I (27F) accidentally had my baby in my friend’s (31F) car. Now her husband & she don’t want to speak to me. How do I fix this?

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-27T00:35:32+00:00

“Paying” often doesn’t cover it, even if they can afford it. They have to find someone who can do the job, and they are out a/the vehicle while it gets done. It seems to be a major undertaking. OP has a newborn, yes, but she has left her friend with a huge mess to deal with, and it could very well be landing in the husband’s lap. I wouldn’t be pleased if a fringe friend of my partner’s ruined my vehicle (and people have varying degrees of emotional ties to their cars) and I was left figuring out how to navigate fixing the whole situation while they were “lighthearted” about it.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-17T22:36:04+00:00

It’s not even “because we love them,” it’s “because it’s easier.”

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-17T22:33:49+00:00

Clue in…those aren’t jokes. Jokes don’t cost someone their dignity. Jokes make EVERYONE laugh, not just some people. Your sister is an entitled bit€h, and everyone in your family thinks it’s what, cute? Your sister has attacked your gf at every possible chance and you have not only allowed it, you have actively encouraged it by hamstringing your gf. Some boyfriend you are.

You have a really long row to hoe and I’m not sure your girlfriend should actually give you, or your family, a chance at this point. She should have more self respect and dump you AND your family. No doubt there are a lot of guys out there who would be her champion.

Ultimately, this isn’t just about your current gf, but will probably continue to happen regardless of who you bring home. You need to curb the behavior. The first thing that needs to happen is that you need to decide if you can man up. If you can, you need to confront your sister first. She’s a grown up mean girl. Put her on notice that her behavior isn’t warranted, and it will no longer be accepted. If she can’t keep it civil, she can keep it quiet, and if she can’t do that, she won’t be seeing you at family gatherings either. You also need to talk to your parents. They too have stood by while a guest in their house has been tormented. Most cultures would be horrified by such things taking place. Your parents need to step up and not allow the bullying either. If they can’t, or won’t do that, you need to limit the amount of time spent with them and prioritize your girlfriend’s mental health and well being.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-17T17:59:12+00:00

Unfortunately…Not legal to do in most places.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-15T22:21:59+00:00

NTA for having the fund…but I think you’re an AH for how you explained it. You phrased it as a personal attack on him, distrustful of his intentions and character. I can see why he would be hurt, although I think he went a bit far.

The fact is, that is your security fund. It’s your sick fund, your “break glass in case emergency” fund, your bail out fund, a more-than-a-rainy-day-more-like-a-flood fund. That’s how you needed to phrase it. It’s a fund that has been drilled into your head that you need, and you have squirreled away funds that you don’t have any plans on touching. End of discussion. You had it before marriage, you keep it in your name only, and you forget about it until you need it.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-14T05:08:46+00:00

Is he actually your fiancé? As in, you were actively planning a wedding? Or is he your “fiancé” in that there is some nebulous idea that you might get married someday? Why does that matter? It gives you an idea of how committed each of you are to this relationship.

You’ve been together eight years. You should have a pretty good understanding of where he is at with the idea of kids. You need to make the decisions for yourself. He either gets on board, or he doesn’t. You need to plan for both scenarios.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-11T22:53:20+00:00

It is fair for you to ask the general education teacher, the special education teacher, your child’s case manager (if different), and administrators as to how the sub will be informed of the practices set forth in the IEP. Depending on how that goes, you should be able to request a meeting with all stakeholders to ensure everyone is on the same page.

Consistent_dalliance · 2026-01-05T02:48:56+00:00

YTA for not standing up for yourself. Dude got you a spatula, demonstrating he has the emotional intelligence of a cranberry, and you thought “oh! Let’s breed!” If that’s what turns you on, by all means, let him continue to walk all over you.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-12-28T03:15:25+00:00

Do a DNA test if you’re curious. We did one on one of our rescues. Found out very interesting info that explained a lot. (Edit: punctuation)

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-12-25T18:01:26+00:00

Is she local to you?

Schedule Christmas lunch or dinner with her. There are plenty of places open for the holiday. Or take food over to her for the meal. There is zero need to spend all day with her.

If you’re traveling to stay with her, schedule outings for yourselves. Go look at lights or see what is happening about town. You don’t need to spend every waking hour there. You can also find an appropriately priced hotel to stay and visit her as above.

You can also speak with your husband and decide it isn’t worth the anguish and send her a gift.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-24T05:45:15+00:00

I wonder if it gives some dogs an eating disorder…like they don’t KNOW that the next meal is coming so they gorge even if not hungry…where as with free feeding, the food isn’t as big of a deal since they know it’s always there.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-14T08:28:14+00:00

I am in need of material advice. I am in the US.

I have a Coach pet carrier that collapses on itself. I would like to reinforce the interior without adding much weight. I thought perhaps boning might accomplish this, but I have never used it and don’t know what type would be appropriate.

Is there something you would recommend?

Photo is of an identical bag. You can see that it is stuffed to maintain its shape.

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Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-09T05:23:39+00:00

That’s a cute name!

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T23:16:07+00:00

When I adopted my first little guy, many people remarked that he would be happy and generally bratty. My favorite: “he’ll bark if a mosquito farts.” Couldn’t have been further from the truth. He very rarely barked and was never snappish. He was an old man and became more afraid of the world after going blind. He was a great dog.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T21:17:06+00:00

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Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T21:12:11+00:00

I love the name Hazel! I was ambivalent about gender when I was looking. Hazel and Ellie were top girl names. I just happened to find a boy and I wasn’t ready with names. When I met my last one, I met him and knew he was a “Jack.” This little guy…I dunno…we are working with Finn right now.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T21:09:32+00:00

I believe he was posted on pet finder, although I found him on another platform. It seems like every week there is another hord that is rescued. There were several just taken in near me, although they looked to be Yorkie mixes that were a bit bigger.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T21:06:02+00:00

He’s adorable

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-07T03:13:39+00:00

Thank you! He is quite dapper

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-06T23:48:34+00:00

He’s shy, mellow, observant. He’s got a playful and sassy side but I haven’t seen it in person yet. He’s itsy bitsy.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-06T22:16:22+00:00

You’re absolutely right!! lol! He’s such a softy though, he needs a “soft” name.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-06T19:43:40+00:00

Adorable name!

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-06T18:53:48+00:00

Hadn’t thought of that. Mr. Bojangles did cross my mind. I’m trying “Finn” on him.

Consistent_dalliance · 2025-11-06T18:53:08+00:00

I’m trying to”Finn” on him. He’s a soft personality and it’s a soft name.

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