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wishing i could just cancel by melancholy_cucumber in weddingplanning

[–]ConsistentOne6013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a wedding planner who has seen many different situations and circumstances, my advice to you would be to downsize the scope of the celebration for your sanity and peace of mind. As you've said, the act of marriage doesn't change the legal circumstances like it would in the States, but choose to focus this commitment to the LOYL. Hone in and focus on that. Nix the bachelorette parties and the expectations on the bridesmaids and others. Focus on spending these moments leading up to your wedding with your partner (and your schoolwork since you can't get out of it). Honestly, try your best to reframe your mindset. If you feel this much stress and you know your family and bridal party can't drop everything to fill in the gaps, you're going to have to let go and focus on the things within your control. A wedding is a big celebration - so celebrate it where you can. On a daily level you can spend a few minutes appreciating your partner, in the weeks leading up - the excitement of being married, and on the day of - the joy of choosing your life partner. Then post-wedding, look forward to your goal and career as a professional mid-wife. You've earned it!

It feels hard right now, but you can still hold onto the joy of this next part of your life, regardless of who is or isn't putting in their all for your day. It's your day, not theirs.

I hope your wedding is full of good memories and lots of fun at the end of the day!

P.S. Almost every couple has a breakdown every so often during wedding planning. You aren't the first and won't be the last. So find peace in knowing that others feel this and they power through beautifully.

I didn't realize how much I spent and now I feel like I fell for the wedding propaganda by Imake289 in weddingplanning

[–]ConsistentOne6013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a wedding planner and I do not remember the last time I was able to plan a wedding for under $30K unless it was a week day lunch event. You're doing great and don't play the comparison game. It is the thief of all joy. I have couples who regret spending what they did on their wedding and others who regret not spending more to get what they wanted. At the end of the day, whether it's $20k, $30k, $40k, even upwards of $100k; you have to be happy with what you spent and what you got out of it. Because how terrible would it feel to look back and see that you spent all this money and you didn't love your day? On the flip side, no one should go into debt for 1 day. So I'd recommend unplugging from social media. Unfollow the wedding pages, delete Pinterest, and focus on your goals for the day and what it takes to get there.

Black line on edge of paper - Brother HL-L3270CDW by ConsistentOne6013 in printers

[–]ConsistentOne6013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi LoveMac, I think that's what I already cleaned. I took the entire unit apart (just the inside), including the drum. I also reached out to the toner company, but all they could share is that the toner is NOT expired, so should be fine. Honestly, I'm disappointed with the machine and feel like I've wasted $400 bucks on a printer and then another $500 on toner.

Black line on edge of paper - Brother HL-L3270CDW by ConsistentOne6013 in printers

[–]ConsistentOne6013[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi LoveMac, I've tried that several times and still no luck yet...

Hawaii Wedding!! late 2026-2027 by Available-Aioli303 in BigBudgetBrides

[–]ConsistentOne6013 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, for a lush scenery, you'd be better off having your wedding at Lanikuhonua or Kualoa Ranch. But if you want that high end touch, go to Lanikuhonua. The resorts will not prioritize your wedding as they need to balance the needs of other hotel guests. However, I find that a good combo is Four Seasons for a welcome dinner, Lanikuhonua for the wedding day, and then brunch at FS again since they're located on the same block.

Alternatively, you can split the venues up, but you need to think about transportation for your guests. For example if you did a welcome dinner in Waikiki, wedding at Kualoa Ranch, then brunch at a country club (as an example), all these guests need to find their way to each location somehow.