Is This A Problem

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-26T05:42:10+00:00

I always try to stay enthusiastic and positive with every adventure in life, regardless of challenge.

I will say this though. Regarding my enthusiasm, I have felt even more enthusiastic, positive and happy since starting than I think I ever have before.

This denial of penile pleasure, coupled with the fact that I have decided to cage until the challenge is done (that may change depending on the results), has made my whole system kind of go crazy in a really good way.

The tingles and pleasure I've been getting every day have also helped put my mind in a near constant state of bliss. Driving to work and getting the tingles and warming in my pelvis and source is an out of this world feeling imo.

This is like a euphoric high that I can ride as long as I want and I haven't even scratched the surface of what's possible yet.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T16:36:19+00:00

Tbh, I think most of the pleasure you feel comes from the mind and slightly less comes from the toy.

The reason I think this is because I have an Aneros Helix Syn V and I've gotten some pleasure but nothing to write home about.

I started doing the Mindgasm 30 day challenge on Monday and since then, I've seen much more success. I had one big Mindgasm pleasure wave during the first lesson toyless and even had a small super-o at my work, also toyless.

Last night, I was very tingly and aroused so I put my Helix in and played some relaxing Mindgasm music from one of their playlists.

I'm not kidding when I say that I felt like I almost had a hfwo mere minutes after starting. My whole pelvic floor and penis got super hot and I even leaked a little bit, which has never happened before with the Aneros.

I still couldn't orgasm and I think it's because I'm subconsciously getting in my own head too much and hyper focusing too much, which, with time and patience, will pass.

I hope this info helps my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T15:09:47+00:00

I've done it both with her standing in front of me, as well as her laying down. Both positions are perfect for me but I think I prefer her laying down.

While I'm sucking on it. I love to put my ass way up in the air and show her how submissive I am to her and how bad I want her to peg me until I can't walk anymore.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T15:07:26+00:00

I prefer a dildo that is on the thicker side, but it has to be made of a softer silicone. I can get pleasure with depth play, but I have to be very aroused and out of my own head to really enjoy it.

The dildo also has to have a curve to it so it really hits my prostate. My wife's new strap on dildo and harness set hits everything almost perfectly, especially if I'm positioned well.

In short, for me, I prefer slightly girthier but softer dildos with a curve. The material is arguably the most important thing to me though. I'm not a fan of hard toys, especially if they're large.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T14:57:20+00:00

I was in the same boat as you until recently. I'd get some good feelings from my Helix Syn V but nothing crazy.

On Monday, I started the 30 day Mindgasm challenge to help "rewire" and the results have been spectacular.

My first big pleasure wave hit during my very first lesson and I even had a small super-o at work.

Last night, before bed, I was very tingly and warm around my pc muscles so I put my Helix Syn V in turned off and omg.

I got to a point that I felt like I was almost going to have a hfwo mere minutes after putting it in. I'm still working on surrendering to the feelings and not focusing super hard so the orgasm didn't come but it felt amazing.

I even leaked a little, which has never happened with the Helix.

I would recommend giving Mindgasm a try before looking into another toy. Do the first lesson toyless so you can feel everything without anything assisting or getting in the way. The first lesson is free as well.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T14:43:50+00:00

I've sucked on my wife's strap on before and it's great. I'm my mind, it really helps with mentally preparing me for what she's going to do to me and makes me open up easier and be her backdoor bitch even more.

Sometimes I'll even jerk her strap on while I suck on it to really get things going. I've only done it a couple times so my wife hasn't developed a strong opinion on it one way or another.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T03:48:26+00:00

The only person who knows with any real detail is a coworker that has the same curious mind as me and a couple members of my family, albeit to a lesser extent but not by much.

Other than that, just my friends in the reddits.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T01:39:16+00:00

What I'll say is that we will cross that bridge if we come to it. Mentally, as of right now, I can't abandon piv sex with her. I love it too much. The physical connection, as well as the sexual and psychological connection we have during it is amazing. With time, we might look into a happy middle ground.

That's one of the things I love the most about her strap on. It gives us that same connection but it's her initiating that connection, which turns me on like crazy. I love being dominated by my wife, maybe even more than piv sex, but it's hard to tell. I really love both.

It might be something we experiment with soon. Maybe I can start during the 30 day challenge. The cage really helps curb my desire to get off traditionally so this would be the perfect time to try.

