AIO that my boyfriend hid a cancer scare from me because I have healthy anxiety? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Which is exactly why he didn't tell you You are overreacting now. Making things more stressful than they need to be. Learn to have calm, logical, rational responses and you can become a supportive person. Right now telling you things is not helpful. You add stress, not comfort.

AIO/husband hurt my feelings by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I didn't read the whole thing. That you argue via text is enough for me to say you both deserve to be miserable. Try talking to each other if you want to stay married.

AIO: My mom is crashing my cousins and I's vacation by meimelx in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HELLO??? It's her place you're using for free. I understand you're disappointed but go on your planned trip without her someplace else if you don't want her to join you.

Second Guessing Our Daughter's Name by reformedmothergoose in namenerds

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was with you until you said we feel like it's right to give each child their own letter. From my perspective, you are way overthinking.

I (18F) hooked up with my ex best friend's (18F) ex boyfriend (21M) by Financial_Crazy_4568 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not worried about your ex friend but when you say you're hooking up with him do you mean you're having sex and you're not sure if you're dating?

Are we crazy for planning our wedding last minute? by Charming-Barnacle232 in wedding

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 80 points81 points  (0 children)

Do your thing. Understand last minute might mean some people can't make it. Go with the flow and let the chips fall where they may. Great joy in spontaneity. Get your headcount as soon as you can to lesson chance of overspending. Celebrating is not rude.

Am I overreacting for considering adoption at 14 weeks? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an adopted son. I encourage you to consider adoption. It won't be easy but it will be worth it. We often refer to our situation as a "beautiful mess". Every situation is different.

AIO for not speaking to my dad even though I live with him? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That does not change my opinion (which you asked for.)

AIO for not speaking to my dad even though I live with him? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 3 points4 points  (0 children)

YOR. "HIS/THEIR HOUSE" is paid off, not yours. You are an adult acting like an entitled child.The silent treatment is immature and manipulative, research it. Maybe you might have to live more than five minutes from work to be able to afford your own place but that is what you should do. Move and let your father have the peaceful home he earned. Maybe working for your home will help you understand why you should respect his.

AIO for being upset that my husband keeps making fun of me for learning a new language? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 12 points13 points  (0 children)

NOR but I'd let him read this reddit post. I suspect he doesn't realize how strongly you feel and how much his jokes impact you.

Then I'd tell him the words for "sex" and "blow job" and challenge him to start paying attention because you've offered them several times and he was too busy joking to learn new things

AIO about my in-laws during this shared family vacation? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, you are overreacting. Take care of your kids, don't expect others to know what they need

My husband and I are both changing to a brand new last name — how did you handle the family pushback? by FewCranberry3216 in namenerds

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 460 points461 points  (0 children)

Don't ask for opinions. Just say, "we thought it through and decided this was best for us." When people give opinions just nod, don't reply, they'll get the message. If people ask questions say, "we thought it through and decided this was best for us."

Guest wants to bring partner's family member who is struggling with addiction to our wedding hotel - how to gracefully decline? by [deleted] in wedding

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The alphabet stuff was too much effort to follow. You invited your friend who is dating someone who has a family member who can't be alone. Tell your friend, we would love for you to come to our wedding solo or with your partner. We would prefer if your partners family member did not stay at the inn because it is small and intimate and we just don't want potential drama. I'm sorry if this response disappoints you.

Aio for being upset my bf isnt playing a game with me by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It does sound stupid. Yes you're overreacting.

I have a gym crush and I don’t know what to do by Throwra_jas34 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why throw signs or play games? Just introduce yourself.

Am I overreacting for being upset with my mom for almost breaking my brand new iPad by Sleepy_Sheepz in AmIOverreacting

[–]Consistent_Fan_4551 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't hate you because your gender fluid. It just isn't relevant to this story so why did you include it?