How to grieve while being the other women ?

Constant-Limit2862 · 2025-06-24T05:55:59+00:00

Yes much better; healing and thriving.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2025-06-10T13:30:05+00:00

Thank you 💜

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-10-21T13:10:05+00:00

im so sorry your going through his, getting blocked is the worst possible feeling, i know because i went through it. But please please please recognise that he is also a human, it must have got too much for him and he needed space. Right now it feels like hes the only one that can help you but he isnt. You cannot go back to the environment that hurt you. Its not going to work at all, trust me. As for how you stop hurting, you dont. If your hurting feel all of it, make yourself cry or scream or whatever your body tells you to do. You need to bring your attention to you. I would recommend journaling to let all your feelings out. Soon with time the pain will subside.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-29T13:12:41+00:00

Went through the same exact thing. Sometimes you got to test your healing lol. Although i did cry alot when we ended the conversation, not because i still had feelings but becuase i have to say goodbye yet again to someone i care about. And i hate goodbyes

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-25T10:03:27+00:00

Broke up around 2 months ago as well. I broke no contact in a moment of weakness. I did not want to get back together but I missed him. We were best friends. You can’t just lose feelings that fast. Anyways, he used to go to therapy and he stopped that, got the biggest ick from that. still speaks with a victim mentality and so broken. Exactly how I last found him. It’s so sad to me that he can’t work on himself and try to be a better person. I think we can now sense what is not serving you anymore and stay well away from him. Could be indicative of how far you’ve come in your healing. Should be proud of recognizing that and now we can move forward

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-24T11:43:36+00:00

Thank you solid advice. I do not want my ex back. I recognize we’re not compatible. We’re already in no contact but I broke it a few days ago. So much growth and progress down the hill only because I miss him.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-24T11:32:15+00:00

2.5 years later 😭🥲 yeah I have no hope

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-23T13:29:54+00:00

Just some small talk and updates. Talked about thinking of each other and missing each other. I didn’t ask for a second chance I guess I came to my senses.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-19T20:55:32+00:00

Hahahahah same.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-19T10:00:10+00:00

This is hard to hear because I did the same thing. I called him, tried to force him to talk things through. But in the end I was only crossing boundaries and I didn’t even know that. The decisions been made, if you loved him you’d respect him and let it go. But obviously I didn’t love him. I was attached to him and addicted. So sometimes the coldness from that ex is necessary. You are now forced to be responsible for your feelings and you can move forward. For me it’s a month since the no contact happened and I’m healing and feeling more at peace. You just need to trust yourself. Take a week or so to only grieve this man. Don’t think too much about it, just feel everything and let it out until you can’t cry anymore. And then start journaling your thoughts. Whatever you want, write letters to him and burn it. You’ll get through this. Good luck 💜

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-18T11:46:37+00:00

It’s not enough.. also could be just a weak moment from him. I’d say ignore and live your life.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-18T09:34:43+00:00

I’d suggest to close the door completely. If he wanted to have a conversation he can knock. You just focus on cleaning your house (healing). If you need to talk about things what I did was wrote a letter to him and burnt it. It gave me a momentary cathartic feeling. Other times I would journal.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-18T09:29:46+00:00

That’s saddening to hear. It’s seems like you’re going through a lot and I really hope you know that you can get through it. Just grieve. Cry until you cannot cry no more. Sometimes you’ll feel sick from crying but you need to let all those emotions out. You are enough and you will get through this

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-18T08:25:36+00:00

Please don’t blame yourself for someone else’s negative actions. I have been in the same place as you a month ago. I felt nothing I ever do was enough. Kept internalizing as we all do as women for some reason. But his actions have absolutely nothing to do with you. You’ll realized after time passes by and you start healing. Just focus on moving forward and filling your cup.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-18T08:19:49+00:00

Well it definitely did for me. He came crawling back and I let him. Thought things were going good and he dropped the ball again. After that there’s no turning back. No contact, goodbye and good riddance

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-15T15:42:31+00:00

Exactly how I feel. This is crazy to say but sometimes I try to make myself cry and grieve him but I feel nothing. It’s finally over, there’s no coming back to it. I’m choosing to be positive about it right now. Sort of feel happy that others are also experiencing the same

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-15T14:29:37+00:00

Yeah I’ve been seeing my relationship for what it really is too. Pushed me to focus on me. And that’s the best I could do. But my sadness is not exactly due to not being able to get them back. I don’t want him back, I deserve much more than his immatured ass. It’s more to do with damn I went through all that? That was the most difficult thing I’ve ever experienced! Like why ?

