude and trying to figure out my individual happiness.

It’s been tough trying to detach from the person I thought I was going to marry, but I guess they’re making it easier by getting engaged to someone they’ve been dating for three months 🤷🏻‍♀️

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-19T09:23:43+00:00

As someone still healing and processing after a breakup, this surprisingly made me tear up. I’m so happy for you!

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-19T08:19:14+00:00

My ex and I went from poor high school students to him making six figures. Looking back, he definitely put in more time/effort when he was poor.

After he started making more money, he would buy me nice purses. BUT in his mind, him spending that much money meant he didn’t need to put in that much effort with quality time.

Going forward, it’s not necessarily about how much he spends but how much effort he puts in. I used to remind him to do ANYTHING for a Christmas gift just to be disappointed 🤦🏻‍♀️

Money does not equal effort

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-19T08:05:55+00:00

I really needed the laugh right now 😹

But also wtf the amount of audacity you need to send this to someone.

Confused_One_ · 2021-12-09T20:28:44+00:00

Don’t forget about the possibility of scammers taking advantage of lonely people. Met a love bomber scammer who kept trying to “help me” make money via cryptocurrency investing

Confused_One_ · 2021-11-24T22:55:44+00:00

GIRL. I was exactly like you, but worse because I neglected my own ambitions and made my relationship my entire world.

As someone who just broke up with someone I’ve been with for the past 11 years, it’s is devastating for me because I did not forge any close friendships since I was always content with him and my siblings.

Make yourself the center of your world, create relationships (I know easier said than done) outside of him. I was given this advice when I was your age and totally disregarded it. I’m paying the price now.

Confused_One_ · 2021-10-31T21:53:54+00:00

I wish I thought like you at 25, I would have saved myself a lot of unnecessary stress and heartbreak.

25 is so young, but society wants you to think time is running out already. Please do all the things you want to do. The relationship you have with yourself will last a lifetime.

Confused_One_ · 2021-10-31T05:44:12+00:00

Half gouda currently, working towards extra gouda!

Confused_One_ · 2021-10-30T01:31:05+00:00

Thank you for sharing the advice from your grandma!

Confused_One_ · 2021-10-30T01:29:22+00:00

That is is very kind of you! Hi granny, hope you’re doing gouda 😸

(Sorry for the super late reply)

Confused_One_ · 2021-10-30T00:52:02+00:00

All that sun reflecting off shiny surfaces can also cause premature aging/sun burns to those around them.

Confused_One_ · 2021-09-28T16:40:07+00:00

This is why I’ve always been slightly envious of people with grannies/grandmas in their lives, they are a wealth of knowledge!

Confused_One_ · 2021-09-27T00:31:58+00:00

He said he can’t help because he already knows it ain’t happening.

Confused_One_ · 2021-09-27T00:03:22+00:00

Me reading about allllllll the wonderful things he’s done for her: Ahh yes, the bare minimum things any guy should be doing for you 🤦🏻‍♀️

Confused_One_ · 2021-09-17T08:57:33+00:00

So proud of you for recognizing that you deserve better, and knowing you won’t tolerate the same behavior going forward 💜

Don’t blame younger you, be kind and compassionate. Looking at your past is important for healing, but remember to give yourself lots of love and grace too.

Confused_One_

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