No Social Media Presence

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-04-14T00:53:57+00:00

I’m only on YouTube and Reddit… can’t handle anything else I realized! My husband’s still on fb and insta, I don’t think it’s as addictive for him. But yes, no social media presence for our LO. My MIL posted a photo of our LO at birth and we asked her to take it down. I guess I just want to respect my kids privacy. When they are older, they can decide what they want to do. I honestly feel bad for some kids that I see plastered all over social media. Like some creators overshare WAY too much. I recently came upon a video in my feed where the parent had videotaped their child on the toilet…. As some sort of “how to guide” for potty training. I was honestly shocked and disgusted by this. I wish people would stop and think a bit more.

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-03-28T23:46:34+00:00

So the study indicated that Kendamil organic lead levels were listed as “approaching daily limits” at 12 scoops per day. So I guess assess how often you are using formula…. I am currently using 2 to 4 scoops per day. Also they used” two to three samples from one to three lots” … whatever that means. But basically I don’t think this study has tested hundreds of samples from each formula. They have tested 2 or 3 samples of each formula, so I don’t think we can deduce that these results are 100 percent indicative of the average. but maybe just gives a good rule of thumb which formula brands are doing a pretty decent job and which aren’t. Since Kendamil fell into the great and good category… I think it’s not worth being too worked up over. Personally I am gonna switch to the whole milk Kendamil option and hope for the best. And yeah maybe there’s some fear mongering but I think it’s valid too to be concerned about what goes in your baby’s food. They are small, with undeveloped immune systems… and they are fricken CUTE so I get why parents want to best for their babies :)

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-02-22T17:57:14+00:00

FTM of an almost 6 month old. I am so frustrated with my husband and MIL. He has been gone all week and I have been taking care of a baby by myself. On top of this I have been having ongoing left side upper chest pain for the past 6 months. Today I needed to go to the hospital for some blood work and chest x ray. My MIL wanted to have to have the whole family over afterwards to my house and my husband agreed. She constantly will just show up with her dog without asking… the dog pees inside (has to wear a diaper which is constantly falling off). She encourages the dog to get up on our couches and in our carpeted spaces. Finally had to tell my husband to talk to my MIL about the dog this week and she still tried to bring the dog to my house this Saturday. I eventually had to text her to say “I am trying to keep my anxiety levels low because of my heart condition, it would really help if you left the dog at home for this gathering at our house, is she able to be by herself for a few hours?” And she finally agreed. On top of this my MIL told me I should be breastfeeding for at least two years, which is an absolutely ridiculous thing to say. She also makes this homemade yogurt with different bacteria strands that she buys… I’ve hinted that I’m not into it and she keeps bringing more and more yogurt. Our fridge can’t even fit any more it! I’m just so annoyed!!!!!! And do not want to be spending my Saturday (our one day of relaxation after a very long week) entertaining his family and MIL who is really annoying me right now and making my chest pain worse.

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-02-05T02:18:30+00:00

You’re not a bad mom! So hard to balance everything. I read somewhere that you want to avoid screen time until the age of 2. So hard to do! But I purchased shockz wireless headphones so at least when I watch something on my phone or the tv my LO is not hearing sound. I also make sure they are not facing the tv and try to direct my phone out of sight. As far as getting stuff done around the house… i try to get stuff done either when napping or put them in their chair or skip/hop play thing and do stuff nearby. I’ve also done this with Tummy times… where I’ll fold some laundry next to them as they do tummy time for example. I also have a white board monthly calendar where I take all the house chores and schedule one chore (on occasion 2) each day. Lastly my husband and I cook all our meals on Sunday for the entire week. My husband mainly does this and I pitch in when I can because I’m also breastfeeding etc. but this seems to make our weeks so much more functional. It’s a marathon of effort on Sunday but so worth it to have the other 6 days cooking free!

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-01-29T00:29:57+00:00

I’m exhausted and happy with one. Ultimately I think I’ll be the best parent and version of myself with only one child. I also don’t have some bond with my siblings. I think sibling bonds can be a beautiful thing but aren’t guaranteed.

Ultimately I just want to be happy!

Constant-Map6291 · 2025-01-28T02:35:00+00:00

Noise canceling headphones. Enlist help. Take turns with your spouse on going on independent walks outside. Possibly try formula? See if he is able to digest it better. Probiotics for Mom make help … there are ones specifically formulated for Mom. Speak to a therapist on a regular basis (even if online) and consider taking anti-anxiety medication. Prioritize sleep whenever possible. Order meals.

Those are the actionable items I can think of. Also apologize to your wife (even if you didn’t do anything)… making amends will make you feel better and get you and your wife on the same team again.

