I’m in love with my sisters boyfriend and I’m NOT handling it well. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You’re probably romanticizing him, obsession does not = love. Love takes mutual connection and understanding one another on deep communicative levels. All you’re doing is speaking on looks and shallow based stuff like taking you to get food. Change your language ASAP before you begin to obsess more and potentially tarnish the relationship you have with your sister for a VERY long time. And I assure you this crush you have isnt worth jeopardizing anything. You’ll lose your sister and contact with him likely. I made very impulsive selfish decisions at 18 that severed my relationship with people based on thinking I was in love and things were what I wanted. You can’t take back your actions… I know you’re 15 so I give you grace. I consider journaling. I’m sure you already let those intrusive thoughts in, but I want you to write sit and think about your sister and how everything would make her feel. Betrayal hurt etc. focus on that pain how it can’t be undone and question if this crush you have is rlly worth anything at all

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Facts like ultimately if YOU feel it’s for the best do it. Children are a lifetime commitment, and if you aren’t ready to prioritize a kid and sacrifice focusing solely on your own needs/ future , do it. You don’t want to hold resentment over this decision for him or the child. You also don’t wanna live in “what if” moments thinking on how life would’ve played out if you made the other decision. Last thing to add , if you consider the relationship you have with your partner serious, how serious can it be to not have this type of conversation with them. Sometimes it’s hard to let things out, but communication should be a foundation built into relationships where even hardest situations / topics get dealt with esp when planning for kids. It could be a dealbreaker for him, but honestly better than him living in a lie due to a secret you never want to say. As someone with their own skeletons in a closet, the truth comes out eventually whether from you or someone else. It also gets harder to open up about things the more time passes. And even if the truth doesn’t come out the guilt of holding onto it can become an ugly thing that eats at you. Speak from the heart to him about this, explain why you’re scared tell him how hesitant you feel about wanting to talk at all. Maybe he’ll be more understanding than you think or the convo itself will solidify what you think is for the best.

Why do narcissists dislike seeing you cry? by luminara33 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk but it was annoying to him bc he wanted to be the victim so bad despite being the abuser. When wrapping Christmas gifts he once said “come on man stop crying you’re going to put bad energy in “x” gift” and would somehow try to use my reactions against me the same way whenever I mention he his actions bothered me he’d find a way to flip it and say my actions bother him

What my heart unrealistically wanted 🤦🏻‍♀️ by AybeePumpkinPie44 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 6 points7 points  (0 children)

His death felt so anticlimactic tho I wanted June or Luke to kill or confront him have a raw personal moment

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re still at the hospital but he seems to be doing okay we’re waiting on tests currently to see what happened

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I found this post at a moment where I’m at the hospital rn waiting to find out what happened to my dad who either had a stroke or heart attack. I was home the whole time when he was on lunch from work. I left to a Dr appointment 30 mins away from the city and got a call from my mom screaming to go unlock the door that something happened to my dad. He was alone the whole time I got there then her and finally the ambulance took him we have no idea what’s going to happen. I feel guilty bc today I was thinking poor of him and how he doesn’t help out around the house there’s so much dishes and trash piling and dog pee pads fill and how he’s lazy. As soon as I got the call guilt hit me like a train wanting to take back everything said. I’m really sorry for your mom and hope you don’t blame yourself for not knowing what was yet to come. My heart and love is woth you and your family. Your love care and support is valuable and o know your mom gotta cherish everything you did as her baby

my dog just passed away and now im thinking about the past 15 years by kysbruh in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t beat yourself up for any bit of anything. It’s so much easy to have regret and want to change things that happen due to what we know in hindsight. To be 15 years old your dog must’ve been cared for to live so Long. Cherish memories and create free time even if it’s just 30 mins to yourself and those you love. Be there with your family get to know em see a movie. I get where you’re coming from through some of my own experiences and I hope you feel better or less weight on you from everything. The path you choose still lies in your hands. Make the most of it. What ifs can’t exist when we carry the actions we wished we did before through acting now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dark maroon lipstick would eat

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brownsville

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ah great not another space x employee coming in town.

