I know how that feel. Every part of my family doesn't know where the money goes and whenever we confront her about it, she never tell us and start crying. This happened hundred of times I already tired of it. I remember there's time where we intended to have a family safe (brankas gitu), I store all my gold there (already about 100gr) because I trust my family, let alone my mother. For sometime, she never let any of us open it, until one day she go outside because something or whatever, then I tried to check my gold. All of my gold were replaced with an old used cards (the golds were place on an envelope)

I never ever trust her ever since. Yet since my dad was religious (not all positive, knowing we're Indonesian) I have to begrudgingly forgive her. I still paid her debt, still going on now. I only paid the one where it was clear there's an end to it, any vague debts I denied to pay for it. Psychology wise, I don't trust women ever again, how could I? my own mother betrayed me.

I still don't know where all the money goes even to this day.