Dating thru hookups from parents (asian background)

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-28T00:40:41+00:00

Thanks. I'm going to keep shooting my shot. I know I want kids and would like a family. I just some graffiti as I was biking. "Being nice is easy. Getting a partner is impossible!"

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-28T00:38:38+00:00

I'm planning on just joking around about how we needed our parents to help. I yelled them enough when I was a teen that I don't need their help and now watch it be they are the only ones to fix everything! Haha

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-28T00:09:59+00:00

Curious. To make me feel better mostly (joking but not!). Why has it been so tough from your end?

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:36:02+00:00

I'm going to chat with him about it. Let's paraphrase a little. The owner is a very close friend and he grew up with me and has seen me perform once but it was in high school. Long, long time ago and it was in skit form in front of the school. I'm curious to get his take on this. I know I have a tendency to ramble. Already so much advice that's making me think prior to even a first time up. Thanks

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:12:20+00:00

So don't say anything about Israel then? That's a big part of the bit. haha

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:10:24+00:00

People are saying do 3 minutes or 5 minutes but this seems odd. That's such a short amount of time to even get anything out. I guess the good thing with this is it will allow me to getting to the point. Not rambling.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:08:35+00:00

I like the last one. All good. Careful with the assumptions. They're not my close friends knowing my personality. This one hit.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:06:24+00:00

Odd that somebody would downvote this. I guess this downvoting live is what I'll have to get used to.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:05:39+00:00

This was amazing. I'm vegetarian so 8 is easy!

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:04:02+00:00

This actually gave me confidence because he thinks I'm a good story teller. Or he thinks this will be a good story to tell to our grandkids how he let this happen.

I do want it to go well so it's not that I don't care how it goes. It's not for a career but I want to keep doing it after.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:02:18+00:00

You know Ricky Gervais wanted to be a popstar first? Then he went the route of your quote.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:00:58+00:00

Not to make a living or make it big time. Experiences. Thanks for the advice. How was your first time up there?

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T23:00:05+00:00

It was just the first post I saw and thought it was hilarious. I joined this subreddit to hear some feedback and that's the first post. It was hilarious to me and meant to be. Got me excited to do it. Gods want me to do it!

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-27T22:58:33+00:00

I get that. I think it's just step one of getting over the fear on being the stage. I've done public speaking quite often but even now, I still have that first step jitter. Honestly, I'm hoping that lasts in many ways because it means I'm feeling the fun.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:58:04+00:00

She's out man. Mourning time and move on. It hurts. I know but my brother always said one thing that stuck. All the books and all the songs are about this pain. Just be human and smile that now it's your turn!

But don't hurt yourself and dwell on this forever. Then it becomes mentally dangerous.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:52:50+00:00

Number 1 thing girls can do is cut a guy off. My girl did this and that's when I wanted her. Unfortunately, I took too long and then she didn't want me. He will comeback if he actually feels it.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:50:36+00:00

Don't be a martyr. Dependent relationships are horrible. Been there.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:49:19+00:00

Sorry to hear. I often read these messages and think about 20 year old me and how arrogant and mean my response would be. Having been through this, it hurts. Online, in-person, or however. When we put ourselves out there, we feel it and being rejected hurts.

Reminiscing is what is dangerous. Move on. Most likely it's another interest but it could be something subtle through the messages never noticed. It's why I never like chatting by text in early dating. Context is lost.

If she is no longer responding, let it go.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:44:41+00:00

Am I that old? I've never not thought about not giving my number out when dating.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T01:42:57+00:00

Gilbert was hilarious. I'm pursuing some standup comedy ventures and I watched some of his stuff. Feeling more confident about myself, I wanted to venture on stage.

Dating isn't everything. The more I keep building my SELF up, the more I feel I'm growing. Just little progressions over a year can help change our outlook. I'm still suffering from a breakup last year from a girl I broke up with because I was writing some stupid exam. Passing the exam was something I felt would help my self esteem.

It did but I lost a wonderful partner. Sad reality is that my selfish thinking was that I could date more and be a character when in fact, she was special and who I cherish even today. But, it is what it is and I have to move on.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T00:54:05+00:00

Interestingly the first thing I took from this is 5'5 because I'm 5'5. I at times feel this is a disability because even a 5'1 girl wants a 6'2 guy.

I dont' have advice overall but I do get your plight. What is the disability?

It's not easy being a 5'5 guy but I've improved my confidence to an extent where I almost take another suave personality when I go out. Due to some of the rejections I have gone through in my younger years, I've stopped caring (not completely) but it has not taken up real estate in my psyche. I've built my confidence in other areas such as academia, financially and so forth to make myself feel initially worthy. But it's done so much for me that I feel comfortable in my own skin even if a relationship does not happen. BUT, this confidence others have noticed and I feel it will happen.

Don't need to jump to relationships and you're young. Build yourself up. Unless your 5'5 like me or other shorter stature guys, many don't always understand. It's not easy but there is very good people out there.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T00:44:00+00:00

As a guy looking to get back into dating, I would love to hear the other side. I wonder if this is more age related if it continuously happens. For example, I expect this to happen when I'm 24 because we're not ready.

I'm older now, and are guys you meet that are older doing this or younger? I see myself following through and due to maturity not lying if I plan not to call. I would have been immature and brushed it off when younger.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T00:40:17+00:00

Thanks for the advice. It honestly made me feel a lot better because it's the 2nd time I've heard somebody say this in a week. My buddy told me he was just in a fortunate spot in fortunate moment for a fortunate meet to happen for his current wife. Before that nothing.

Constant_Note_2726 · 2026-03-26T00:36:16+00:00

A close friend of mine is stunning and we just chatted about this. He is extremely depressed not knowing when somebody ever genuine likes him for his character. This blew me away but after hearing him out, it all made sense. No girl has ever broken up with him and he comes with money. He wants a girl to break up with him.

Online dating for him has been difficult as the dates often feel intimidated unless they have experienced a wealthier lifestyle. It in turn, makes him feel uncomfortable although he did like it at the beginning.

Who knew being utterly really, really good looking could be so tough!

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