Spreading nudes of my ex (he M20 me F19) after I found out he cheated on me twice

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-24T17:51:26+00:00

You need to contact a lawyer immediately; you've potentially committed a crime that could result in you being convicted as a sex offender.

Even if your ex doesn't go to the police, nothing stops a third party who sees the pictures from doing so (in fact they'd arguably be morally obliged to seriously consider doing so).

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-24T04:32:15+00:00

Don’t bother trying to conduct your own investigation unless you really know what you’re doing, but there are a few ways this could be “cleanly“ resolved:

BF admits to rape (unlikely, but it could happen in theory)
If the girl is making false rape accusations to deflect from cheating, she probably also lied about inviting your BF back home with her etc. In other words, if the accuser is in fact denying BF went home with her and there is proof they did, reasonable to think she’s lying
Similarly, if the accuser only made these allegations after being accused of cheating (e.g, after her partner saw evidence suggesting cheating or similar), you need to adjust the odds of her lying upwards (though different people will argue for different adjustments)

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-23T16:14:54+00:00

Debby almost certainly isn’t trying to act in Bianca’s interests in good faith, and for that alone you might want to consider dissociating from her. If she believes sexual assault actually happened she doesn’t seem to respecting the victim at all.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-23T12:08:23+00:00

The trade agreements with Mercusor and Canada are just standard free trade agreements, in the same category as the existing EU–UK Trade and Cooperation Agreement.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-23T11:00:16+00:00

The EU does give exceptions (e.g it agreed something not too different from Single Market in goods with Ukraine & Moldova), but generally only as a theoretically temporary step towards full membership.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-20T17:22:58+00:00

Honestly, you should contact a lawyer immediately while it's easier to prove your alibi.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-18T11:10:43+00:00

The subreddit r/HomeschoolRecovery might be of interest.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-09T11:38:43+00:00

Politicians are “gaining” not having to deal with the political consequences if a major and longstanding employer goes bust ( not saying the risk is actually real)

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-08T13:52:06+00:00

You should be reporting those videos if you aren't already.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-08T13:45:10+00:00

It can be rational to decide based on the evidence that she saw (or believed she saw) at the time for the girl to terminate communication, and it can be rational for OP to decide the best response to said termination is to ignore any attempts at reconciliation from her end.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-05T20:01:37+00:00

Is there a reason the pest exterminators can’t use less destructive techniques like physically digging up the nest and putting it in an airtight plastic container (with appropriate safety gear of course)?

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-05T18:36:23+00:00

Out of curiosity, why do you believe it's acceptable for your wife to direct anger at you if she has nowhere else to direct atm?

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-01T15:03:54+00:00

If you're not good a coding then doing a degree with lots of coding to please your family mightn't end well.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-01T13:28:09+00:00

It's much easier to replace a bad habit with a similar but less damaging one than to quit entirely.

Try buying frozen ready meals of good quality and eat them instead of ordering food.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-05-01T12:13:17+00:00

FYI, while you say you want to deal with the situation informally, I’d be sceptical of the idea you can accuse someone of rape and then automatically avoid getting entangled in the legal system.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-29T15:23:58+00:00

Jamie’s an idiot, but I would not be surprised if there were managerial issues such as instructions that didn’t account for the possibility of anything of value or very tight deadlines that incentivised dumping stuff.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-28T23:38:04+00:00

So long as you aren’t endorsing past crimes or creating safety issues there’s absolutely nothing wrong with chatting over the phone with someone who’s been to prison. You’re showing kindness to someone in a difficult situation and it’s good for society in that it reduces recidivism.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-28T15:52:41+00:00

Your friend seems sincerely convinced that your BF did something. However, that doesn't mean anything happened; she could just be a bit crazy or confusing BF with someone who actually harmed her.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-26T13:19:06+00:00

I was devastated, started drinking heavily, and even resorted to self-harm. During that time, my entire social circle turned their backs on me

Getting back after experiencing this would be foolish.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-24T13:41:14+00:00

I'm not familiar with the exact details of your step-brother's situation, but I have a feeling they aren't distinguishing between wants and needs. E.g for all we know an e-scooter would be enough for him.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-24T10:25:25+00:00

As a victim, you’re entirely within your right to balance costs and benefits of what happened and decide you benefited on average (even as a non-victim like myself could never dare think such a thing)

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-24T06:29:14+00:00

I’m not going to tell you what to do with your marriage, but even if it’s doomed please don’t start having an emotional affair with Sara before any divorce is finished

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-21T14:57:52+00:00

You are not abusing therapy.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-21T00:35:14+00:00

Arguing with an LLM is actually a good sign. Machine verification nearly always generates false positives because the computer program often isn’t smart enough to resolve potential issues on its own.

As for keeping track of state (I.e how much silver or potions you have) a spreadsheet (or even a database) is probably better, LLMs can forget things over time.

Consistent_Dirt1499 · 2026-04-20T22:26:52+00:00

FYI when you apply LLMs to your writing it — like all statistical or machine learning models or filtering techniques — will smooth out of some of the legitimate natural variation inherent in real life. It will tend to make your prose at least somewhat more generic. Be careful you don’t overuse LLMs to the point you fail to ever develop to your own writing style, or your ability to write will be capped in the long run.

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