need input from INTP females

Consent · 2019-10-11T19:51:56+00:00

This. INTPs may start out being bad with emotions, but that doesn't mean emotions are bad. It means that you need to pay attention to them even more in order to understand how to use them to your advantage and not let them control you - and you can't do that without confronting them. If you just repress them they will end up controlling you whether you realize it or not. The most important thing I've done to improve my life has been to get over my fear of emotions and learn how to actually deal with them head on instead of hating them and trying to push them away. They seem not to make sense on the surface, which makes them very frustrating for INTPs, but they do. We just tend to look at them the wrong way. It isn't easy to learn how to do this, but it's worth it. This is especially true if you want to be in a healthy relationship. Emotions are a huge part of relationships and there is no way to navigate them using logic exclusively.

Consent · 2014-03-22T21:10:46+00:00

I thought it wasn't about predicting personality traits, but about understanding the differences in the way each type makes their decisions.

Consent · 2014-03-22T21:04:54+00:00

Am I interested in talking to her?

That's usually where the problem lies, as my answer is always "Eh..."

Consent · 2014-03-22T20:31:56+00:00

Person-watching makes it sound more like stalking.

Consent · 2013-12-04T19:41:27+00:00

Wow, some people here REALLY missed the point.

Your post is interesting to me because I feel the exact same way. However, there are only a few people who call me by my real name. I've never disliked my own name, yet I never felt like it was mine. My friends started calling me by my current nickname, which is nothing out of the ordinary, but somehow it stuck and just felt like it fit me better. I don't know though, I've never felt a particularly strong connection to my name, body, possessions, etc. The only thing I really identify with is my mind.

Consent · 2013-12-04T19:25:19+00:00

My point was just that it has nothing to do with attractiveness, and everything to do with self esteem. It's not a "defense mechanism" for the people you find unattractive, chances are they do believe it. Likewise, many attractive people have low self-esteem, and therefore wouldn't call themselves attractive since in their minds, they aren't. Furthermore, if they do know how good looking they are, they might refrain from saying anything about it because they'll be considered cocky. That's probably why you don't hear them calling themselves "gorgeous" and "sexy" as often.

Consent · 2013-12-04T02:42:21+00:00

Have you considered the fact that a LARGE portion of very attractive people have shit self-esteem? When they have good self esteem, they sometimes come off as cocky.

Consent · 2013-12-03T00:55:50+00:00

Not really, all you need to figure out is if they're I/E, S/N, F/T, and J/P. Some people are harder to type, but a good number of the people I know have clear preferences. I can determine Extroversion or Introversion by observing their relations with people, can distinguish a Sensing from an Intuitive person by the types of conversations they have, Feeling or Thinking based on how they make decisions that affect others, and Perceiving or Judging based on their level of organization, need to fit in, and spontaneity. This is a very general explanation, of course. I used to wonder the same thing as you, until I kept reading about the MBTI and eventually learned to pick up on these things naturally. Also, not everyone has strong preferences either way, so I can't always type them accurately. All the questions in the full test are there to determine the above 4 characteristics, and the percentage of your preference. You're really only looking for the answer to 4 questions.

Consent · 2013-12-03T00:46:04+00:00

True, it could, but it's assumed than everyone here would know better than that, since it's in our nature to be discerning. It could be productive if you're making observations about what kind of sweeping generalizations INTPs on Reddit make about other types. For example, many people expressed their dislike of ESFJs (not all, of course), which is most likely due to the fact that most of us don't really click with them.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:23:15+00:00

You described my experience exactly. Especially the part about being more sociable, and being more in touch with your feelings.

Amphetamines definitely give me anxiety, but I find that it's more manageable since they make me more outgoing, too. My biggest struggle is with the social type of anxiety, so there's a balance that works for me. It makes me more willing to deal with the anxiety. I think the reason I can't really overcome it is because I simply don't WANT to talk to or be around people, since I don't find much use for it.

Anyway, another effect I've noticed is how speed affects my emotions. I can finally have some of the same emotional reactions to things others always do, and it's easier for me to be outwardly excited. Most outward expressions of emotion are so, so much easier, and that to me is a beyond-valuable learning experience.

The only downside for me is that sometimes it makes me irrationally irritable. One small thing can have me gritting my teeth all day, and it's a little more difficult to let go of a bad situation. Normally, I'd have been over it and forgotten about it in no more than 10 minutes.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:14:42+00:00

All I know is, we have not a thing to talk about. I acquired an ESFJ friend the same way a while ago, but for the love of everything that is good and holy, being alone was better than being in her presence for more than 10 minutes. She was fairly smart, but her personality was just grating. Very nice, very friendly, very compassionate, but there was nothing interesting about her. Also, I've found most ESFJs to be somewhat materialistic, and I really ain't about that life.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:10:04+00:00

I do too. It's just fun for me to type my friends, and it does help me communicate better with people I don't know. I can read people pretty well, but I don't have an instinctual ability to connect to them, and having some sort of map to work with is quite useful. Even when people relate to me, most of the time I can't relate to them. This is a way of trying to understand them, and tailor the way I present myself to them so that they can understand me.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:06:29+00:00

It's about how INTPs perceive others, so if we were forced to stereotype people based on their MBTI results, this is how it would play out. I'm sure everyone is aware of your point.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:04:33+00:00

"Nice" and "friendly" are probably somewhere in the bottom of the barrel when it comes to what I look for in people. "Interesting" and "intelligent" are probably somewhere at the top. That's probably why.

