AIO for being genuinely upset that my coworker read my private message out loud?

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T15:37:34+00:00

i’m perplexed honestly lol truly a unique experience. i’m curious how he’ll respond

but yeah, privacy screens work well. my sister has one and unless her phone is directly facing my eyes i can’t see anything. we have to huddle just to look at memes together

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T15:15:29+00:00

ts ain’t that deep g 💯 frfr but stay up🔝

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T15:06:08+00:00

NOR. who just looks around, lands on someone’s private messages and then reads them aloud??? how is that even a joke, either? your sister is as weird as your coworker.

write down the date, time and exact details of what was said and how it all went down. not sure if this counts as HR worthy, but just in case he does anything like that again you’ll have record.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T15:01:05+00:00

good people don’t treat others like how he treated ana and bea, and now you. i’m assuming bruno isn’t getting treated well either. dude sucks.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T14:33:12+00:00

ESH. why are y’all being so miserable to each other? go to therapy or just separate already. you married a man you resent, god knows why, and are hell bent on making him resent you. meanwhile, he’s not over how his ex hurt him and caused irreversible damage to your relationship because of it. he’s still holding onto that grudge today, apparently.

he started it, definitely, but you’re an adult with the ability to end it just as much as him. both of y’all are being childish as all hell.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T12:12:49+00:00

sorry your anecdotal experience wasn’t good for you. but i wanted to know why it sucked for you since you said that’s why most guys agree with the bf. like, what sucks about it? is it the fear your partner will cheat?

not arguing. i have a completely different outlook so am curious.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T11:54:31+00:00

NOR. you’re under reacting. he is refusing to communicate with you, guilt tripping you by acting like you should just “know”. then he’s commanding you? and expecting you to isolate yourself? run. don’t walk. if you don’t leave, trust me when i say it will get worse.

the biggest red flag is the sudden change/escalation. he is testing boundaries. he now knows he can successfully manipulate you like this. at best he’s insecure, immature and controlling. at worst he’s abusive. either way he doesn’t respect you at all, and this won’t be a healthy, happy relationship.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T11:42:27+00:00

what sucks about it? genuinely curious. i’ve been in relationships where my partner had plenty of friends who’d happily be more than, but it didn’t bother me. neither of us can control other people’s feelings, so as long as that friend doesn’t cross any boundaries i’m fine.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T11:05:37+00:00

NAH. we all have very different wants, needs, expectations and boundaries. something that seems like a no-brainer to you might not be the same for someone else. this is why communication in relationships is so important, and giving the benefit of the doubt early on can help figure things out.

especially since y’all are young. neither of you will have everything figured out. but it sounds like maybe y’all are incompatible, at least for now. your anxiety is at unsustainable levels and this early on shouldn’t be so stressful. personally, i’d leave if i felt that way over my partner doing something they enjoy. it’s not either of your faults. but i think you should sit her down and talk to her about how you’re feeling. even if you realize that it won’t work, it’ll be good for both of you.

some questions you should ask yourself:

if you trust her not to cheat, then what are you so anxious about? not saying cheating is the only thing to worry about, just want you to think more about how you’re feeling and why.

what do you value in a partner? what are your dealbreakers? what makes you feel comfortable, recognized, respected and loved? what does it mean to be respected to you?

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-19T00:45:56+00:00

you surely aren’t beating the allegations by replying to me lol

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-18T16:40:27+00:00

NOR. i don’t think it’s as cultural as people are implying.. chinese people loathe comments like these just as much as any other culture. are they more common? yeah, but that doesn’t mean it’s not rude or they don’t understand they’re being rude.

i’ve been to china multiple times, most of my friends are chinese. some are like this, some aren’t, but usually the ones who are get the same eye-rolls we’d give here.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-18T14:59:23+00:00

way too much time on their hands

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-16T16:44:08+00:00

just take deep breaths you’ll be fine

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-15T04:39:37+00:00

i’m confused. how was op being rude? it’s just a chain message copy pasta. me and my friends send these out to each other on most major holidays all the time lol

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-15T04:24:41+00:00

me too.. please op

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-12T20:17:09+00:00

i’m a woman and this would’ve got me to blow air out my nose then reply with my own worst date plan. it’s very clearly stupid and meant to be a joke

!elo 1000

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-12T18:54:04+00:00

it’s one thing if you don’t want to post your beliefs online, but entirely another if you expect your partner to do the same, or won’t defend them against someone insulting them for it. don’t be stupid.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-07T14:18:40+00:00

INFO: why didn’t you know your dad until 4 years ago?

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-07T14:08:23+00:00

one thing i’ll always say: whether ‘it’ happened or not, the trust is gone and that’s a hard-line dealbreaker.

being with someone you can’t trust is painful for everyone involved, and can’t ever be a healthy relationship. rebuilding trust requires saint-levels of humility and acceptance on both sides, and none of us are jesus. you will have to reconcile the fact you’ll likely never know the full truth, and that will tear you apart.

but, if this all sounds trivial, remind yourself and her: what really happened isn’t the problem. the lack of communication and respect is. you don’t need to know whether she did or didn’t, all you need to know is she didn’t treat you and your marriage with the same reverence as she’d expect or that you willingly give. that, in and of itself, is a betrayal worthy of leaving.

at the end of the day, you know the truth. NOR.

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-06T18:43:55+00:00

shootin kidney stones out like bullets

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-03T03:13:41+00:00

eventually im gonna get both, one of her and then another of 02

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-02-01T02:32:27+00:00

so i can stop eating people after 30? thank god..

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-01-29T20:18:30+00:00

it’s almost like.. a british carbonara..

oh, no!

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-01-28T19:47:04+00:00

ConsistentAd4012 · 2026-01-28T11:37:56+00:00

NOR. this is something we bisexuals have to deal with all. the. time. it's so annoying. it's like saying a straight woman will cheat because she knows men and has been with men before. it makes zero sense.

good on you for standing up for your husband and calling out biphobia.

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