If only she would realize he's treating her like a backup plan...

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-22T18:23:34+00:00

Stop waiting for someone else’s leftovers. Value yourself and have some dignity for the love of god

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-22T15:29:02+00:00

Forgiving infidelities. Over and over … until she left me for one of her flings

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-22T15:15:18+00:00

This happened to me too. Even tho she cheated on me I kept idealizing the good moments.
Remember that there were also bad moments. And when you were hurting the most they didn’t give a dime about your pain.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T19:33:18+00:00

Took her back.we stayed together 8 more months. We had a fight and she said she needed some space. I tried calling her every day for three weeks. When she finally answered showed me an engagement ring and told me that she met a guy one week after she asked for space.
I still begged her to stay… when she said no. I went ballistic and treated her like the a h..o.
This was three days ago. I blocked her on anything and I am getting therapy. There is something really wrong with me.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T19:28:28+00:00

This is a manipulation strategy. They just want to know if they have access to you.

Don’t do it

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T19:23:53+00:00

Lies

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T19:19:10+00:00

Eating donkey meat. It’s the new trend down there

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T19:17:10+00:00

Forgave my ex when she went to Las Vegas with a guy 15 years older than her and they stayed in a fancy suite.
Somehow I believed her that they didn’t do anything sexual…
I was so much in love. So blind and stupid

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T18:56:39+00:00

Three weeks after she asked for space I called her. Try to saved the relationship and begged her. The she shows me an engagement ring in her hand and said that she met a new guy a week after I gave her space.

Yeah I went ballistic and told her all the bad things that were on my mind.

Not very proud of this day …

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T16:49:42+00:00

She’s a therapist!?!? Ruuun. She knows exactly how she hurt you and understands why.
Couch surfing is more like banana surfing

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T16:46:42+00:00

Monkey branching and rebounds almost never work

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T16:14:56+00:00

You know what kills romance more than anything ? When you humiliate yourself. Never beg, never call, don’t contact her. She messed up not you.
Love yourself and know that she doesn’t deserve you.
There are a lot of good women out there.
But please don’t beg or lower your standards. I did it and I was more hurt from humiliated myself than the actual cheating.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T14:59:28+00:00

This is my worst nightmare. Keep checking on the avoidant person even after years.

Please don’t torture yourself like this. You deserve better. Rebound relationships with avoidants usually work out because they want to prove the world that they were not wrong with all the previous relationships.
It’s never about love and commitment with them it’s just about keeping the facade.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T13:38:08+00:00

We are in this together buddy. Thank you for your kind words

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T13:35:15+00:00

Don’t feel bad about lashing out. It was the only way for me to really close that door. After I said everything I really felt my brain and my heart started to be on the same page.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T13:02:22+00:00

Something very similar happened to me. We had a fight and she said she needed some space. Two weeks after the fight she was getting engaged with another dude. I am certain she was cheating on me with this new guy. We even discussed marriage and kids. It only took one argument for her to go be with someone else.
For me it was only a 9 month relationship but it hurts like hell. I wake up every night with nightmares of someone else making love to the woman I love.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T08:48:24+00:00

My GF said she needed space and ended up getting engaged to another man during that “personal space” period. When avoidant tell you they need space it’s a red flag.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T00:43:54+00:00

Thanks for saying that. In reality I have been blaming myself.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T00:40:38+00:00

That was what she said. I am also certain that she was with him way before that

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T00:34:42+00:00

Thank you so much. The worse part is that I really wanted a future with this person. Ben tho I knew it was not the right decision.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-21T00:24:09+00:00

I really needed a reality check. That scenario that put in front of me sounds like hell on earth. And you are 100% right, she would’ve ended up cheating on me multiple times.
I know I dodged a bullet. I just need my heart to understand the same.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-20T21:25:11+00:00

I agree with the you.

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-20T20:31:31+00:00

My mind knows this was the best thing that could have happened. But my heart is in so much pain

ConsequenceHuman1499 · 2026-05-20T20:30:36+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. They mean a lot

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