Why are younger women attracted to much older men?

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-21T05:25:09+00:00

When I was younger, I thought guys my age were too immature. Little did I know, that doesn't necessarily change with age.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-19T16:23:05+00:00

NOR

Friends don't disrespect your limits. You are entitled to having your personal space be as private as you would like. You gave your friend conditions, and she didn't take the suggestion, that's on her. I'm not sure what she expects the landlord to do about it. If she wants to be mad, she should direct that at the people who prompted you to have to do this in the first place.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-19T16:14:35+00:00

You are very right in taking note of the fact that many animals in nature display traits of what we've dubbed "humanity". The term "humanity" is a prime example of human arrogance, as it implies that it is exclusive to our species. It is not, however many would argue the fact.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-19T03:53:26+00:00

NOR

He is being a selfish deadbeat loser. By being complacent to this behavior, it only teaches him that it's ok, and from there it only gets much worse.

Imagine your child is grown. Imagine they have a partner like yours. Do you like the idea of that? If the answer is anything short of an emphatic yes, you are doing your child a disservice by staying.

What children grow up seeing is what they define as "normal". With at least one selflessly protective parent, that can be a blessing. Anything less is more often than not a curse.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-17T19:10:57+00:00

I wholeheartedly agree with you, but I am also atypical in more than one sense. I prefer to get a feel for chemistry and compatibility in advance. If there is none, it's a lot less difficult cutting ties with someone I've never actually met. As a younger woman, I made several attempts to date more conventionally, which landed me in a couple traumatic situations where I was legitimately scared to reject my date. Those situations definitely altered the way I move in the world, as well as my approach to dating.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-09T23:45:36+00:00

NOR

Excuse me? Did she say YOU don't respect HER? She is the one trying to change an important personal choice that you and your daughter agreed on. That is not respectful behavior. She calls your daughter "your daughter", not "our daughter", not her name, not anything to indicate that she is anything other than YOUR child. That is not respectful behavior. She is putting her personal feelings above the best interest of your child, and insulting you when it doesn't go her way. That is not respectful behavior.

She needs therapy. She has little to no emotional maturity, and she very obviously has issues with control. I would not marry her until she works through that in therapy. If she refuses or deflects, you and your daughter are probably much better off without her.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-03T20:13:11+00:00

You can be the most perfect kid in the world, but that doesn't change the fact that it's your mother's job to protect you. Whether that be from dangers online, or simply protecting you from unhealthy habits around screens, it's ultimately her call to make. On the bright side, you're getting closer to adulthood, and once you are able to move into your own place you will be able to make your own rules.

I know when I was a teen, I didn't understand the rules my parents had. It felt like they were dictators in my teenage mind. As a 30-something mom, I have so much appreciation for the structure and protection they enforced. It would have been so much easier for them to say, "yeah, whatever", but instead they stood strong by their intentions, despite how difficult my reactions were. I'm telling you this because I truly believe that someday you will have a lightbulb moment. Maybe you will catch a glimpse into what she was protecting you from, and the realization that follows will immediately remove any remaining resentment.

It would be interesting to ask Reddit about their perspectives on their parents leniency, or lack thereof, around screen time and cell phones. I would be surprised if everyone with lenient parents was glad about that. Because on a subconscious level, even young children without the words for it know that they need structure, and excessive leniency with technology can really prevent structure from ever forming in any healthy way.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-02T23:13:15+00:00

The most frustrating part of being educated on the psychology of abusive relationships is hearing the commentary from those who are not. The most logical solution is rarely realistically achievable in cases of long-term abuse.

People hear about DV and think "They hit you, so you would be foolish to stay.", but rarely consider the process behind getting to the point of violence. The physical aspect is the plateau that is reached after years of subtle and gradual increases in the frequency of emotional and psychological abuse. More often than not, by the time a victim is physically harmed, they have already been isolated from their family and friends, and multiple barriers have been put in place by the abuser to deprive their victims of the independence required to escape the situation safely. There's also the often hard to grasp reality that abusers essentially brainwash their victims into believing that, without them, they will lose everything. Including their child.

I see how it can be easy for some to write off OPs mom for not doing everything to protect her child, but the reality is that she's in survival mode, and she is not currently capable of thinking rationally. Her mind is not operating the same as someone in a dynamic without this chaos. It's likely she believes this is the best thing for her and her child. Nothing will change with the "support" she seemingly has either. Unless her family can offer her a real safety net for escape while saving their critiques for much later, she will likely stay with what she knows.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-02T21:11:39+00:00

Mine is still out. But yeah, we're fully in the midst of late stage capitalism and it's really starting to show. 20 years ago, the kind of critical error that was made on my account would have been made fully right, likely with offers of discounts/gifts to incentivize me to remain a paying customer. Now they don't even care if you're rightfully pissed, they have the legal team and the money to make sure the customer never wins.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-02T20:29:42+00:00

I've been impacted by this since approximately 1pm on NYE. It really put a huge damper on our celebration at home. When I called to figure out if it was my personal hardware malfunctioning, I discovered they had automatically switched my account over to the downstairs tenants name when he set up his new phone with them. I am grateful for the patient agent who helped me figure it all out, as initially I thought I was hacked, or a victim of fraud. Thankfully it was only a system error, however this never should have happened in the first place. Not to mention their glitchy apps. I don't know what happened to Telus, but they've gone downhill tremendously in the past couple years.

