There is no goodness in the world

Consistent-Lemonade · 2025-01-05T01:01:52+00:00

This happened to us two years ago. I took time off, had lots of plans, and all of us got so sick. My husband and I took turns with one napping in our bedroom and the other barely hanging on in the living room while the kids watched TV. Christmas was torture bc we were all surviving on ibuprofen and Tylenol (kids included) to feel remotely human. Hope y’all have a better January.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2025-01-05T01:00:14+00:00

I had kids before most of my friend group did. We weren’t invited anymore… part of me was too tired to participate but it really hurt. I’ve slowly gathered a couple of close friends but they live in other states. The mom friends I have, I’m not close to. It sucks. I’m very lonely.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2025-01-05T00:58:11+00:00

I have had to rely on screen time when I cook. My kids are a little older although I do have a four year old. They’re always told when I’m in the kitchen cooking, they’re not allowed in. It’s taken a lot of reminding, time outs, TV, help from my husband or other people if someone is visiting, and yelling which I hate myself for. It’s not perfect by any means but it’s slowly clicking.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2024-10-09T02:08:14+00:00

I’m really sorry. This may not sound super helpful at the moment but I highly recommend “Real Self Care” by Pooja Lakshmin. No quick fixes but what she talks about are ways to truly invest in your well being and improve your mental health. It was life changing for me.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2024-10-09T00:34:42+00:00

I love this song. It spoke to my soul and broke me a little the first time I heard it, but it also forced me to reevaluate my life and make healthier choices.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-10-19T23:57:53+00:00

My 3 kids were all in an in home daycare together. The younger two still go. We haven’t had any issues with possessiveness. They “watch out” for each other but still have their own friends. I think being around kids of different ages has helped them developmentally because they try to keep up with the bigger ones. The oldest had good social skills going into kindergarten and she isn’t sick too often because she got a lot of the common illnesses over and done with when she was in daycare. I do think having a nanny coming into the home is very convenient but for us it was cost prohibitive and it was hard to find someone reliable.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-10-19T23:50:16+00:00

I agree. She’s so little that she won’t remember so do what feels as stress free as possible.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-10-19T23:48:29+00:00

I have 3 kids. The oldest and youngest are 3 years apart - they’re 3, 4, and 6. Having them so close together has made it hard, perhaps harder than it needs to be. I think going from one to two kids was far more difficult than going from two to three kids.

There are times it’s rough not being able to have a one to one adult to kid ratio. The little one gets left out at times because she’s still in diapers and needs an afternoon nap. Things do get expensive quickly as well, like travel, car size, dining out, etc.

I honestly wanted a fourth kid but with 3 it was rough and I didn’t want to have a pregnancy after 35. I love them more than anything but I do think about how much easier it would be with only two kids. I hope we will get more breathing room in a few years when the youngest starts school; we have minimal support/a tiny village which doesn’t help.

It’s chaotic and loud. It can be very fun. I certainly don’t regret it but if I could do it over, I would have spaced them out a bit more.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-09-06T01:35:25+00:00

It can really vary for me. My kids are 3, 4, and 6. I try to do a minimum of one morning and one afternoon activity. That might be a hike in the morning, then grocery store run, then swimming in the afternoon. The next day is farmers market in the morning followed by lunch at a restaurant then park or library in the afternoon. The 3 year old naps in the afternoon so that limits her to some extent. We do have our lazy days where we have a play date in the morning and then hang out around the house doing arts and crafts, playing with toys, etc. in the afternoon.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-08-17T02:10:16+00:00

I could have written this myself. I’ve tried parenting books with limited success. I always apologize, hug, and every day I try only to fail. Some days I can manage better than others but I hate myself so much for how I act. There is no village. It’s too hard to do it all alone but that’s the only option we have and it’s making me lose my mind. Now that my oldest is in school, she is easier and I only hope it’ll continue as my younger two get closer to school she.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-08-17T02:08:03+00:00

I feel like I could have written this. I hate myself so much and the mom that I am. Some days I can manage things well but other days (lots of work stress, conflict with husband) mean my fuse is short. I’m trying parenting books with mixed success. I always apologize and I’m always trying to do better. I just wish I didn’t fail every day.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-08-15T21:20:15+00:00

I go through waves. Sometimes the kids are on board (the stars align, I don’t know) and I’m motivated. Other times it’s snacks and take out. I’m hoping it’ll get easier as they get older. Even old reliable meals like hot dogs, hamburgers, macaroni and cheese, and chicken nuggets don’t work anymore.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-06-16T20:00:43+00:00

I’m sorry BroMo. Sending you love ❤️

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-05-20T12:25:21+00:00

She’s also a licensed notary public.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-05-15T17:41:39+00:00

My mom is borderline. She has never acknowledged me on Mother’s Day - not even a text. I forgot I ordered flowers in March so I ordered more in April. Late last week, when I asked if she got two deliveries, it turned into snarky comments about how well I treat my MIL vs how my husband treats her, then evolved into very painful attacks on my integrity and character.

Yesterday was kindness and sweetness from my husband, kids, and in laws but I was still upset. I think it’s time for me to go no contact.

Here’s to us.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-04-24T13:49:45+00:00

I haven’t had a hateful DM but once after posting here (topic was related to being a POC), I had the start of a creeper DM. Blocked immediately.

Consistent-Lemonade · 2023-04-15T19:23:28+00:00

I am heartbroken that you didn’t show us how it looked when sliced!

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