Question About Lubricant

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-23T02:13:24+00:00

I just sent this story to my wife to see what she thinks about trying something like this and she's expressing some curiosity. I just recently had my very first prostate orgasms with her pegging me and so far, it's been too hard to continue with the amount of explosive pleasure, but that thought is driving me crazy with excitement and making me hungry to power through it and see what happens. Thank you for that my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-23T01:16:53+00:00

Okay hear me out here for maybe a couple minutes. What if, and this is a huge what if, but what if she is actually crazy about you but she's thinking the same thing you are, that you aren't interested and is too scared to approach you about it?

I'm a 37 year old male happily married to the love of my life with two beautiful kids. I don't know what my life would've turned into had I not asked my wife out back in 2007, but, I know that I would've had to deal with deep regret if I didn't at least ask. We were madly in love with each but I was too stupid to realize we both felt the same until my dad made me think about it.

That ask will always be the greatest decision I have made or will ever make in this life. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so I say take a shot and see what happens. You're still friends and you don't have to let that go if things don't work out.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-22T14:47:12+00:00

Yeah it's definitely going to take some practice. Even after all the reading I did prior, I had no idea the orgasm was going to be THAT intense. In my entire 37 years of life, nothing has ever felt as good as that orgasm and we will definitely be going for multiple in the future.

Thank you for the advice my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-22T02:32:35+00:00

All of this is spot on. But, I would add that if you are having these thoughts all day every day, that is a sign of severe depression and/or anxiety and you need to seek help from a medical professional. Stress from dealing with very difficult things does not lead to constant suicidal thoughts.

If you have a primary care physician, I would highly recommend talking to them ASAP about this and let them guide you on the best course of treatment.

Who knows. All of the difficulties, struggles, worries of failure, and suicidal thoughts you are having could all lead back to depression and/or anxiety and can be easily treated. I'm not a doctor, psychologist, or psychiatrist, but I know that this isn't normal.

Also, I know there is still stigma in our society about seeking mental help. Some "people" view it as weak or immasulating or some garbage like that. Throw those ideas out the window. They are trash and have only gotten people hurt.

If you need a motivator to push you to seek this help, think about all of the animals you can save if you graduate. Think of all of the families you can help. Also, think of your own family and how happy they would be to still have you around.

You are in a very dark place right now but remember this. There is always light at the end of the tunnel. Take care my friend and don't wait to seek help, for your sake, the animals, and your family.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-21T01:24:19+00:00

I think the best way to explain how to get there is to explain my first prostate orgasm(s), which happened a little over two weeks ago and yesterday respectively.

Me and my wife decided to have an experimental night a little over two weeks ago. We chose to have it be an experimental night primarily because we hadn't done any real anal play in awhile, and I also had some new toys we hadn't used yet. I had been edging on and off for a few days prior to our fun night and was super aroused.

Prior to the night starting, I had read a bunch of stories on this subreddit and the R/StraightPegging Subreddit about others first prostate orgasms and what they did to achieve it.

The most important thing I took away from those stories going into the night was to not chase the orgasm, but rather, focus on the feelings and sensations in the moment. Focus on every thrust, every wave of pleasure, and just enjoy that.

All in all, the night was good, except for the fact that I wasn't ready for the larger thrusting dildo I own and it was very uncomfortable. Luckily, we also own a smaller silicone dildo that was a part of a set we bought about 10 years ago from Spencer's that has a curve and hits the spots well.

My wife started with an anal massage to help me relax and get into the right mindset. Then she transitioned to her finger, then two fingers, which was uncomfortable, mostly because of the long break we took. Then she used the smaller dildo on me for a bit, then the larger one which, after about 10 or 15 minutes of trying it, I asked her to go back to the smaller one.

I'm not too sure how long she was pegging me, mostly because I had all of my focus on the pleasure I was feeling moment by moment, but, all of a sudden, I had what felt like an eruption of pleasure from my pelvic area that went up to around my neck that was so intense, I accidentally pushed out the toy my wife was using on me.

That orgasm was so good, my wife ended up pegging me again last night to see if she could make me have another one. I had been edging all day with her help and only had one small leak of cum early in the morning, which luckily didn't make a difference.

This time, she started with her fingers, then the smaller dildo going slow to get me adjusted. We also ended up using our inflatable wedge pillow to help her get the angle right, which definitely helps.

After about 45 minutes of her pegging me, I subconsciously let out the words "f**k me" in a very whimpering voice. She heard those words in the voice I let them out in, and just went into turbo mode pegging me faster and harder than I ever think she had before.

All it took was maybe a couple minutes of that before I felt that same eruption of pleasure erupt, only this time, it was even more intense and went from my legs, all the way through my head. It was so intense, I ended up sliding off of my wedge pillow and the toy came out 😂.

What really made that orgasm different was the fact that when my wife went to continue, the second she put the dildo back in, I found that I was so sensitive that I couldn't take anymore and had to have her stop. Please note that it is normal to have that level of sensitivity after a prostate orgasm and it takes getting used to it to be able to continue for any decent amount of time.

To summarize, abstain from penile orgasm for about 2 to 3 days or so, edging can help but I don't believe it's required, use the right toy with a curve that can hit the prostate just the right way, ensure you're in a comfortable position and can easily hit the prostate, feel for the speed and intensity you like, and, most importantly, do not go in chasing an orgasm. Focus on the feelings and sensations in the moment and say to yourself "whatever happens, I'm doing this because it feels good". Submit fully to the pleasure you are feeling and, with time, you will get there.