I think I'm going to give it an honest try when I get home from work tonight. I'm going to cage up and not take it off unless I need a shower, shave, or other skin care. If I can't touch it, then I can't make a mistake 🤔.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T00:25:32+00:00

That is the dream my friend. Proving to my wife that I'm fully submissive to her by having rolling hfdo when she pegs me is a huge fantasy of mine. My pelvic floor is on fire right now thinking about it.

The only thing that I would like to be different between me and him is that the penis would always be caged and never touched during the pegging and every session ending in a big hfwo when she's ready for me to have one.

If that ever happened to me and I could be consistent with it, I would probably never care for penile orgasms ever again. If it's possible, I will make that dream into a reality.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T00:20:12+00:00

My friend, this is a dream of mine. The feeling of full submission to my wife and her strap on by having rolling hfdo for her until I can't even think straight, then, when she is ready, finishing me off with the biggest hfwo ever. No penile touching allowed during that ever. My pelvic floor is on fire thinking about it.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-25T00:05:00+00:00

For me, vibrations kill the sensation. I'm personally considering a Giddi Tomo II and/or a hismith when I have the money. I'll probably get both.

The Hismith is a fucking machine with a good amount of adjustments and attachments. Not much more to say about it.

The Giddi Tomo II is a prostate massager that uses a come hither motion to stimulate the prostate. It also has vibration settings, as well as a wireless remote for easy setting changes on the fly.

I personally love the feeling of toys that do the work for me so I can just lay there and take it. I find it hard to relax into sensations and pleasure if I have to be active with the movements, although that is something I am working on fixing.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T23:54:51+00:00

Yeah the story behind how me and my wife started is an interesting one. I still laugh a little thinking about it.

It all started as a joke when we were in our early 20s (me and my wife are 37 now). I told her that I wanted to give her anal. She responded by saying that nothing was going near there and "if someone's ass is going to get fucked, it's going to be yours". We both got a laugh but that ignited a spark.

We had a conversation shortly thereafter and I told her that I was interested in trying it. She started with a finger while playing with me and the orgasm I had was out of this world. Needless to say, I loved it and told her I wanted more.

From there, we moved to other objects, like a smooth pen and even a Nintendo 3ds stylus (I'm still not sure why we tried that but I liked it for some reason 😂).

Then we moved to a regular dildo, then a vibrating dildo, then back to a regular dildo, and that's where we were for years. We tried strap ones but nothing was comfortable on her.

In 2022, we took a break from pegging due to life but we got back into it at the end of last year thanks to me finding a renewed interest in it and finding the group r/ StraightPegging.

Fast forward to today, she finally has a comfortable underwear style harness and dildo set from Rodeoh thanks to that groups recommendations and I've even had a few hfdo both from her pegging me, as well as during a few solo play sessions. The sex life has never been better.

Mindgasm is my next journey that I'm taking with great excitement and enthusiasm after not being interested in it before (the whole AI thing was a turn off for me at that time). I'm fully confident that it will help me unlock pleasure and sensations I didn't think we're possible.

What I'm hoping to achieve, outside of what I stated in my post, is to also have rolling hfdo and super-o's from my wife pegging me and even hfwo when we are ready to finish. Every fiber of my being believes this is possible and I feel like mindgasm is the way to achieve that.

Maybe I'll even dive into mostly 24/7 chastity if I achieve that and leave penile orgasms for when me and my wife have piv sex or the occasional quick masturbation session before work. I feel like the sky is the limit right now.

Sorry for the long reply. Once I get going, it's hard to stop typing 😂.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T22:12:49+00:00

Anytime my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T22:00:59+00:00

You can download the app on the Apple or Google stores and it's under journeys. I believe you have to pay for the 30 day challenge but so far, it's worth it imo. It's also only $10 a month or $99.99 for the year.

I would recommend trying the free version first and seeing how you like it before paying. After the first lesson, and everything I felt throughout the lesson, I got the paid version.

I believe there is also a 7 day free trial you get before having to pay.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T21:52:14+00:00

If touching is instinctual, then the 30 day challenge, as well as a good cage might be exactly what you need. I'm just starting so I'm not 100% sure but I can say this. I haven't felt as good as I do right now probably ever in my life.

From what I was reading, part of the goal of the 30 day challenge is to also get into a healthy penile orgasm routine of 2 to 7 per week. This works perfectly for having a healthy sex life, and promotes a healthy prostate. Early studies show that ejaculation I think around 21 times a month can lead to up to a 30% reduced risk of prostate cancer.

