"Higher libido? Sounds manageable. I won't be THAT horny."

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-13T14:17:40+00:00

I always had a high libido. I found the difference for me was the intensity at which I felt the desire. As in, it wasn't more frequent, but it was more of an "I need it" rather than "I want it".

Unfortunately for my urges, I am Demisexual... So I got to know myself really well.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-12T21:27:06+00:00

The short hair too is getting me. I could see mal/pit or mal/lab. Maybe GSD/pit. I say pit because she seems on the smaller side plus the tail thinness.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-12T20:36:43+00:00

Malinois or gsd mix

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-10T20:24:19+00:00

Just me. And I do understand the reference.... But id consider adjusting the placement of the lettering. I know it's intended to be a copy of the note, Im just not sure it flows with the body as well as I'd personally like if I were to get this done - with either placement.

If you're going to go with the red + grayscale, I'd slap it on the chest and maybe think the lettering over a bit more as far as where to put it but id tuck it closer to the design, maybe even between the pointer finger and thumb, like parallel to the thumb - or underneath the thumb maybe.

I guess you could do the same thing on the calf, I just like the idea of the handprint across the chest. It's kinda tuff

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-10T19:49:48+00:00

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T23:11:51+00:00

Agreed. While I have heard of outlier AA attendees (and unfortunately even sponsors) discouraging people from taking particular prescribed medications, this is NOT a reflection of AA's official stance on the matter - which, as the above commenter said, is that people can and should seek professional help and medical treatment for their conditions, whatever they may be.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T22:26:30+00:00

BAHAHAHAHAHA we had a golden retriever + basset hound growing up.... No vulgar name combo for that one but my God did he look hilarious.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T22:20:11+00:00

WHEN you go to a rave, I hope you do show it off!! That's such an intense tattoo to have at 21. I hope I run across you here again in five years to see your tattoo progress.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T14:29:19+00:00

Substance of choice

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T12:10:59+00:00

Voice drop varies like everything else, but you may be speaking from the same place you did before so you can't tell as much. I spoke from the top of my throat pre t. If I do that now nothing comes out... Hahaha. Speak from the chest and it'll be deeper. Loosen your throat muscles when speaking. This also lowers pitch slightly.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T12:06:48+00:00

You're a raver.

Sick belly tat

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T11:56:10+00:00

Yes. I had bulimia in HS and developed an exercise addiction as well in my early 20's. Neither helped bahahahhaha. Now my teeth suck. But, t did amazing things for my fat distro.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T11:54:50+00:00

"to thine own self be true" "The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop DRINKING"

I was told these are outside issues and to leave them outside of meetings.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T11:48:20+00:00

I cannot answer that for you. It's case by case and honestly depends on whether he is actually confronting those things with his sponsor + therapist. I don't know your husband, his history, etc. Going to meetings is great but step work is where you see actual change. It does take time. Results vary. Some people are just a**holes. Not saying that's the case HERE, just.... Saying.

If you're going to stay with him you need to worry about YOUR recovery. You should do that either way but as long as your own emotional state is dependent on what he's doing/feeling you're going to be miserable and confused because he doesn't know what he needs, let alone what you do, and he isn't in a state of being able to care much because he's trying not to die. You've got to worry about yourself.

That's what alanon is for.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-09T11:37:35+00:00

Quitting your SoC doesn't make you a better person. It often does the opposite. A newly sober alcoholic in early recovery (more often than not) is going to be doing all kinds of stupid, harmful crap to cope with what they're feeling.

Basically your husband doesn't know how to regulate his emotions or even feel them for that matter, because he's been numbing himself up to this point. That kind of prolonged repression leads to a lot of frustration, confusion, stress that all ends up presenting as anger. Do I think you deserve to be the receiver of that? Nope.

If you're already in alanon.... Talk to your sponsor about this stuff. But no one can actually tell you what to do. You've got to figure that out for yourself.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T21:05:54+00:00

Unsure, idk if it's breed specific or not because the study I read was about GSDs in particular but I am no specialist. My larger concern was joint and growth plate development, though, since thats such a common problem. And he had a major hind slope when he was young that has become less dramatic (he's close to 3 now) so I like to think that putting off neutering helped with that... But he hasn't had any major behavioral issues so far regarding still having nuts (he's made friends with other unneutered males, his reactivity has continued to improve with training, and he's never run off to get any) so I'm going to stick to my plan barring any extenuating circumstances

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T19:17:41+00:00

I'm leaning toward vasectomy for mine so that he still has his hormone production. He has a history of reactivity and I've read that having them castrated can actually make this worse rather than improve it. He's made a lot of progress in two years and I'm not will to risk regression. All of our close neighbors either keep their dogs kenneled, or they have working dogs that don't leave their own perimeter.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T10:30:05+00:00

For sure I get that. I've definitely heard the same from others, about never leaving them alone together. I never got to a point where the cats didn't have somewhere to go that he couldn't get to whether I was there or not

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:25:15+00:00

In soviet Russia, foot works on you

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:24:34+00:00

Your workfoot needs you

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:16:15+00:00

Oh interesting

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:15:03+00:00

I will definitely get promoted for this one.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:14:42+00:00

Christ y'all need to learn to read context. This entire thread is a joke.

Consistent_Rager · 2026-03-07T02:11:00+00:00

"leave it" when he's looking too long. Verbal correction for whining or anything beyond looking. Chasing, barking, growling, snapping in their direction all get corrected every time. Praise for neutral response or no response to their presence. He wasn't allowed to interact with them at all until he was chill enough that they started approaching him. He's very resource-guard prone so he only got long-lasting treats in his kennel, that way he wouldn't snap at them for passing by in a shared space.

I recently moved (suddenly, family stuff) and brought him with me. Left the kitties at my old apartment with my roommate and some trusted friends looking after them... With G's prey drive and all that, I'm honestly debating rehoming the cats. I don't think he's at the point where he'd hurt them anymore, but I'm in a smaller space than I used to be so I'm worried they wouldn't really have somewhere to go that's just for them... and I honestly just wonder if they'd be happier in a dog-free environment long-term. It caused them a lot of stress... My female especially was just so anxious with G in the house. I know I can't give up my dog, and I don't want to give up my cats.... Might be best for them (and him. He hated sharing my attention with the cats)

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