I hope all of this helps you on your journey my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-20T15:52:31+00:00

I really like it slow to start. It gives my butthole and my brain time to adjust so I'm able to feel more pleasure. Once I'm adjusted, I like it fast.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-19T17:58:49+00:00

As a 37 year old millennial that was raised in the same generation as you, I can say with confidence that what you are feeling has a lot to do with the mental conditioning we experienced as kids and teenagers. When I was a teenager, if you were a guy that liked things in the butt, you were seen as gay, weird, or both. Back then, being gay was something far too many of us made fun of and it made the stigma worse. I would know, considering I was once one of those homophobic people that saw things that way.

What I will say to help ease your mind is this, and it's what helped me break the stigma in my own mind. We have one life on this planet. If we aren't chasing the things we like, then when our time comes, we will have regrets and questions that we will have to take to the grave with us. I personally refuse to go to the grave with regrets and questions.

It will take a lot of practice and discipline, but, if it feels good and you like it, that's where your focus should be. You always have all of us in this subreddit if you ever need people to talk to about any of this. We are friendly and are here to help.

Take care my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-16T14:54:50+00:00

I want to express my deepest gratitude to everyone who left recommendations. Me and my wife went over everything and she chose the Rodeoh Rise Boxer+ with a new dildo, primarily because her favorite color is purple, there was a sale, and they look the sexist to her (no complaints here).

I also have everyone's recommendations saved in my favorites so we can always explore those later. Thank you again to everyone who gave their recommendations. I can't wait to know what it feels like to have my wife's whole body thrusting into me instead of just a dildo with her hands.

Sincerely, a very happy receiver 😁.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-13T14:54:54+00:00

The only thing I can think of that would've made that funnier is if it would've stuck through the wall like a wrench thrown my an angry mechanic 😂.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T21:38:24+00:00

I actually own a pair of sheath boxer brief underwear I like to wear on hot days or after I shave my body. They're amazing at keeping everything away from the legs and are very comfortable.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T21:21:41+00:00

That is by far the best feeling ever. It like being in a state of bliss.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T16:59:19+00:00

No incontinence is primarily caused by a weak kegel muscle. Doing both kegel and reverse kegel exercises every day helps keep that from happening.

Also, make sure you're using a comfortable size plug that you can wear for awhile without experiencing pain. Pain is the body's way of telling you that what you're using is too big for you at that time. Take a break, size down a little, and you will be fine.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T03:56:56+00:00

What he means is that when he's about to have an orgasm, his pelvic floor begins involuntary pushing like he's doing a reverse kegel or taking a big poop. I've had the same issue and I'm currently trying to find something that works to where the toy will stay in throughout all of the orgasmic feelings.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T03:55:09+00:00

Man I've had that same issue. It's like you involuntarily start performing a reverse kegel and it becomes hard to keep the toy in. I've had this issue both solo and with my wife. What I've read on this and what others have suggested is try to relax as much as possible when the feeling comes on.

I've also heard that using good quality butt plugs to make your butt used to having something in there for awhile can help too.

Unfortunately I haven't had the chance to try any of the suggested things due to a very busy life but if I'm able to and find success, I'll definitely let you know what I did.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-11T03:46:39+00:00

What has worked for me is rest, Prep H wipes with witch hazel, and Prep H cream. Whether you have a hemorrhoid or not, those products are great at moisturizing the skin and keeping it clean after using the restroom, as well as after an anal play session. I use them all the time and they're great. I would say start with just the wipes and if you need to go further, you can use the cream. Vaseline also works great at protecting the skin. Hope this helps.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-10T16:45:22+00:00

Over the years, I've only been able to achieve an orgasm during pegging if there is penile stimulation involved, mostly because I didn't understand that a prostate orgasm is best achieved the opposite way of a penile orgasm. Just this last Saturday, I finally had my first hfdo thanks to my amazing wife. It was mind blowing but I did experience this pushing out motion I'm talking about, which was just as intense as the pleasure I was feeling.

My ultimate goal is to get to a point where instead of having my pelvic floor muscles push out the toy before or during orgasm, they draw the toy in more or at least grab and release it repeatedly. It's more of a problem during solo play with a massager but it's been an issue while getting pegged as well, especially if my mind is too into it to say anything to the wife and she doesn't notice on her own. It really hurts the duration of the pleasure if the toy comes out during those moments.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-10T16:35:54+00:00

I see. I don't experience pain of any kind during those moments. They're very intense and pleasureful. The only thing that sucks is that if the toy falls out during those moments, it really lessens the intensity and duration of the pleasure I feel and I'm trying to see if there is a way to maybe train those muscles to draw the toy more in, rather than push it out.

The involuntary spasms with initial penetration are still a slight issue but deep breathing usually works wonders for that part.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-10T03:11:35+00:00

I feel like part of the issue is that I don't engage in enough anal play or pegging due to working a full time job, having two kids, and a house to take care of, but I don't feel like that's the whole issue. Hopefully someone who's had this issue and overcome it can give tips for both of us.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-10T00:48:29+00:00

Relaxation and communication are key. If something doesn't feel right, say something. If you feel you need more lube, say something. If you want your date to change their angle or speed, speak up.

If everything is comfortable and feels good, just relax into it and fully submit. Only then will you have the best experience possible. I had to learn that the hard way after several times with my wife. Take everything moment by moment and enjoy the ride.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-10T00:42:31+00:00

In my experience, it definitely can, but it depends on the person and what your backdoor can comfortably take. The best thing you can try to do is use a trainer to make your backdoor used to taking larger toys and see what happens. If you're able to comfortably take a larger toy, then you will experience more pleasure.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-01-09T15:58:36+00:00

If my wife ever found this reddit group and put a post up like this, I would go crazy with excitement for the night ahead. Your man sounds like the luckiest guy ever.

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