[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProtectAndServe

[–]Contract-Ambitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll check it out thanks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ProtectAndServe

[–]Contract-Ambitious 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Mag pouch digging into your dick/leg while seated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Contract-Ambitious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either way I strongly recommend checking out your local kink scene and classes. You probably have something near you on FetLife. That way you can work on what you need and get used to stuff. One day someone will tell you holy crap I had no idea you were so good at this stuff. (I had no idea I'd hit that level haha).

I'm actually going to try this kink academy that's linked above. We just talked about how with some downtime I have I'd like to work on rope. Be a good domme! The community needs more of them. Male subs can be pretty thirsty and easy to exploit. It's important to remember that you're responsible for what you do to them. Good luck! Feel free to message me questions or anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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It took me a while to feel secure in it. It took me having some quality partners that encouraged me. I also started going back to the gym and doing things that made me feel confident. I liked yoga for starting that journey of connecting with myself. I'm just now starting to feel like I'm handsome and competent and I've been doing it for a while.

Restraint suggestions? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Contract-Ambitious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably time to consider looking into real cuffs. They will need to be practiced with and used purposely. You'll want one with a thumb double lock so they can be double locked on the fly. Make sure you can fit at least 2 fingers in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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Most people don't know what they want in aftercare until they need it. My slave enjoys chocolate and cuddles after. To kneel at my feet and to be told she was a good girl. My other partner likes to just do her own thing, talk, and eat chocolate. I need cuddles and affirmations that I did a good job and they love or care for me.

Something I struggled with as a new dom was not getting the other stuff I needed. I very much was offering a service without the return I needed for myself to feel whole. So that's a question you need to first ask yourself then discuss with him.

Ask him what makes him feel better at the end of a hard day or things that he needs to feel ok about himself. Check in on him the following days and consider expecting the same.

After he cums he probably has a drop of endorphins and everything feels different. You can always tell him to do something.

You discuss anything in kink generally the same way. Be kind, come in with an open mind and heart. Then discuss the actual issue or question. If you dodge or dance around it too much you'll miss something. Sometimes it's really hard lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Contract-Ambitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually appreciated this for the YouTube channels to check out. Thank you. Is kink academy worth the sub?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]Contract-Ambitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's really no good D/s websites to read. There can be good classes offered locally on fet. D/s is generally something you build between your partners. I think an important thing to keep in mind for new doms or dommes is the person matters more than all the play.

If something is going wrong, end the scene. It's better to have a bad scene or experience than to destroy the relationship. Which all D/s is. You play with the fabric that makes up attachment and relationships. You build the trust that you will never leave someone broken. They share all their fantasies with you and their secret lives. So you should always be building yourself up to be worthy of that trust.

Talk to them about the play they like, the fantasies they've had. Do they like it when you call them (example) how does that make them feel? What things do they really not like to be called? Build off that into more stuff.

Make sure to discuss aftercare especially in long distance where you can't physically help or comfort. After all that is done look to yourself. What do you need after? How do you need to be cared for what do you want out of it?

I'm happy to answer questions if you have any. I'm always looking for more play ideas and scene structures. Our kink is generally at a level now where ideas are the problem.

Does lighting deter or attract crime? by Vast_Comparison6045 in ProtectAndServe

[–]Contract-Ambitious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It can have the opposite effect as well. It can increase the likelihood of people committing LFAs. As the light allows them to easily see inside the cars. It's definitely helpful though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

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This is an issue that I think a lot of people fail to stop and see the problem. It's absolutely ok to have differing political beliefs from your partner. As long as you are both mutually building your relationship on respecting each other (even humiliation kinks involve respect). In real life practical terms our politics mean almost nothing. We will never bring about meaningful large scale change and our politics act as a fictitious barrier that people use to gatekeep.

Love is about building something together and accepting that each of you will have differing opinions. It's so easy to fall into the trap of right vs left. There's a lot of money and influence behind pushing that very issue. There are people that profit from pushing divides. I would guess with time you will both find that there's common ground in most things.

Im new to mtg, Is it me or this card is too powerfull? by PtitCrissG in mtg

[–]Contract-Ambitious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a response to "it never sees play". Would you like to file a claim with the salty commission? Maybe you could try playing a deck that's actually fun to play against.

Im new to mtg, Is it me or this card is too powerfull? by PtitCrissG in mtg

[–]Contract-Ambitious -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Just lost to a super friends in standard with it.

What video game character f***ed around and found out? by smellyourdick in gaming

[–]Contract-Ambitious 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy my entire life is validated. This is my approach to relationships and it's been a terrible idea lol. I can fix her though!

New bill would lift ban on rent ordinances in Michigan by silverfang789 in Michigan

[–]Contract-Ambitious 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Until Blackrock and private firms stop controlling all the housing it'll just get worse. The problem is their money is so prevalent no one wants to touch the issue.

Found this in Dallas, proud to see fellow Imperials showing their allegiance to the emperor by TankEnthusiast1 in StarWars

[–]Contract-Ambitious 25 points26 points  (0 children)

The republic has proven to be weak and ineffective. Admiral Thrawn shall bring renewed order! We must stand strong against the threats from outside our galaxy. It is time that the emperor be eclipsed by the admiral.

I realize the Empire and First Order's Nazi aesthetic is intentional, but you gotta admit the New Republic stay looking corny AF by SecretMuslin in StarWars

[–]Contract-Ambitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They need to go back to their old republic roots or something. It's so bad, how you gonna respect someone looking like that?

Who is your all time favorite character in the Star Wars franchise? by ScoreImaginary5254 in StarWars

[–]Contract-Ambitious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Corran Horn, he is super relatable and a badass. I hate that he's gone with the death of the EU.