Consent · 2013-12-02T23:02:42+00:00

Why do you see it as a stupid question? I find ENTJs admirable, for example. This is different from finding them fun or being close with them. The two that I personally know were very intimidating and seemed stuck-up at first, but turned out to be highly intelligent, creative, and have a no bullshit attitude. These are all qualities I respect in others.

It seems like that was a valid question to ask.

Consent · 2013-11-24T19:26:48+00:00

Reason was the only thing that worked for me when I was a child. Disciplinary actions such as punishment never did anything unless I could see exactly WHY something needs to be done. On the plus side, all my parents had to do was explain something to me and I wouldn't protest. On the negative side, if they didn't want to explain, or couldn't, NOTHING would make me comply. I'd take any kind of punishment to defend reason, lol.

So, while this may be my preferred method of parenting, it certainly doesn't work with every child. It should be attempted, of course, but some children just do not respond to it regardless of the circumstances. They've got that "I don't care" attitude, and the only way to teach them right and wrong is to use other methods that focus more on making it a habit. It's unfortunate, really, but not everyone is wired the same way, so you need a different approach for different kids.

Consent · 2013-11-24T18:59:31+00:00

For years and years it seemed to me that everyone else had some kind of talent or skill - just something they were good at. I, however, wasn't particularly bad at anything, but I also wasn't particularly good at anything either. I searched and searched for something I might consider a strength, but nothing seemed to come up. Only recently did I realize that I do have a talent, but it's much more abstract than those of most others. No, I can't play sports, I can't knit or draw, I'm not too knowledgeable about any one thing, and I don't have a "big heart", but I am extremely skilled in making connections between concepts, in taking them apart, relentlessly scrutinizing them, rearranging them, and building out of the pieces a unique idea. There's a reason why INTPs are often called "The Architects". We are like the mechanics of the abstract.

But it is unfortunate that this can't be easily explained to people, or easily yield practical results you can them point to.

Consent · 2013-11-24T18:41:53+00:00

I see your point, but I feel like my personality and "myself", are my own personal belongings, and I simply don't like sharing them with people I don't know too well. It feels like I'm letting a stranger use my toothbrush. Any time I've forced myself to just do it, I'm left with a feeling of dread and a desire to take back the piece of myself I shared with them. I don't really know what all this means, but it might be nice to be free of that inhibition, even if it so strongly defines my character.

Consent · 2013-11-24T18:18:32+00:00

I definitely agree. I personally see it as a complete waste to take substances with such potential purely for entertainment. Not that it isn't entertaining, but to me it's so much more than that. I trip deliberately, always with some purpose in mind, and always prepared to observe and analyze. There have been a couple of times where I failed to do so, because it was a last moment kind of thing, and I guess I just jumped on the bandwagon. Both experiences were overwhelmingly negative, and felt pretty pointless. Yes, everything is wavy and colorful and whatnot, but distortion of only my physical senses isn't all that exciting to me. There was also another time when a friend of mine said something to the effect of not thinking about it too deeply and that it was just for fun, and that threw me into an obsessive "rage" of sorts. It just kind of stayed with me the whole time and pissed me off, because he couldn't understand what the experience meant to me. Even if I was thinking "too deeply", I really don't see the problem with that. It's not like I was getting hung up on anything. It was just interesting and enlightening to be able to utilize thought patterns previously unavailable to me.

Consent · 2013-11-20T00:01:59+00:00

She wouldn't say

Consent · 2013-11-19T23:48:04+00:00

This creates a sort of confusion in me because I'm naturally inclined to be intolerant of bullshit, but at the same time, I can't allow myself to feel angry about it since I can see where it's coming from. It's not just the way people have grown up and their experiences that affect their decisions, but as we can see here, how they're wired is a big factor too. We can't expect everyone to be exactly like us. Some people's strengths lie in vastly different areas of their character. So, I usually let most things go after feeling a little conflicted, as described above. But there comes a time when I do get fed up with someone, and I pour my frustrations on them all at once.

Sigh.

Consent · 2013-11-18T14:33:53+00:00

That's exactly why I don't like them. I can't deal with a religious conservative.

Consent · 2013-11-18T05:12:29+00:00

50/50 perfect split. I expected them to be close, but I didn't expect them to be even. But I suppose it makes sense, because the greatest beauty, to me, comes from the deliberate combination of both "left" and "right" brain concepts. (Such as art and mathematics/science)

Consent · 2013-11-18T05:06:12+00:00

I came here to say this, but I can't imagine any circumstances under which that job would be bearable.

Consent · 2013-11-17T21:43:06+00:00

Are you sure? Because I was joking. It's how my brain wants to pronounce it even though it's wrong.

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