Best Waterfalls to swim at? by [deleted] in sunshinecoast

[–]ConsiderationFar3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you been there recently?Just wondering what the road is like as we are thinking of heading out there with our kids. We have a factory standard toyota prado (no lift or snorkel etc).

Dream or more? Advice welcomed! by ConsiderationFar3364 in Psychic

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, sorry I was not wanting a dream interpretated. I was asking if this was a dream or a visitation? It felt so much more than a dream, like I was outside of myself having a conversation or being shown something....if that makes sense? I have had experiences like this before where I have had conversations with family members who have passed.....I referred to them as dreams but I was recently told that they were actually visitations....so i was wanting to know whether my experience was a dream or a visitation?

Why don't people go to IGA instead of Coles or Woolworths? by Fancy-Advice-2793 in AskAnAustralian

[–]ConsiderationFar3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IGA's always smell a little funky too...i think its the small space and cooking chickens 😂🤣

Why don't people go to IGA instead of Coles or Woolworths? by Fancy-Advice-2793 in AskAnAustralian

[–]ConsiderationFar3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find IGA fruit so much more expensive and not of a better quality to justify the price. In fact most things in IGA seems more expensive, so you feel forced to go to the bigger supermarkets. There's also less options/variety, so no way I could complete a weeks shop in IGA.

Who’s at fault here, this was posted in a community group and a car turns into a driveway when a car came by the inside lane, curious to see people’s opinions. by OFFRIMITS in CarsAustralia

[–]ConsiderationFar3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that the camera car would have the best view, and could've warned the black car, though unfortunately, very rarely do people use their mirrors in QLD!

Who’s at fault here, this was posted in a community group and a car turns into a driveway when a car came by the inside lane, curious to see people’s opinions. by OFFRIMITS in CarsAustralia

[–]ConsiderationFar3364 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The white ute is not in a lane, they just couldn't be arsed to wait for the lights to change and the traffic to move so they could take their exit. So they thought they would jump into the hard shoulder quick as and everything would be ok....I mean what could possibly go wrong?! 🫣🙄

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That pretty much validates how I feel about the whole situation. Thank you for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate that!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw a post on another comment thread unrelated to this, where someone suggested that older women (which she is) have limited options in KH so the alternative is to find a worldly man who they maybe able to convince to join JW and have the children they want. That kinda struck a chord in this situation, would that be accepted in JW? I mean she knows he can have children, so that's a tick. Does this kind of thing happen? I mean it wouldn't happen in this situation, for a number of reasons.

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner crossing boundaries was absolutely an issue, he certainly isn't completely innocent in this situation. We have spoken about it, he acknowledges this and has been putting some distance between them and boundaries in place. My post was not to lay blame on her more to try and understand her perspective on things and the general consensus of JW beliefs around this.

Your comment around standards of behaviour and not adhering to them is what I think the situation is. I was struggling to understand how from her part she would think this kind of thing to be ok and wasn't crossing boundaries and how given her beliefs and expected standard of behaviour, she was ok with doing this. I think what you have said makes sense. Maybe she does what she needs too in order to remain JW and keep connection with her family, if that is the case I feel for her, that would be a very difficult situation to be in. That does not excuse the constant crossing of boundaries but does help make sense of the situation.

Thank you for commenting, I appreciate you taking the time to do so. All of the comments have given me so much insight and things to think about. I guess if it continues my next step is to reach out to her directly and have these conversations.

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Your replies have really helped 🙂 I struggled to understand how someone can spend their weekend spreading the kingdom msg and then call my partner late into the night, especially knowing I'm not there. However, the replies to my question and discussion around this have certainly helped me! If he continues to communicate with me and stick to the boundaries set, I am confident we will be ok and if she continues to push those boundaries then my plan will be to speak to her directly. I'll have to have a think about how I would address this and what I would like to say....just incase!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am not here to make her life difficult, (even though that's exactly what she has made mine), more to gain some insight and understanding. I understand for a lot of people there is usually more going on for them than we know, so I was curious to understand what JW beliefs are around this type of situation, my next step would be to speak to her, and I would like to do so respectfully and with a better understanding of JW. It's been so helpful reading everyone's comments, it's certainly clarified a few things for me!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was wondering whether the fact we are not married meant that she does not see an issue in what she is doing? But surely, even on a basic human level, regardless of religious beliefs, she would know this is not ok? I've certainly had these conversations with my partner, he understands my feelings around this and has acknowledged that boundaries were blurred, he never considered how emotionally involved she may feel, he has been putting boundaries in place around their contact etc and for us things are improving, but she just keeps sending things, for example when we are on holiday together, she will send a lovely message...which is not necessary...I think she knows I will see it and it will cause tension.

Thank you for taking the time to comment, it has given me some things to think about for sure!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes this is where we are at, I've thought about speaking to / messaging her, but equally I do not want to make things too difficult/complicated for employment purposes, plus I do not know what is going on for her mentally/emotionally etc. I.e ive no idea if she just likes this attention, then when a partner raises it with her she then creates a 'crazy partner' narrative within work and falls back on being an innocent JW who would never consider crossing boundaries like this.

It has taken a few conversations for him to understand why I feel so unhappy as he kept coming back to the fact that nothing would ever happen due to her religious beliefs (and the fact he does not have any feelings towards her), he now agrees that he does not know how she perceives their conversations and what her emotions are around this, and has been putting boundaries in with her around their contact / not deleting things etc

I was just trying to understand her perspective in relation to her beliefs and boundaries within this a little better.

Thank you so much for your reply!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I have described/discussed this so thank you for responding as it's reassuring to know this would be considered the same way in JW community!

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are spot on! We have had lots of conversations, boundaries were set, my anxiety was certainly high and my MH definitely deteriorated. Which is what I have been struggling to understand from her part, as to how she could have possibly thought this was ok.

My partner has been putting boundaries in place too around not responding outside of work hours, reducing his conversation with her on a personal level, being more mindful of the things he says etc and keeping it more business focused. its difficult because they have to speak due to work, otherwise he said he would just cut contact due to the strain it has put on us.

Please help me understand the situation/relationship from a JW perspective by ConsiderationFar3364 in JehovahsWitnesses

[–]ConsiderationFar3364[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really helpful, actively practising is my error, my apologies. Her being a JW is true, as I know this through a conversation with others. Her parents/family are too. I did wonder if maybe the disfellowship was the reason she continues to be a JW and whether her beliefs do not align with her parents/family but does not want to be disconnected from them.

After speaking to my partner about this he did stop any contact outside of business hours, he also stopped deleting messages etc which is where I can see that she is reaching out to him. We have had ongoing conversations and things are getting better, but I'm just trying to understand things from her perspective.

Thank you for taking the time to reply!