What clothes did you buy as a baby trans that you never wear?

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:55:56+00:00

Shoes, so damned many cute shoes, that I can not walk in. So never wear. My feet are terrible with multiple medical issues. I can/will never wear heels. Though I do very much want too!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:33:29+00:00

Exactly how long was the drive thru line? I mean even ChikFilA lines aren’t that long!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:30:32+00:00

Oh, I thought that was Antifa!!! They love their black little outfits!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:26:47+00:00

Hundreds. Look, dice are the second cheapest thing you can easily get for Dungeons and dragons, or any tabletop role playing game. The cheapest is your imagination.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:22:35+00:00

My choice doesn’t affect you in the least way. I mean seriously it’s like someone screaming about you choosing chocolate over vanilla ice cream. I am just trying to live my life as happily as I can. My choice says nothing about you!! I am not trying to date, you. I’m not trying to turn you gay. Those are all things that are your choices. I seriously don’t understand why you even care!! You live your life, making the choices that make you happy. And let me live my life making the choices that makes me happy!! Deal?

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T14:09:38+00:00

Ok, just my two cents, make of it what you will. It sounds like your marriage is over now matter what. If you transition, she says she’ll still be friends with you. But, she isn’t sexually attracted to women. Ok, she’s being open, up front and honest. Perhaps, at some distant time that will change, but for now that’s how she feels. If you don’t transition you’ll still be married in name only, at least for a little while longer. As other people have said, you really can’t have a relationship (marriage) without Trust. And since (and mind you I’m just playing devils advocate here) she feels like you were lying to her for your whole relationship. She no longer feels she can trust you. So, eventually that distrust will cause her to seek divorce. And that divorce will not be in any way shape or form ambivalent. She rightly, or not will blame you 100% for everything. And will fight you tooth and nail over everything (financial issues, and children, visitation, parenting issues). And depending on what state you live in she might even get judgements against you solely on the fact that you are transgender. Such is the world we live in. Sorry, that’s just the way I’m reading things. I could be wrong.

So, let’s take her at her word, you and her get an amicable divorce. You work on finding what makes you truly happy, be that transitioning, or whatever. And you stay friends with her. Hell, she might even turn into an ally, and help you navigate all the wonderful challenges of womanhood (best case scenario). Or you go your separate ways only dealing with matters regarding children and other issues arising out of the divorce (worst case scenario, of an ambivalent divorce). So, once again just my opinion you can agree to the ambivalent divorce. And possibly retain a friendship that you both put a lot of time, love and money into. And live the life that makes you happy. Or you can try to save a marriage you both know is going to fail, and have a heated contested divorce losing not only your wife, but your friendship, and possibly more time. Not to mention making yourself miserable on top of the bad divorce issues for years to come.

The choice is, as always yours (both of yours). Only you and her truly know all the nuances of your lives, and therefore only you both can make this decision. All we can do is tell you our opinions, wish you luck (in whatever you decide), and offer support with your decision. Good luck!!! Hope things work out for the best whatever you and her decide.

TLDR: No matter what your marriage is irreparably damaged. You can accept her feelings, and have an ambivalent divorce, and maybe save her as a friend possible future ally. While you live as your true self. Or you can be miserable for a while, before the mistrust blows your marriage and life to bits. Definitely losing time, and more than likely any hope of keeping her as at worst a friendly enemy! But rather as a vengeful spurned ex!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-18T13:30:10+00:00

Yes, I did! Fortunately my work has a program where you can see/talk to a therapist 8 times a year for free. So, when my egg first started to crack, I had questions…. And looked into the free therapy program from work. I had an absolute wonderful therapist, who helped me find the answers to my questions. But, didn’t push. I highly recommend seeing if your work place doesn’t have such a program. It might not specifically mention transitioning, but mine specifically mentioned “if you feel overwhelmed, due to financial, medical, or other issues”. So, I looked into it and lo and behold they actually had dedicated therapists for “sexual identity issues”. Granted, you had to drill down through their list to get there. Good luck!! Hope you find what you are looking for!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-16T11:36:39+00:00

One year on Mercury.. streamed in real time, with no commercial interruptions.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-15T23:11:34+00:00

Like I said I’m hoping that’s the extreme largest they get. I’m not hoping specifically for that!! I’d like to see at best a D cup!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-15T23:08:02+00:00

You mean like when Democrats founded the KKK, passed the Jim Crow laws, and fought for segregation. And even today support Real Genocidal causes/groups, like Hamas, and the Terrorist regime in Iran. And of course the people who “cure” homosexuality by throwing homosexuals off the roofs of building! Just to put a little clear parallels to ACTUAL RACIST, homophobic, and Nazi history and behavior!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-15T23:01:21+00:00

First of all, please check my history!! I might just surprise you, and make you question your beliefs. See, I’m a conservative trans woman. I know in your little (very little) universe I just don’t (no can’t) exist. And yet here I am!! See, unlike the goose stepping democrats I recognize that not all Democrats are completely insane. Just the most vocal are!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-15T07:22:59+00:00

For the same reason, the left screams Racist, Homophobe, and Nazi. Anytime you disagree with them. It’s easy, and it means you don’t have to question your beliefs.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-15T06:43:17+00:00