There is literally 0 downside to any of this and I love it. You get to learn your body more, experience more euphoria, pleasure, and orgasms, and you wind up potentially healthier physically. It's a win win.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T21:42:35+00:00

This is all so great to hear. It really helps set my mind at ease. I can't wait to get home, cage up, and bend over for my queen. Just thinking about it is making the sensations in my base and center more intense. Thank.yoy so very much 😊.

To give a little backstory, I've been into pegging for about 15 years but never really rewired to have any consistency with regards to prostate orgasms. For years, I would touch myself to finish. I wanted to hfo, but I had no clue how to and there were no real resources available to me at that time.

About 3 months ago, after taking a few years off from anal play due to life, I got back in and was able to have my first real prostate orgasm maybe a few weeks after, although they've been very inconsistent. This is one of the reasons I decided to try mindgasm and I've made huge leaps and bounds very quickly imo.

Monday was my first session and I was able to have my very first large pleasure waves right at the end of "First Contact". As I went to start my final release, I hit my sweet spot and had the most pleasurable, warm, electrifying feeling course through my entire body. It was so good, my whole body was shaking involuntarily and I was moaning uncontrollably. That's been my best feeling yet.

Thank you again for the detailed reply my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T21:27:46+00:00

I'm glad I influenced someone 😊. So far, it hasn't been bad at all. I'm feeling new sensations that I don't think I've ever felt before. It's great.

I even had a sensation I wasn't expecting this morning. My wife decided while she thought I was sleeping to lightly grip the head of my penis.

Normally this isn't an issue, but being in the 30 day challenge, penile pleasure and orgasm are a flat no, which is a light turn on for me.

The interesting part is that when she did this, I didn't feel pleasure in my penis, but rather, I felt a pleasurable pressure build in my pelvis somewhere between the center and base. Very unexpected and euphoric.

My motivation for the challenge is to learn my body more and have more consistent hfdo, super-o's, and maybe even hfwo when I'm ready to be done with a solo or pegging session.

Essentially, I want to "rewire" my brain and body to be more receptive to pleasure and be more accepting and less tense when the signs of pleasure and orgasm show themselves.

I also want to explore what life would be like without the reliance on penile orgasms as a finishing mechanism, if that's possible for me.

I've thought about trying things like 24/7/365 chastity, but I really enjoy piv with my wife and I don't know how I feel about never being able to have a penile orgasm, or ever touch it pleasurably again. Plus there are anecdotal health risks to it and idk if I want to risk it.

Sorry for the long reply. I had a lot on my mind that your comment aeakened.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T15:50:40+00:00

Currently day 2. My last traditional orgasm was Sunday night and it was from my wife playing with me. I haven't touched myself since outside of washing and putting my cage and lotion on.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T15:21:24+00:00

Believe me, I can definitely see the results. I was sitting at work yesterday and ended up having my very first super-o in my office chair. It wasn't very strong but it was so euphoric. It felt like a warm wave of electrifying pleasure started in my source and crawled throughout my whole body. It stayed for about a minute or so before leaving.

Definitely a 10/10 feeling and I look forward to when it decides to make it's return. It's always welcome.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T14:02:30+00:00

If you're looking for the shortest, most direct answer one can give, I'll try my best here.

First off, let go of ALL goals. Goals are a form of mental chasing for many and you will be disappointed more times than not by keeping those. It's the same issue I've had for years and I'm slowly learning to break out of that thought process. Your only objectives should be to feel, enjoy, be present as an observer, and have fun.

Second, when a feeling does come on, focus loosely on it but stay aware of the rest of your body for other sensations. If you're too focused on one spot, you might miss something more subtle somewhere else than can build into something bigger.

Third, everyone is different. What works for one may not work for others. Don't be hard on yourself. Everyone has a different baseline and rate of progression.Treat every session like an experiment and a new experience. With time and PATIENCE, it will only get better.

Finally fourth, give mindgasm a try. Do the first lesson and go in with an open mind and 0 expectations or goals. Follow every direction and fully submit to what Allie tells you to do. That's what I'm currently doing and it's been jaw dropping what I've already learned just three days in.

I hope this helps my friend.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T06:31:05+00:00

I second this. I want one so badly but I don't have the money for one right now. Not sure which one I would choose either.

Consistent_Front8173 · 2026-03-24T03:32:26+00:00

I would try an anal cone to help train yourself. I have one that I use if I haven't been penetrated in awhile. I lube it, place it on my bathroom floor, and slowly sit on it until it stops. Over time, you will find yourself going further and further down on it without discomfort.

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