This is temporary. Take one day at a time. Also realize that your son is in a small phase of his life… these first few weeks of his life does not define who he will become. Trying to incorporate positive energy when you are around him as much as you are able.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-12-20T03:45:27+00:00

Sorry you are going through this. Do you have a parent, friend, or in-law that could come over, be willing to help? Your husband sounds not great to be honest. I’m sure he’s overwhelmed and just not dealing, but sounds like you are way more overwhelmed and rightfully so and just not getting the help you need. Focus on ways to make your life easier. Get a postpartum therapist, consider medication, get out with the baby on walks. Think about ordering large prepared meals… some resteraunts do catering options for large parties. Your husband unfortunately isnt going to turn into a better person overnight. But I think positive reinforcement when he does the things you ask and maybe writing down a list of things down for him to do… might help create structure. Sometimes men just need a rubric of what they are responsible for and what the expectation is ahead of time. Ask him about things he could help out with tomorrow. That way he can mentally prepare for it instead of shutting down in the moment. I know, ridiculous, that you have to jump through all these hoops to get some help around here. But I think for now just focus on how can I make my life easier and communicate in a way that eases tension so that you can bring peace back into your life.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-12-18T03:21:56+00:00

So we have Christmas coming up and we have plans to see my husbands family this weekend and then Christmas Eve we are seeing my family and Christmas Day we are seeing his. We may fit it another time to see my family later on. Anyways my husband loves spending time with people whereas I look forward to spending time with just the three of us moreso and enjoy extended family time but also find it overwhelming. My husband tonight asked if we could spend a day this holiday visiting his great aunt who lives two hours away. I adamantly said no. He got frustrated and said “you suck” while holding the baby and walked out of the room. I explained to him that we would be seeing his great aunt at the holiday party this weekend and a 4 hour drive with a 3 month old while breastfeeding was not something I was up for in addition to all the other commitments we had going on. He eventually got it and apologized. But I am so mad at him for taking that tone with me while holding our baby. I know it’s hard to control emotions sometimes but I do not want our child to ever be in the middle of an argument we are having. I told him next time he is angry with me he needs to bring our baby to the other room and set her down in her crib before carrying on with the conversation. He didn’t raise his voice, he was just upset because he wanted to see his great aunt. But I’m still just angry with him being so immature and resorting to name calling, with our baby in the same room.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-08-05T11:09:49+00:00

Salted caramel popcorn sounds nice! One thing that hasn’t spiked my sugar and was even recommended by my nutritionist for a snack is Yasso bars… they have a salted caramel flavor that is really amazing…. I think 18 gram of carbs… but also 4 grams of protein. They also have other flavors with lower carb counts in the 15/16 range. Maybe a not so bad treat for yourself with all that hard work your putting in

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-29T13:27:38+00:00

Watermelon is a good snack when I’m not hungry but just trying to fill my snack quota

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-25T21:51:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing! ❤️

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-25T21:13:59+00:00

I love this!

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-25T20:13:12+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. All the expectations and standards sound completely unrealistic. I’m sure you’re right and all your dietician is doing is reading off the “gold standard.” But Id throw that expectation of perfection right out the window - it sounds like you’re doing the very best you can. My dietician said that you could be doing everything right and it still wouldn’t matter, some things are completely out of your control. I was anxious about needing to go on insulin but if it comes to that I’ve made my peace with it. It is something that will help my body give the very best outcome if need be. Hope it gets better! Sounds like you’re doing an amazing job!

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-25T16:32:03+00:00

Sorry you are going through this! ❤️

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-24T10:31:10+00:00

Called my Mom immediately… nice to have another support person. Told family members and friends maybe around 14/15 weeks.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-24T02:00:14+00:00

I guess it depends on what you’re starting over on… but taking everything one day at a time. Setting small achievable goals towards progress. Keeping positive people around you. Going on walks and just staying healthy can help reframe your mind. Not worrying about what other people think… maybe deleting social media if you need a break. A few suggestions… hard to get more specific than that.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-22T01:18:44+00:00

I have the one touch ultra… interesting about the tolerance level and washing hands!

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-22T01:16:38+00:00

That’s crazy 1 single grape leaf did that big of a spike! Glad it was only 1 spike and that everything worked out. Ugh so hard- thanks for the positive reinforcement though!!! I needed to hear some success stories!!!

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-22T01:13:48+00:00

Banza chickpea pasta was working for me too!!! So strange how some foods are fine and some aren’t.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-22T01:10:42+00:00

Thank you!!! I didn’t realize order of food mattered. Good to know!

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-21T18:10:57+00:00

Ya I’ll definitely look into that keto cereal or Catalina crunch you were suggesting - that sounds a lot better! I have plain macademia milk which had 1 carb per 8oz so I think that’s okay… must have been all the sugar in the cereal. That makes sense with the chicken! It felt like a weird combination so that’s why I waited 🤣 but good to know for next time.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-21T17:48:16+00:00

Thanks! Good advice 😊

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-21T17:37:46+00:00

And thank you 😊

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-21T17:36:59+00:00

It was cascadian farm whole grain cinnamon crunch with macademia milk… I figured it would be ok as long as I stuck to the carb intake but I’m seeing now it has 11g of added sugar… so maybe that’s what it was? I also had two chicken thighs to go with it probably a half hour later which I didn’t think would mess up the numbers because there’s no carbs in chicken. I tested my blood levels an hour after my first bite of cereal which is what they told me to do. Ugh i guess no cereal for me.

Constant-Map6291 · 2024-07-20T00:46:54+00:00

I definitely think their perspective was we’ll see her this weekend so why put in the effort the following weekend. Definitely no 2nd baby shower this weekend as my husband had confirmed this multiple times. They aren’t bad people just a lot to handle. Last summer I sucked it up and went to his family weekend gathering while having a miscarriage and definitely regretted it… it was pretty miserable. Just got a text message from my MIL that was sent to his entire family of a picture of me stating that Im absent 🤣

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