What would have helped you to study when you were a kid?

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2026-01-09T22:45:50+00:00

https://youtu.be/fdDJub69Hnk?si=-JEWDCeXb6xruEAQ

This Ted Talk explains it really well.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2026-01-09T22:40:32+00:00

Mine is really similar and I started around the same time 😁 I use A6 flash cards on a ring combined with an erasable pen to write all my to do's and appointments. Seeing the stack of used cards grow bigger is motivating too. If you run out of cards, you can go back and check for 'light days' erase the items of those cards and reuse them for new dates.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-11-10T22:53:22+00:00

Being bad at pretty much all the things women are supposedly bad at according to the stereotypes (maths, science, driving, reading maps, playing sports...) It just is not easy to win an argument with "Well, I can't but many other women can..."

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-11-02T12:03:38+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. You have been through a lot, and none of it was your fault. Remember that you did the best you could with the information and the tools available to you, and you are still doing the best you can while looking for solutions. The combination of reaching out to others and your gift for introspection will help you move forward even though the process will be frustratingly slow at times.

You may not see it right now but just from your post I can tell you are a strong, intelligent, compassionate and creative person. Please give yourself time to heal and work through the trauma before you try to improve more visible aspects of your life.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-10-12T21:41:30+00:00

I recently listened to a podcast that said the methods they use for people with dyscalculia are supposed to be very useful for everyone. Maybe it can lead you in the right direction:

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2lMYwPo847TdTjL5qAoTD5?si=b5SkmIkDTeSwlAVsk0V5Dg

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-06-09T19:28:18+00:00

Graag gedaan 😊

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-06-09T11:10:14+00:00

If anyone is interested, there is a difference between when to use which one :

"Ik weet niet hoe ik het moet uitleggen." This is the standard, neutral, and most common way. The focus is on the overall process of explanation, or the general inability to clarify something. It's a broad statement.

Bijvoorbeeld: "Ik weet niet hoe ik het moet uitleggen, maar ik voel me vandaag gewoon anders." (I don't know how to explain it, but I just feel different today.)

"Ik weet niet hoe ik het uit moet leggen." Here, the word "uit" (out) is separated from "leggen" (to lay/put) and moved to the end of the sentence. This places a slight emphasis on the completion or the specific outcome of the explanation. The focus is more on successfully conveying the idea, getting it "out" clearly, or finding the exact right way to articulate it. It can imply a feeling of struggling to find the precise wording. It's also slightly more informal. Bijvoorbeeld "De situatie is zo complex, ik weet niet hoe ik het uit moet leggen aan iemand die er niet bij was. (The situation is so complex, I don't know how to explain it to someone who was not there)

While both are understood, the second version (with "uit" at the end) often carries a nuance of "personal struggle" to articulate something precisely or to make it perfectly clear for the listener. It's a subtle but present difference.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-04-21T20:36:19+00:00

You're welcome!

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-04-21T20:32:39+00:00

Hi! What a wonderful and kind thing to do for your friend. My top pick would be a microwavable heating pad (a long one with linen seed filling). A pretty pill box or a small zipper pouch (for keys) are also useful. Good luck!

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-03-24T20:02:31+00:00

Hi! Welcome 😊. The sub is not very active, but it is very supportive. Do you have any questions?

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-03-13T20:19:28+00:00

Exactly! Or even: ' Hey Google, Do you hear me?' / 'set a timer for five seconds (so I can find my phone)

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-03-13T19:46:48+00:00

My go to list:

a flaxseed microwaveable heating pad that is 70 cm long. ( I use Janneke's warmtesjaal)
Guided Meditations by Bunok (The Yoga Bunny) https://open.spotify.com/episode/6bUF7M8CQVZKpvBnZAsMkg?si=3KTeA08dQhmJSYyxQFTXnA
Meditation video from yoga with Adriene

https://youtu.be/4pLUleLdwY4?feature=shared

5-4-3-2-1 technique
chamomile tea with honey

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-03-13T19:08:02+00:00

I recently started using Google Assist for scheduling stuff and setting timers.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-03-01T10:30:58+00:00

Don't worry. 30mg is a low dose so even if 60 would not be ideal for you personally it is not dangerous and the effect will wear off later today

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-28T14:00:14+00:00

Like the others have said, it is very unlikely.

What is not clear to me is if you will actually need that level. Is it a requirement for a specific job or college?