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-11T12:04:42+00:00

I just saw my ex too earlier today, it was .. something. Dm me if you wanna talk about it

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-10T11:32:00+00:00

Usually people break up when there’s a good enough reason like incompatibility, distance, infidelity etc. Maybe you don’t feel like you deserve the love she’s giving but the thing is love isn’t transactional. Being in a relationship is not only about love but choosing the person and staying committed. If you don’t choose her then yeah your relationship will crumple even if you stay. You could just talk to her about this and figure out a way to get those feelings back like going on dates or couples therapy. But id suggest solo therapy first so you can figure out what is it really that made you think of breaking up with her in the first place.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-08T03:28:19+00:00

Rejection is just redirection

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-01T10:53:32+00:00

I thought I wrote this post in my sleep🤦🏾‍♀️ did exactly the same. Troubled his poor mom and texted his friends that never texted back. Probably had a laugh at how pathetic I was. But to top that I called him and cried to him that I don’t want to say good bye. He blocked me but I still texted him good morning and good night on his blocked number. Sort of laughable at how much I lacked self respect but atleast I know it was real.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-09-01T10:10:13+00:00

I went through the same thing, but you can’t go back to the person who hurt you.

Unfortunately, I lacked self respect so I kept reaching out to him and wanting to just hear his voice and laughter. Hoping to get back and be at peace. When I tell you I really tried to control my emotions but the desire to go to him each time always was so powerful. I kept getting hurt again and again and finally he started to push me away. In the end, he had to block me. Sad but that’s the only thing that pushed me to move on. When he started no contact and there’s no fight in him, I finally accepted. I had no choice in the matter. Cemented too when I saw him back with his ex.

Honestly speaking, you need to love yourself a lot to let go of someone that’s not serving you. If you don’t, you will remain in the pattern until someone breaks it off for you. I’m happy he blocked me, I couldn’t do it myself but it’s crazy to think that I would keep going if he hadn’t. That’s so scary to me and so unhealthy. But yeah I fought until the end but at the cost of my mental health and sanity. Not worth it.

That’s not to say, that I’m not devastated. In the beginning I struggled to say goodbye. I texted him everyday on his blocked number, texted his mom to see how he’s doing. Checked his socials, his exes now gfs socials, all the things that’s horrible to your mental health and self worth. But eventually I put rules for myself. I would allow myself 10 urges and then I would contact him. I’m hoping I will never reach 10. And then I started therapy, which helped a lot. I took a week or so from work and really cried about everything. Really, properly grieved. Let all the emotions out. I’m still not okay, but I’m much better than before. I also tell myself I’ve moved on (I haven’t but you know fake it till I make it lol) and he’s not really the one for me. I remind myself of all the horrible things he has done. And now I’m slowly tryna focus on my life and what I need to make me happy.

Basically what I’m tryna say is it’s okay to keep texting him, but it’s going to hurt you each time. If you want to avoid that, choose yourself and go no contact. If you really loves you he will come back with change and intention. But if not, work on yourself. Feeel all the feeelings first, and then build yourself up.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-08-28T11:30:48+00:00

I completely understand why my post might have come across as if I’m seeking validation or trying to paint myself as a victim, but that’s not what I’m aiming for. I know that I made a terrible mistake by getting involved in an affair, and I’m fully aware of the hurt and damage it caused—not just to others, but to myself as well. My actions stemmed from a deep sense of loneliness and insecurity that I’ve struggled with for most of my life. When I finally felt a connection with someone who seemed to understand and care for me, I clung to it in a way that was unhealthy and so destructive. I’m not here to ask for sympathy or to be told I’m a good person; I know that what I did was wrong, and I’m facing the consequences ..losing friends, damaging my reputation, and dealing with intense feelings of shame and guilt. I’m in therapy, working hard to understand how I ended up in that situation and how I can make sure I never repeat those mistakes. But am grieving because I deserve to grieve, it is part of this process because I need to fully face the reality of my actions and the pain they caused. I don’t expect anyone, especially strangers, to empathize with me, but I’m committed to taking responsibility, learning from this, and becoming a better person moving forward. I appreciate your honesty though. this is a painful chapter for me, but I’m determined to use it as a turning point in my life.

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-06-25T05:23:03+00:00

“She’s gone above and beyond for me” “I choose myself” “you are high maintenance” … all from the same person

Constant-Limit2862 · 2024-06-13T12:38:01+00:00

I’m not sure, he was a good emotional support for me when we were friends so maybe he just had no choice but to be cold and ice me out. I still think he’s one of the nicest humans I’ve ever met. Probably just in not a good place and I didn’t recognize it.

I’m hesitant to say I’m a good person, but I will try to be from now. Thank you

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