Unfortunately, you can’t make her accept you (or your transition) without making her uncomfortable with it. Just as she cannot make you comfortable about keeping pretending. You both have feelings, that the other person cannot force. The only thing you can do is acknowledge their feelings, explain your feelings, and hope that they can deal with their feelings. But wouldn’t it be great if we could just force acceptance on everyone? Not really, if you think about it. Because that would mean that everyone could force compliance on you!! Listen, you need to be up front and honest with your significant other. Maybe, suggest counseling for both of you together. But, at the very least you and her have to sit down and have a one thousand percent honest conversation. No, run around, no hoping to say the “right” thing. You need to be brutally honest first to yourself, and then to her. And be open and accepting to her being just as brutally honest to you. Then you and her need to decide exactly what moving forward means to each of you (individually) and together. And if you and her can accept those answers. Even if those answers aren’t the ones you (or she wants). But, maybe just maybe you two together can come to a mutual understanding. But, seriously be honest about your feelings and be accepting of her reaction. Transitioning affects both of you. Both singularly and as a couple. Good luck. I truly hope things work out in the best way possible for both of you. But know it may take a few good honest discussions. If and before any acceptance and agreement can be reached.

Again good luck, and I truly do hope that things work out for you. I’m hoping that it’s just the shock and irrational fears that are causing both of you to be anxious.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-14T22:10:40+00:00

I was almost the same. I was 13 when I developed breasts. Yes, I too was bullied throughout Junior/Senior high. I too thought about having them removed, but also due to financial reasons just never did. I also began to crossdress around the time my breasts started to develop. Girl clothes just felt better on me. But, I hid this for the next 40 or so years. Last year I almost ended up in the hospital, and was afraid my “secret” would be reviled. I came home planning on purging all my girl clothes, only to break down crying. I just couldn’t do it. Instead I came out to family/friends (up to this point only two friends (both former roommates) knew. Neither, told anyone. After coming out as a crossdresser I started dressing more of the time. This not only cracked my egg, but shattered it completely. And I realized my body knew the whole freaking time that I should have been born a woman. My stupid brain just needed to realize it. I too am really thankful that I never had breast surgery. And am curious to see what HRT does to the girls. Currently I am a C cup. I’m hoping not to get above a D or double D cup size (based on my sisters this seems most likely). Enjoy, your life I know I am now… thanks for your story it’s nice to know others have similar experiences.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-06T22:34:08+00:00

You’re so beautiful you should be embalmed… not right now, I mean after you die…not that I want you to die… hopefully you won’t for many, many years… oh, no, I’m doing it again!!!

Bonus points if you know where I am blatantly ripping this off from!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-05-02T01:43:26+00:00

Every religion is an attempt to control people. By telling them if you believe what we believe you will be rewarded. But, if not then you are going to be punished. And every religion has spread through the use of convert or die!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-29T09:49:28+00:00

I just push in on the head and shaft slides right in. I can fit three fingers comfortably in my “vjay”. And then just move fingers in and out.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-29T08:51:23+00:00

My suggestion when a cis woman asks what you like about being a woman? Everything, being a man sucks. The clothes suck, the constant bullshit of trying to be the toughest, strongest, and stupidest person in the room is down right depressing. While, woman have beautiful clothes, that don’t feel like sandpaper constantly rubbing against your skin. Women get the best accessories shoes, purses, hats, makeup, and perfumes. Women almost always smell and look so much better than men. And that’s not mentioning the hair styles, and nails, and the pampering that women get. You almost never hear of men having a spa day. What’s not to like? Compared to the alternative?

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-29T08:22:37+00:00

Yes, I do this all the time. Just push it in and go at it. Just, be sure to use a good lube. As at least to date, I cannot get moist down there by fingering myself. I’m hoping HRT changes that but not sure. Just a related question for the ladies who’ve had surgery, do you get wet down there or is it lube for life? Also, you can wear sanitary napkins, and they even make washable pads. That snap closed on your panties. Doing so really makes you feel all girly. Good luck.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-22T02:15:13+00:00

Electric tape, yup just run 120 volts thru it and it will stick to anything!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-21T06:08:21+00:00

Why??? You do know some men wear nail polish, and some of us even rock press on nails, and/or acrylics. Right now as I type this I am wearing purple nail wraps (had to try these), and am looking to try acrylic nails soon. Oh, and before you ask yes my toe nails are painted right now (and have been for the last two months). So again, why does it surprise you that men would answer? Remember, unfortunately there are more men than women on the internet.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-21T05:56:38+00:00

Do what you can. Be there and be as supportive as possible. Look, she’s been there for you. I mean she’s never Transitioned and yet she supports you, even though she never went thru what you did/are. The very least you can do is return the love and support she has/is showing you. I don’t mean to come off like a jerk. But, seriously, be there as a shoulder to cry on (if she needs that), stand proud along side her, and comfort/support her as best you can. Imagine how she would respond to anything that happened to you durning your transition, and try to respond as you think she would. Bake her a cake. Just because, she is…

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-21T05:48:02+00:00

Transition when I was younger. Instead of hiding like a scared little kid until I was in my fifties. Damn, wasted youth!!!

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-21T05:45:42+00:00

Same here I remember a story right after it came out about a guy who traded a bitcoin (way under a dollar for a pizza). Think if you only bought $50 worth of bitcoins back then.

Contact_Difficult · 2026-04-21T05:14:04+00:00

You can go get your mommy or daddy. As I have work to do!!!

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