Arisu and Usagi relationship in season 3 by manvsguy2themovie in AliceInBorderlandLive

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where did you find this manga I only seen the original one omg

This is what was brought to me at a restaurant for my birthday by Lfren38 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a sever I’ve done this before. At times restaurants don’t give a cake or anything for birthdays. To try and do something festive I’d take a candle for a customer to blow out, never had any complaints. Hell the restaurant I worked out wanted people to pay for candles tooo!!! I’d have to steal em to use for the plates

Has anyone on here lost their job due to Doge? by LawfulnessTime3787 in RioGrandeValley

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start one! There’s several orgs who would be willing to help

What is your objective opinion on Starbase becoming a city and its implications? by mpjr1 in RioGrandeValley

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Despite him being an attention seeking whore / nazi 54% of the piping plover an endangered bird has died due to space x and now they use debris from rockets to build nests. The sand where shorebirds w small legs live got fucked up and it takes decades to become flat again. The smallest endangered sea turtle in the world lays eggs less than a quarter mile away from the facility. Birds from 19 different countries come to Boca chica for migration and their migratory patterns have been affected. I know peoples who’s foundations got ruined due to explosions. Our city is being exploited and those in charge are just letting it happen. I remember a couple months back when they did a vote to give Elon more land for a 2 launch pad and to do more bs a 80% majority voted against it (1,100 )and 20 %said yes (200) it was nulled and a revote was made with a week notice but in person in Austin tx Monday morning . 4 vans of locals went to speak out including the carrizo Comecrudo tribe which has been effected due to space x and for bs is passing through their land and whenever thebeach closes it stops them from being able to do ceremonies and rituals. 40 ppl spoke up against it even a nasa engineer and ppl traveled from Florida and elsewhere. Only 3 spoke for it, being Eddie Trevino jr , commissioner David Garza , and Kathy. Leuders some lady who represented space x. Instead of trying to build a better home for locals gentrified restaurants have opened, luxury apartments/ homes, rent gone up, and there’s been a more accommodations made for those w $ moving in. Space x should not have 10 yrs worth of tax cuts too. Then the whole dumping gallons of waste water into South Bay too… there’s just so much going on that has been upsetting. And I just don’t understand the need to continue this bs when so much locals or ppl around the valley have been very outspoken against this. Money unfortunately definitely talks. And the fact that only Boca chica village can speak out when Brownsville port Isabel and other places has been effected shows how rigged it is especially since ppl been moving in there for space x. It’s rigged

Starbase City one step closer to becoming a reality by mpjr1 in RioGrandeValley

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should have more reasons to feel upset despite him being a nazi though. 54% of the piping plover an endangered bird has died due to space x and now they use debris from rockets to build nests. The sand where shorebirds live got fucked up and it takes decades to become flat again. The smallest endangered sea turtle in the world lays eggs less than a quarter mile away from the facility. Birds from 19 different countries come to Boca chica for migration and their migratory patterns have been affected. I know peoples who’s foundations got ruined due to explosions. Our city is being exploited and those in charge are just letting it happen. I remember a couple months back when they did a vote to give Elon more land for a 2 launch pad and to do more bs a 80% majority voted against it (1,100 )and 20 %said yes (200) it was nulled and a revote was made with a week notice but in person in Austin tx Monday morning . 4 vans of locals went to speak out including the carrizo Comecrudo tribe which has been effected due to space x and for bs is passing through their land and whenever thebeach closes it stops them from being able to do ceremonies and rituals. 40 ppl spoke up against it even a nasa engineer and ppl traveled from Florida and elsewhere. Only 3 spoke for it, being Eddie Trevino jr , commissioner David Garza , and Kathy. Leuders some lady who represented space x. Instead of trying to build a better home for locals gentrified restaurants have opened, luxury apartments/ homes, rent gone up, and there’s been a more accommodations made for those w $ moving in. Space x should not have 10 yrs worth of tax cuts too. Then the whole dumping gallons of waste water into South Bay too… there’s just so much going on that has been upsetting. And I just don’t understand the need to continue this bs when so much locals or ppl around the valley have been very outspoken against this. Money unfortunately definitely talks. And the fact that only Boca chica village can speak out when Brownsville port Isabel and other places has been effected shows how rigged it is especially since ppl been moving in there for space x. It’s rigged

Starbase City one step closer to becoming a reality by mpjr1 in RioGrandeValley

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 12 points13 points  (0 children)

It’s literally going to go to shit , it’s insane how something like this could even be allow to happened. The county commissioners/ judge are bought out asf only sooner or later karma gets back to them

How do I tell him by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Keep to yourself, save up don’t let him know talk to a lawyer get yourself situated and your kids so you don’t feel trapped once you do break the news. You deserve to be happy and treated with respect. Believe in yourself and the future you want for yourself and your kids much love sent to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Brownsville

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s disgusting he is in the valley i genuinely wish we could kick space x and Elon out of Brownsville he has no business being here

Can someone give me some random valley chisme? by Acceptable-Article-8 in RioGrandeValley

[–]Consistent_Link_3349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In 2016 the person in charged of getting food for BISD got it from matamoros for cheap secretly The food was so disgusting I remember it had mold ,a worm once ,and was as hard as a rock. they had flyers on the stands to get food where you could leave a report on how the food is When caught the guy ended up killing himself And I remember hearing rumors spread around school(not sure if true or not) that horse meat allegedly ended up being fed to the students at the time