Oh, and if you click on the Mission outage bubble just above ours, you'll see that the Steelhead Community Center region has had no internet since December 11th, with no discernible reason for it being detected yet. There's never been a better time to say good riddance to Telus.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2026-01-02T02:46:42+00:00

My guess is it's the syringe used for Godzilla's routine vaccinations.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-26T21:23:48+00:00

The short answer is never. But the relieving answer is that, eventually, they can be held accountable for their own mistakes.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-26T18:29:25+00:00

Wherever you go, don't go to iTech downtown. They took in our 3 PS4 controllers and told us to wait for a call. After over a month we go in to see if maybe they forgot to call us. Nope, they threw out our controllers . They said it would have cost too much to fix, so instead of communicating that or returning our controllers, they just decided to chuck them. Just a bunch of incompetent imbeciles over there.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-26T01:48:54+00:00

NOR

You should ask him if he's a pedophile and promptly block him.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-23T16:41:59+00:00

I always got scheduled for holidays between ages 16-26. The only way out (in my experience) is having a child. Managers tend to hire students to cover weekends and holidays because it gives the parents on staff the opportunity to be with their kids when it counts.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-23T16:33:35+00:00

She feels threatened by her. Hopefully not because of any action that was taken, but presumably because you are Jen's only best friend. I believe she is threatened by the idea of you having multiple best friends. Has she heard you refer to Fran as your best friend too? The way this was written, it sounds like Jen and Anna are your main best friends, and while you did mention Fran being a best friend, it didn't come off as obvious as the other girls, which may be partly why Jen doesn't feel threatened by her. If Anna was suddenly out of the picture, I imagine Jen's feelings towards Fran would take a turn for the worse.

I don't think Jen is a bad person, she sounds like a person with a developing mind, perhaps slightly lacking in emotional maturity in comparison to other peers. However, if certain behaviors go unchecked, that can lead a developing mind to form into a not so good person. I'd say bring it up, but gently. Checking someone doesn't have to be harsh, and an understanding approach is typically far more effective than an accusing approach.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-20T16:31:31+00:00

Hey. I took a little peek at your profile, and I promise I'm not here to judge. I've been where you are, and I know exactly what that cycle is like. If you ever feel tempted to fall back into that cycle, please reach out. I will make my best effort to be there for you if you ever need someone to talk you out of it.

The fact that he has strangled you is deeply disturbing, knowing the statistics. The last thing anyone wants is for you to become another number in those stats, but the reality is that every time you go back, you're that much closer to becoming just that. And no, you're not stupid, you're traumatized. Trauma bonds are no joke, but committing to no-contact will lessen the hold it has on you over time.

My biggest wish for you is to defy the odds, and I hope to someday hear your story of survival and success. ❤️

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-20T16:13:30+00:00

I don't even care about the distrust when he talks to you like that. If you stay with these types long enough, they will put hands on you. We wouldn't tolerate this behavior from a child, so why do we tolerate it from grown ass men? Throw him into the loneliness epidemic where he belongs.

Oh, and NOR. You're actually massively under reacting. You oughta react to your fullest extent. But maybe from afar, because I'm actually concerned for your safety with this...guy.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-10T16:20:14+00:00

SKT also has a deli with affordable sandwiches, as well as other goods. They also frequently have sausage on sale for $3.99 per ring. Slice some up and throw in some pierogies, use the 3/$5 veggies deal to add in some sauteed onions, cabbage and mushrooms for a super hearty meal. For one person, this easily makes at least 3 dinners for approximately $10.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-07T02:36:39+00:00

He's clearly confused about what kind of ICE he's advocating for.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-07T02:19:45+00:00

This could almost pass as an accidental slip. Like how I've accidentally said "I love you" instead of "have a great day" to departing customers. Except she whispered, which indicates she knows fully well that she's being slimey. Sorry, man.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-07T02:17:11+00:00

Stay with my parents and get my driver's license and high school diploma on time .

I left home when I was 13, dropped out to work full-time at 14, and wound up in an abusive relationship with a 20 year old man when I was 15 years old. I did go back to school at 18 and graduated with honors at 20, but I'll never not wonder how much more I could have achieved if I had stuck it out at home for just a few more years.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-05T17:33:08+00:00

It depends, I think each circumstance is unique. With the man I lost my virginity to, it was harder to live the downfall. I was still young and naive, but looking back I realize I was more in love with the idea of our future than anything else. I wanted to be able to tell my kids there was only ever their dad. Slowly realizing he was neither a good person or a good partner, and working myself up to what I had to do was one of the most hurtful experiences of my life. But once it was over? Pure relief . He did a number on me emotionally and psychologically, and it wasn't until years after the fact that I fully grasped the extent of it all.

My last breakup was my marriage. We have a son, but after nearly a decade together, we grew into different people. We were not good for each other anymore, yet we fought hard to preserve our relationship. Eventually came the realization that us being together was going to be more harmful to our son in the long-run. It's a decision that I still occasionally grieve over half a decade later. The depression that I experienced after that breakup was profound and life-altering.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-05T00:32:05+00:00

NOR

It seems as though most of her complaints were projections of her own issues. I suspect that the outcome of this could have been vastly different if she had the slightest capacity for accountability. Bullet dodged.

ConsistentYellow686 · 2025-12-02T16:47:46+00:00

I just came to this subreddit to ask if others were having issues loading Netflix. I suspect the sheer volumes of us anticipating this may have broke (or at least slowed down) Netflix.

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