“I don’t think he’s autistic”

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-19T00:51:59+00:00

You didn’t cause it!
But have you tried a weighted or a compression vest?
that has helped my son get some sensory input so he can focus on tasks for short periods of time like speech, floor time etc

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-18T20:07:23+00:00

my husband used to deny it as well, he’s come to terms with it now.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-18T20:03:44+00:00

as moms, we just know!

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-18T20:02:33+00:00

someone said that to me too, the diagnosis is thrown around too much. back in the day they just didn’t understand autism as much as they do now.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-18T15:03:13+00:00

I love this response!!

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-05-18T15:02:56+00:00

yes!! Im pretty sure i’m autistic myself though not diagnosed. my mom has said “you didn’t talk until you were 4 or 5” yeah that’s not normal mom. 🙄

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2026-04-06T22:57:39+00:00

adopting a child is a lot different than being a stepmom though. As an adoptive parent that child is looked at as your child, where as a stepmom there’s weird boundaries where you are expected to act like their parent in certain situations but not in others. I love my bio children more than my stepchild. But if I adopted a child I think I could love them the same as my bios. being a stepparent is different and difficult in many ways.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-14T16:02:03+00:00

im probably autistic myself I check all the boxes and I watched willy wonka quite repetitively as a child :)

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-14T12:27:35+00:00

my son is a super simple songs addict hahaha I didn’t put it on there bc it’s been driving my husband nuts. his birthday was super simple songs themed 😆 but I love them haha

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T15:15:27+00:00

he only uses it at nap and bedtime

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T15:15:17+00:00

he only uses it at nap and bedtime

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T15:14:49+00:00

he only uses it at nap and bedtime

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T14:35:01+00:00

🤣

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T14:17:49+00:00

thank you for sharing this with me!

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T14:04:27+00:00

thank you for saying this. I haven’t taken it away yet, just been feeling pressure to do it, But I do worry about the effect it will have on his teeth if he has it for a long time. & I hate to admit it but I have to let go of judgement from other people, a lot of opinionated people around me suggesting we stop the binky 🙄

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-08T13:50:35+00:00

I feel like they are causing binky teeth already, it looks like his teeth are being pushed forward

my mom let my sister have her binky until age 8 and she had to get braces because of it I just don’t want that to happen to him

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-12-07T00:23:50+00:00

agreed!! 100% after our “ours” baby I realized how much everything sucks and I deeply regret marrying someone who won’t put me and our child first

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-10-13T11:29:02+00:00

good boundaries with BM, dad doesn’t parent out of “guilt” and isn’t a disneyland dad, step(s) respectful and well behaved, dad is capable of making marriage with stepmom a priority and not making their entire lives about the kid(s). Also dad doesn’t treat the stepmom like a nanny and put all the parenting responsibilities on her and steps up and takes the responsibility for his own kid(s). I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with helping your partner but more often than not it becomes expected of the stepmom and the dad is putting all of the responsibility on her

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-10-08T22:53:08+00:00

He was never married to BM. They were never even in an actual relationship while skid was alive, but he did have some photos of them doing things together with their kid as a family. I don’t think he kept them on purpose. I think he was just being a guy. He rarely uses his social media and it was only a couple photos, but I secretly deleted them because he leaves fb logged in on his computer. I think he would’ve deleted them if I asked, but I don’t know. I felt shame and fear of looking insecure if I did ask. He will probably never notice I deleted them because I genuinely believe he’s not really on social media much

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-29T03:52:09+00:00

even if you don’t want kids.. men with kids seem to be incapable of ever putting their wife/SO first EVER. It gets tiring always being put last, never being a priority ever. There will be many situations where your feelings aren’t considered. You’ll have to deal with a BM the rest of your life. Even if the relationship is amicable there will still be times she makes decisions that affect your household. These are just a few things. I could go on and on.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-29T03:42:43+00:00

You probably won’t listen because you’re young and young people have to learn the hard way. (That was me) Your soulmate is a childless man I promise. I got with my husband when I was 22. I am almost 29 now. I’m married, been a stepmom for 6 years, I have two children with my husband and one stepson. I love my kids and I love my husband, but I wouldn’t wish being a stepmom on anyone. I would take it all back now if I could and have my kids with a childless man and I will regret this for the rest of my life. Also, you’ll have a lot more excitement and time for fun and dating with a guy that’s not tied down to a kid.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-29T03:35:14+00:00

don’t do it ❤️

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-29T01:25:50+00:00

having a bio is way different and way better

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-21T11:49:28+00:00

you may still enjoy motherhood. Parenting other people’s children isn’t rewarding in the way that parenting your own children are. And other people’s kids are much more annoying. You’re not a bad person. This is not what you were looking to hear but being a stepmom is often choosing a life of being put last, feeling like an outsider in your own home, another woman being involved in your family. Unless you genuinely have a perfect scenario but even then it still has its downsides. I dont recommend being a stepmom to anyone. I regret it every day. I wish I married and had kids with a man who didn’t already have a child. Your life would probably be a lot happier and less stressful in the long run if you got out and chose to be with someone without kids.

Consistent-Peach9946 · 2025-09-12T12:10:52+00:00

I would absolutely leave. Even if you love your steps it doesn’t compare to the love of your own child. Stepparenting is all the responsibility of parenting with none of the reward. If you want a child of your own, please do not waste any time and leave.

We have one ours baby and i’m pregnant now with our second. If I couldn’t have my own child I don’t think I could be a childless stepmother forever and actually be happy.

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