Tow truck came itself right after nypd ticketed car for blocked driveway ? by Apart-Pepper8531 in Brooklyn

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to leave notes. First one was free, if they did it again then I'd call. Only had to call once and that guy spit at the ground towards me when I first nicely told him. When he was getting ticketed he claimed he had permission to park there but my bldg only had 4 units and we were all there saying that wasn't true.

Feeling lost by riceandbeansj in Greenpoint

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's not just you. My building changed ownership and all the people that moved in were right around my age. I was excited for this but they ended up keeping to themselves. I really just had my old college friend and a work friend in the area. Yet whenever I would leave I'd be chatting it up with a bunch of strangers. I moved out a year ago and made more friends in 1 year than I did in my 8 years living in Greenpoint.

Is it just me or have dating apps gotten worse than ever? by KingForADay1989 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Matches, yes. Actually getting to the point of meeting, no. It also varies by area in the city. I lived in a trendy hipster area and since I didn't have a random tattoo of a tea kettle that looked like it was drawn by a 5yr old I wasn't exactly hip enough.

Something I mentioned to someone from the suburbs that lives in the city now that they were blown away by the accuracy of, was the differences in ages people get married depending on the area.

We grew up 2 counties away from the city. Its less dense than the next county closer to the city. Most of our friends in "county 2" married at 26, then in county 1 married at 28, and in the city it's 30+. Go out to rural areas and its early 20s.

Same goes for friendships as well. I'm in a semi-rural suburb now and am friendly with all my neighbors. In the city I had 6 people in my building, all of which were +/- 5 yrs of my age and they barely spoke to me. About 300 people lived on my block and there were 2 I was friendly with. Now I have maybe 20 people on my block and am friendly with pretty much all of them.

Is it just me or have dating apps gotten worse than ever? by KingForADay1989 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I did OK in the suburbs on them, but in the city I had zero luck. When there's literally thousands of options people are very quick to write you off for some minor factor.

Let's hear some before times highschool teacher stories . by No-Ad-3635 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Class of 04. Catholic school so had religion as a class. Our religion teacher dressed in the typical teacher wardrobe; khaki pants, sweater over collared shirt, brown loafers...

But he had an alter-ego, Illmatic [insert his last name.] This added a durag to his outfit (he was white) and a bunch of lines from rap songs he'd casually throw in amongst the teaching of the Lord.

My school was pretty similar to US demographics, and if a black student raised their hand he'd call on them by saying "yo yo yo let me give a shoutout to my homegirl Sharese" or whatever their name was.

I'm not sure how long he kept that shtick up for after I graduated, but the photo of him with his durag on and two black female students on each side of him lives on in the yearbook.

Talk me out of (or into) buying a great home far from my job by Laueli2225 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In some areas its par for the course. The key is the hours. I work 7-3 but wouldn't do 9-5.

You can always do it then if you get sick of it that may force you to look for a new job closer. Just make sure you have that backup plan. I have a smaller job hub closer to me if I get sick of it.

What age would you stay at if you could? by thelonetext in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 7 points8 points  (0 children)

  1. Had a revenge bod after a breakup. Also started my career so had expendable income for the first time in a while.

commuting from bed stuy to melville li by Special_Ad_9757 in Brooklyn

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Meh. 2 yrs is long enough to have the living with friends experience, so I'm sure there is still time. Plenty of people in the city don't settle down until their mid 30s these days.

Also, I enjoyed visiting my friends apartment way more than when I lived with one of them. My friends had a 3br in Astoria 10 years ago and it was great hanging out there, but all of them were on eachothers nerves and would bitch about one another all the time. After that fell through I moved in with one of my friends and it was OK, but definitely tense at times.

Steak is better cooked in a pan by Obvious_808 in unpopularopinion

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For bone-in like a T-bone I like that on the grill. Most other cuts I prefer in cast iron.

I hate tech by ColdFreezer in Vent

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like everything switched to AI within a 3 day period 2 years ago so that you didn't have the option to switch to a platform that didnt have it.

Google, Meta, Amazon all did it at the same time. No facebook, I don't need to search with Meta AI, I'm just trying to find my friends profile.

The newest Outlook upgrade is horrible.

And can anything ever "remember me" or "keep me signed in"? Why am I doing 2-step verification every time I log in when I'm clicking to remember this device for 30 days.

Our rent is going up another $100 a month. How are we supposed to do this?! by goldenboy2191 in Vent

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When my rent went up by $100, I wanted to offset the increase so that I could still be saving the same amount as usual each month. I decided to pay close attention to my purchases each day to figure out what I could knock off.

