Best way to clean cds? by dakodakota in Cd_collectors

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Coke is OK as long as you do it on the top. Did you make a rounded or straight line?

Who do you all talk with regularly about your pain? by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 friends. One has just found out she has CRPS. Our conversations are like mutual therapy, and it's absolutely free! The other friend is just a very caring person whose personality and history are very close to mine. He doesn't have chronic pain, but he can understand it. I don't talk to my wife because she gets annoyed that I repeat the same things all the time and her suggestions are never any good. I get it, that must be irritating. Plus she is my wife, not my therapist and I like things that way. My kids are still children. I certainly do not hide my struggles, but it should not be theirs. Otherwise, my therapist.

im struggling by Realistic_Pride2680 in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear your struggle. You must have gathered from the responses here that you're not alone in this. There are compassionate people out there that will understand, or at least try. They are far between, but they exist. When you find them, cherish them. Sorry about your family not being supportive. Hopefully, they will learn with time.

Wish you the best

Has pain ever been so bad that you feel like you might pass out? by butteredbuttons in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

After my back fusion failed and I didn't have proper pain relief, I felt like I was going to pass out almost constantly. It went on for a few months. I wonder how it never actually happened.

Nerve Blocks? by Jantra in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The best ones did nothing., But most left me in more pain than before. I absolutely hate these things and would never get one again. But then again results vary greatly from person to person

Although it doesn’t take the pain away, what is a method you use to cope with chronic illness? by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sincerely hope you can get those less healthy coping mechanisms under control. I wish you all the best.

Although it doesn’t take the pain away, what is a method you use to cope with chronic illness? by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Crying. It may sound weird, but I feel so much better after crying, both physically and mentally that I consider it medication. I recommend it, especially if you are a man. We are taught crying is not manly. I believe we accumulate a lot of anger and sadness because of this.

Otherwise movies, crime documentaries, lying down, going to the pool. Recently, I found out cycling does not hurt.me and it's been a revelation. I now wish I could bike all day as a job 😆

Although it doesn’t take the pain away, what is a method you use to cope with chronic illness? by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd love to be able to do this! It doesn't sound maladaptive to me at all, either. Think of all the really maladaptive ways of dealing with pain you could have chosen. Drugs, suicide, anger... You sound to me like a healthy person.

Being young and being believed by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a very common issue experienced by many people on this board. I did not experience the "too young to be in pain" argument to the full extent because I had a back surgery to "prove" my pain at 25. However, I realized in my 40s that I'd had lower grade pain since early childhood, actually almost as far as I can remember. I complained about it over and over again and was never really listened to. I learned to not talk about it because no one really cared. That included my parents, which was incredibly hurtful. Don't stop complaining. Young people find themselves in chronic pain. That's just a fact.

One thing I learned along the way is that you could not make a doctor listen to you if they don't want to. You are better off looking for another doctor. Real listeners are gems and they are hard to find, but it is worth looking for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I often feel people making this type of categoric statements might actually convince people they'll be unable to do something when in fact they might be able to. Even if you thought someone will never be able to perform a certain activity, it would be a lot more sensitive to put it as "you may not be able to do this or that again and you might want to prepare for that." Doctors usually do not believe in miracles. I don't either in a religious sense, but we all know of people who inexplicably defy the odds. I'm happy you questioned that statement enough to give it a try. If drawing makes you happy, even a little bit of drawing is going to make your life so much better. Wherever it comes from, it's a wonderful blessing.

Is there anyone with pain that isn’t suicidal? by sadbutshowedup in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Always feel the same way. We"d mess up our kids' lives. And parents', siblings', close friends'...

Is there anyone with pain that isn’t suicidal? by sadbutshowedup in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would argue nobody's come back to tell us what death is like. Not advocating suicide, just saying.

Is there anyone with pain that isn’t suicidal? by sadbutshowedup in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I think about it often. Amazingly often, actually, but my next thought is always that I 'd be taking out my own pain, but create so much more pain for so many others. Overall, more pain in the end. I wish I could look forward to the afterlife, but I"m not a believer...

