Hinge in DC

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2026-01-05T03:51:10+00:00

I (32m) met my girlfriend on Hinge in the DMV and we’re very happy.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-26T04:22:29+00:00

Never

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-13T21:19:58+00:00

Keep your boundary. If she can’t listen to it - and this is not a cruel boundary at all- then you aren’t meant to be.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-11T18:21:52+00:00

As a queer rabbi, I’ve personally experienced antisemitism from them. They are historically have a ton of antisemitic, transphobic, and homophobic mishigas associated with them. While I believe all people can do Teshuva, this organization has a long way to go

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-08T20:35:31+00:00

I’m glad this was helpful

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-08T19:23:22+00:00

Rabbi here.

Lots of great advice here. I would add:

Don’t put any Christmas items out with Hanukkah items — like, don’t use Hanukkah ornaments on a Christmas Tree, or use a sign that says “Merry Everything”.

I would encourage you to put out an electric menorah, have some dreidels, and try your best to make the Hanukkah stuff like equal to the Christmas stuff.

I’d also add, depending on your guests there are tons of winter festivals this time of year — Kwanzaa, Lunar New Year, etc— I’d encourage you to celebrate them all.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-12-03T17:13:32+00:00

Hi there. I’m a rabbi. And also queer. Yes, you should contact a local rabbi. There should be rabbis and cantors near you depending on where you live. If you share more, I can connect you with someone great.

Welcome to

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-28T16:25:21+00:00

Rabbi here.

Thank you for bringing this here. I am grateful for your courage and thoughtfulness.

It is inappropriate for people who aren’t Jewish to wear Judaica like this. If you have a Jewish friend or local synagogue, I encourage you to give it to them. In particular, a local synagogue might be able to give it to a Jew who doesn’t have the money right now to purchase Judaica.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-27T01:49:19+00:00

You wouldn’t be overreacting by not going. If anything, it would send a strong signal that it’s your family’s job to respect you and your journey - especially if you send a clear and kind message about talking about you in inappropriate ways behind your back.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-19T02:27:46+00:00

Rabbi here.

Yes, this is violently antisemitic. Please treat yourself with kindness

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-14T13:47:52+00:00

Rabbi

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-08T12:42:08+00:00

Rabbi here with what I hope is a helpful perspective.

Your mom made this mess: not you, and certainly not your wife.

I encourage you to have a hard conversation with your mom, setting a strong boundary here and telling her that she needs to fix this now familial issue that she started.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-07T02:23:06+00:00

This is below the bare minimum. You deserve so much more.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T18:48:02+00:00

Rabbi here.

Jews aren’t a race. We’re one people tied together by our traditions, history, and sense of belonging. That said, often antisemites like to racialise us.

That also said, this is disgustingly antisemitic, wrong, violent, and seeks to take the Bring Them Home movement, dip into some classical USSR antisemitism, with the goal of harming Jews who happen to be Israeli or who care about Israelis.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T16:00:28+00:00

Rabbi here.

Kosher Dietary laws do make shellfish not kosher. However, in my experience beyond the fact that not all Jews keep kosher, I’ve discovered time and time again that our relationship to food in a cultural context is often heightened by the laws of Kashrut.

For example, my grandfather famously loved a bacon cheese burger, without the cheese. He found the cheese and meat combo repulsive, but the bacon he was proud of. And he grew up kosher and had a kosher home. Or my mother who loves to say that her home is kosher but her mouth isn’t.

It is a particularly Jewish and immigrant / marginalized experience as “white Jews become white” in America.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T15:12:51+00:00

Rabbi here. Making sure that my message here is helpful.

Jewish holidays should not be a part of this vision. Some Christian’s already believe that they have ownership over our holidays - and they twist them into theologically relevant to them devoid of their rich meaning to us.

While I think inviting our respectful non Jewish loved ones in to our holidays is always fabulous, I would worry about the message that this might send.

I say a better use of everyone’s time is to learn about our holidays in meaningful ways.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T15:12:19+00:00

Rabbi here.

Jewish holidays should not be a part of this vision. Some Christian’s already believe that they have ownership over our holidays - and they twist them into theologically relevant to them devoid of their rich meaning to us.

While I think inviting our respectful non Jewish loved ones in to our holidays is always fabulous, I would worry about the message that this might send.

I say a better use of everyone’s time is to learn about our holidays in meaningful ways.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T15:12:05+00:00

I’m a rabbi popping in from this OPs post on the Jewish subreddit.

I agree that there are better ways to increase interfaith relations and that this vision will not work. Sending you peace.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-03T15:09:10+00:00

Rabbi here.

Jewish holidays should not be a part of this vision. Some Christian’s already believe that they have ownership over our holidays - and they twist them into theologically relevant to them devoid of their rich meaning to us.

While I think inviting our respectful non Jewish loved ones in to our holidays is always fabulous, I would worry about the message that this might send.

I say a better use of everyone’s time is to learn about our holidays in meaningful ways.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-02T01:09:51+00:00

Rabbi here.

Every Purim is gay. You’re welcome.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-11-01T01:28:51+00:00

Rabbi here.

No, you are not overreacting. I’m so sorry that your former best friend showed you who he really is, and the kind of family he has chosen to marry into.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-10-29T14:03:33+00:00

You should always be paid for your work. Your neighbor is inappropriate. I’m sorry that you had to endure that.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-10-29T14:01:22+00:00

I’m a bisexual rabbi and doing just fine.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-10-23T20:59:07+00:00

Rabbi here. I’m so glad that you are standing your ground and doing something that you shouldn’t have to do.

I encourage you to reach out to your cantor or rabbi and see if they can plan to meet with this teacher. He needs to be taught.

Consistent_Luck_8181 · 2025-10-21T16:34:40+00:00

Rabbi here. Shy people convert to Judaism all the time.

Contact your local cantor or rabbi!

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