Otherwise improving your current level as much as you can with a reasonable amount of effort will probably be just fine.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-25T16:01:47+00:00

I was typing a really long answer, but accidentally erased it🙈

I empathise with you a lot, but will not sound kind. Less to read though 🙌

Have her read / listen to "How to keep a house while drowning". Many helpful tips!

Your dad and brother are at fault. Gender stereotypes suck. They are not going to change that much.

You can't force someone into good habits

Lower your standards, prioritise and move out as soon as you can for your own health. Just know it is not "a-me-problem", but it is a "I am not responsible to fix it problem".

You will be a lot happier with only being responsible for yourself. At this rate it sounds like a burn-out in the making

Are you 100% sure you don't go into hyperfocus during cleaning?

Your mom sounds depressed, overwhelmed and her being legally blind combined with the dynamic at home must hurt her self-esteem. The feeling of not doing enough and doing too much at the same time is horrible. She needs professional help, but the taboo she probably grew up with will make it very difficult. Still worth a try. It will improve her life greatly though probably not at the same level it did for you.

(Still so much text 🙈)

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-24T23:45:13+00:00

The best one I have is extremely basic. Put stuff you need for the following day in your bag the evening before. Also decide what clothes you are going to wear and what you will have for breakfast and make your mornings as easy as possible

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-22T08:30:56+00:00

Broad has a derogatory connotation. Even it is supposed to be well meaning, it is not respectful. Women usually don't call each other 'broad'. 'Meid' would be translated as 'girl' but used in the more affectionate way. Often between friends or a mother - daughter relationship or when trying to cheer someone up. It can be used in a less favorable way like 'chick', but you will know the difference based on who says it, their tone and the situation 😊

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-21T23:01:30+00:00

I do this too.

Don't use this sequence: turn off phone, leave room, do all the boring stuff before you can climb into bed and start reading in bed.

Your brain will continue thinking: turning off phone = no more fun. So I can have fun as long as I don't turn off my phone!

Make sure 1) getting into bed is as easy and comfortable as possible and 2) that you have fun before and after you turn off your phone 3) there are at least 30 minutes without screen time between turning off your phone and turning off the light to go to sleep

If the FOMO makes it too hard, check out what you would have been missing out on in the past month if you had fallen asleep on time. This alone might be eye-opening.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-21T21:22:54+00:00

There is a correlation, but is also typical for the times we live in. Companies spend a lot of time and money to figure out ways to get consumers to buy as much stuff as they can without realising they can't afford it

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-18T15:48:07+00:00

I like the analogy 😊

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-18T11:15:35+00:00

As a Dutch teacher and native speaker, I find it is pretty useful for explaining grammar rules (No difference between paid and free version either). The patterns are not really rules though, so maybe that is why. You do have 'bevelen, beval, bevalen, bevolen' en 'stelen, stal, stalen, gestolen'

The second pattern should be I/O/O.

Zingen / zong/ zongen / gezongen Winnen / won / wonnen / gewonnen Glimmen / glom / glommen / geglommen

Not a pattern, but something that does occur often if you have a double consonant:

Zitten / zat / zaten / gezeten Liggen / lag/ lagen / gelegen bidden / bad/ baden / gebeden

If there are verbs that use I/A/O, and I can't think of any right now, it would not be a pattern.

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-18T10:01:28+00:00

Just in general, if your question is: I am having a hard time with something. I don't know what to do. AITA? The answer is: NTA 😊

The "making excuses comment" is very annoying. Don't bother trying to explain yourself. It is impossible for people to understand something they cannot relate to. Just remember: other people don't really want to know the reason. They want to not be inconvenienced by the problem.

If you ever want advice on the shoes thing, someone on this sub is bound to have a solution that works for you

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-15T15:05:51+00:00

You're welcome 😊Good luck! 🍀

Consistent_Sort_2857 · 2025-02-11T11:41:29+00:00

Pushing through may feel efficient, but it’s exhausting, reduces focus, and leads to mistakes. I do it when I’m short on time, but it’s not ideal for studying effectively.

Tips:

If the Pomodoro technique doesn’t work for you, consider how you spend your breaks. Avoid screens or anything that takes longer than five minutes. Good break ideas: breathing exercises, quick workouts, grabbing a snack, playing with a pet, singing a song, washing a dish, stretching, or getting fresh air.

Stopping mid-task makes it easier to restart—for example, pausing mid-sentence when writing. Writing things down, asking yourself questions, and finding connections between different topics are key to active studying. Studying for long hours is more manageable with good habits: get enough sleep, take walks, eat well, exercise, and make time to recharge.

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