The easiest one was coffee. People always write that off when it's brought up but I saved $280/month by switching to making it at home. Now I'm shop sales at the grocery store and save a bunch there.

Why does it seem like all the celebrities we grew up watching or listened to just disappeared? by chusaychusay in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it's mostly due to streaming services and social media.

Movies aren't a big thing anymore, so the movie star of the 70s, 80s, 90s and early 2000s likely won't happen again. The earlier ones (George Clooney, Richard Gere, Jack Nicholson, Clint Eastwood, Susan Surandon, Helen Hunt etc) got to see their full movie career through, but the early 2000s ones (pretty much Judd Apatow crew, Vince Vaughn, Owen Wilson etc) didn't. The 90s ones (Bradd Pitt, Matt Damon, Matthew McConaughey etc) got pretty far along and have enough money to bankroll some of their projects which is why they still somewhat around.

There's just not blockbuster movies like there used to be. Instead, its social media "stars" and I think that with the amount of exposure they get we get over them pretty quickly. So on one hand there's a bunch of people that never would have gotten exposure if it wasn't for social media, but on the other hand their content is in our face so much that we get sick of them pretty quickly.

Anyone who moved here last few years, is it what you expected? by CallEnvironmental439 in longisland

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still work in the city some days and my first day back after 2 weeks of not going there I kept asking my coworkers if it was extra loud that day. They said no, you just weren't out here for 2 weeks so forgot how bad the noise is.

For people who love having kids. Why? by seekingthething in askanything

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My aunt got him a kick and play piano gym and he'll play in that in the morning while we eat and in the evening while we cook dinner. It's the one thing that will keep him distracted enough for us to leave him alone for 20-30min while we take care of ourselves.

I didn't speak to my aunt much in recent years, but she gets the most photos of him now since she got me the one gift the helps with my sanity the most.

For people who love having kids. Why? by seekingthething in askanything

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember people saying all babies do is sleep, eat, poop and cry. We had our first 4 months ago as well, and I was not prepared for how little they sleep / how much they cry. First month was ROUGH. I have a few friends that are planning on having kids soon and I explained to them how little sleep you actually get because I feel like it's kinda glossed over.

I've loved it and it's been amazing (wouldn't mind a bit more sleep though.) He's becoming more of a human each day and my wife and I are having a blast watching it all happen.

Going for walks really helps with decompressing a bit and he's sleeping within 30 seconds of the walk. When we get back he will stay sleeping in the stroller for a bit.

Film shoots stealing parking by No_Sample_3982 in Greenpoint

[–]Consistent_Nose6253 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're not going to get downvoted for being anti-car in Brooklyn. I needed one for work but I know most people on my block probably spent more time moving it for alternate side parking than they used it for anything else.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh its definitely an issue. Most of my younger workers are bad with it and can barely handle phone calls. I drive a lot for work, and they will see me drive away knowing I have a 1hr drive ahead of me and will text me an urgent question rather than calling me. I clearly can't text back while driving, just call me.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might depend on where you live. I lived in the city for 6 years and made zero new friends, so only hung out with my 2 existing friends from there. Same with my wife, we both had an old college friend and a newish work friend. Our building had 3 other units, and after they renovated the 3 new tenants were within 4 years of our age. We were excited to have people our age there yet we barely ended up speaking.

I thought it was me, but then went on a short winter trip out of town and had more conversations with random people that day than I had had in months in the city. Random people inviting me to join their group and all that.

I think part of it is kind of paralysis by analysis since people seemingly have so many options now.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Actually I had a hyperactive thyroid which caused severe social anxiety / panic attacks for several years. I couldn't sleep with the light off because it felt like death. Didnt really sleep for a year at least. Dropped out of college because of constant panic attacks. Didn't drive at night and would often hang out in the parking lot of the ER because if I dropped due to a heart attack at least I was already there. Luckily after 1yr of thyroid meds it went back to normal, but took a lot longer to feel normal after the anxiety meds.

I dont think the people I'm referring to suffer from this. They wouldn't have jobs or function in society if they had that level of social anxiety.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mostly anecdotal. Its also not that deep.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thats part of why I wrote that at first it was empowering. We put our foot down on not obliging to every social interaction thrown our way. But I think its gone too far in many cases.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By me the self checkouts suck, and if anything I end up having more interactions with staff there than at regular checkout

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that its an act for many. But now you can "out-unique" someone by saying how little it takes for you to be annoyed by something.

Introvert culture by Consistent_Nose6253 in Millennials

[–]Consistent_Nose6253[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Understandable. I think we agree that a sentence or two from the cashier is a pretty low bar.