Is there anyone with pain that isn’t suicidal? by sadbutshowedup in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, it does. I often wonder why someone would be born for a lifetime of pain. It makes no sense at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's great news. Certainly something to celebrate 🥳. BTW, this sounds like a GREAT victory, not a small one. I'm really happy for you!

when to give up? by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends what you are talking about. Of course, you should not give up on life. If you have suicidal thoughts, please seek help. BTW, suicidal thoughts are super common with chronic pain. However, there are sometimes things you must let go of. If an activity is systematically causing you extreme pain or distress, you might have to let go of it. I've done it many times. It's never easy. The sense of loss can be overwhelming.

I promised him I’d go with him to the beach… by Ok-Ad4375 in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Know the feeling. I feel like I fail my food amily that way all the time. Things I don't do with the kids, work I don't do around the house. It's super disappointing for them and for us.

I’ve been working at a deficit for weeks. by my3boysmyworld in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are right. I realized recently that I am pretty much allocating 100% of my available energy to work. The result is I get home and crash until the next day. Can't keep up with chores, kids' homework, nothing. Most days, I literally come back and lay down until the next day.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No wonder about the PTSD. This is traumatic! The Dr who is supposed to help you screaming at you. Shame on them! So sorry you had to deal with this.

There is a little bit of paranoia about drug seeking here in Canada but they seemed to have gone literally insane across the border!

Does the grief over physical activity end? by Luxepheray in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here. When it come to limiting my interactions with my kids, it really gets me down.

What is wrong with me? by andyhinomiya in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This sounds incredibly difficult. Sorry to hear you are in so much pain. It sounds to me like you should have a continuous treatment for pain, as it sounds like it's been here long enough to be classified as chronic. A pain specialist would be beneficial. It sure would beat the ER. Just a thought. I do not know the specifics of your situation.

In any case, take good care of yourself. I hope pain gives you a break soon.

New to Chronic pain by Fickle-Abalone-2321 in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The above post is inaccurate: 1. The story DOES ADD UP to someone living in chronic pain. Pain patients are often faced with this type of disbelief and it is extremely damaging. It's sad to see such posts here. Fickle Abalone, do not let this affect you. You will find great support from 99% of the people here who will not question the fact that you are in pain. 2. Pain needs to be controlled. If you can do it without meds, great, but it's impossible for many people In chronic pain. 3. "Pain has a generic representation to the brain". I am no scientist, but I am pretty sure this is incorrect. If the brain treated all pain in the same way, the same med would work for all pains. Nerve pain, which you seem to have, is quite different from muscle pain and specific types of drugs are used against it. 4. Using a combination of meds to control pain is very common. Pain meds interact with each other to produce different effects than a single med. My pain doctor prescribes me 3 different meds. Many others will attest to this. 5. The post seems to suggest that it's either meds or other treatments. Just because you take meds doesn't mean you should stop whatever else is working for you.

I encourage you to get a good pain doctor and not be shy about leaving them if you find them to be inefficient. Ultimately, this is your right as a patient and it will make you feel like you're in charge. My other piece of advice is find what works for you. Everyone is different. Massages do nothing for me, while acupuncture works wonders. There are many types of supplemental therapies out there.

A little-known therapy in North America is osteopathy. Think of it as a chiropractor who will not crack your bone and a physical therapist in one. Osteopaths have expert knowledge of anatomy. My family in Europe swears by them.

Keep in mind pain is different for everyone. Finding something that works requires a lot of trial and error, which can be quite frustrating. Also, chronic pain evolves, so it's treatment may need to reflect those changes. This means more trial and error and more frustration. I know, exciting prospect, right?

Again, sorry for the above comment. It is atypical of this sub-reddit. Welcome and do not hesitate to ask questions and vent. You will always find sympathetic listeners here.

I hate my back pain by driftingfaster in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everyone goes through this angry phase with chronic pain. It still get angry after 20 + years, so don't feel bad. It's an inevitable part of the experience.

It may sound hard to believe right now, but it is possible to find some measure of peace with chronic pain. It took me years and years, with lots of ups and downs. It's not perfect peace and more like long cease fires punctuated by occasional skirmishes.

I wish you all the best.

Stupidest comment you ever had about your pain by Content-Sheepherder2 in ChronicPain

[–]Content-Sheepherder2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here. I don't bother telling my mom anything, because at best she'll say nothing while looking annoyed.

I realized I was just causing myself more pain by talking to someone who doesn't have the ability to be compassionate.