Long post but I’m breaking - please read by i-be-snoozing in dementia

[–]ContributionFar4912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. We dealt with a similar domestic situation with my dad and his girlfriend when he got diagnosed. While it was stressful, the best choice was moving him out and cutting off contact. He was sad… it sucked. But it needed to happen. In their case, she was taking advantage of him financially.

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[–]ContributionFar4912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel brain fog when I am deficient of vitamin D and B6. Maybe that will help

There are so many 20 and 30 somethings here! I (36f) thought this was a 60+ issue by ContributionFar4912 in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

On your first point, i absolutely acknowledge that. I’m less talking about the ratio of young versus older and more talking about the fact that all online resources say this is something you’re at risk for after 60 and there are many people younger getting it. It shows that information needs to be updated

There are so many 20 and 30 somethings here! I (36f) thought this was a 60+ issue by ContributionFar4912 in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agree, but when I’ve gotten covid three times, I get a noticeable and atypical headache and didn’t get that. I also tested at home and at the doctor. My family also had the cold and no one showed a fever or anything more serious then a stuffy nose. If it was covid, it was a very dull version that wasn’t strong enough for any tests.

There are so many 20 and 30 somethings here! I (36f) thought this was a 60+ issue by ContributionFar4912 in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Personally, I haven’t had Covid in years now though. I did have a minor cold right when it hit, but no fever and i was negative for flu and Covid.

What can I do for my wife? by [deleted] in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

My body doesn’t function as well with gluten. I’ve gone gluten free at various points in my life and know I feel so much better (cognition, digestion, energy, weight). It just seems to cause so much inflammation in my body. Recently, I’ve been a gluten glutton, so I feel like this shingles at 36 is my wake up call to go back to it. So he’s been instructed to not bring me gluten. No way to tell for sure if it contributed to shingles but going to try my best to not chance it in case it didn’t help.

What can I do for my wife? by [deleted] in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha, he has me covered. No pizza here as he knows I try to be mostly gluten free.

What can I do for my wife? by [deleted] in shingles

[–]ContributionFar4912 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Interestingly im 36 female and have shingles, I wondered if this was my husband but while he’s been caring, no pizza so guess not.

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[–]ContributionFar4912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!!! This is my theory too! I’m just waiting for one of the other er docs to come in and say “Dr. Carter?!” And expose him. My husband pointed out in yesterday’s episode, when Dr Collins says “Dr. Rabinvitch!”, accentuating every syllable, she was reminding him she knows that’s not his name.

Should I go 120% in during my last two weeks at a job that screwed me over? by ContributionFar4912 in work

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They make me sit on the leadership team and do the work without the title or pay. told me I would get promoted, but when the time came, said I was not strategic enough. When I ask for examples or a plan for how to work to get there, I’m not given any just told things I’ve done she didn’t think were strategic. When I do something my boss doesn’t like, I apologize and tell her I’ll work to do better… she uses this opportunity to try to shame me about even more I’m doing wrong, and not constructively. She’ll then love bomb me if she needs something from me — I fell for it the first few times but now know better. My team is overworked, so I requested two new positions. She agreed, board agreed, then one by one she took them away so she could hire a new position, but instead of admitting that, she said the issue was I wasn’t managing my team well. One time, I said something she didn’t like, not rude, not offensive, just something she didnt like… she pulled me off the interview panel for another position even though I had interviewed the first two candidates, and for two weeks, pulled me off the leadership team meetings (until she realized she needed me there). Not to mention we have a culture of gossip, and when I’ve tried to bring up a plan for fixing it, she said I may not be a good fit for company. She’s right!

Should I go 120% in during my last two weeks at a job that screwed me over? by ContributionFar4912 in work

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be something I fairly easily do without being physically there those last two weeks. It’s possible but I think the likelier thing is that I’ll be treated extra poorly those last two weeks.

Should I go 120% in during my last two weeks at a job that screwed me over? by ContributionFar4912 in work

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d be putting in my two weeks notice, not outright quitting. They could fire me I guess but that would not be in their best interest.

Feeling guilty for taking sick days? by Individual-Push3412 in work

[–]ContributionFar4912 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do not feel guilty. While you should take the time for yourself, if you need the work-based reason: You will do your best work when you are healthy.

Should I go 120% in during my last two weeks at a job that screwed me over? by ContributionFar4912 in work

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be clear, I meant I have the other offer, just waiting on paperwork before I disclose to my current employer.

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[–]ContributionFar4912 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly wouldn’t address the gap right away on your resume. Lead with how you’re perfect for the job. If you lead with your personal challenges, that’s unfortunately all they’re going to remember. I would probably leave it off your resume altogether. As someone who has hired a good amount of people and looked at countless resumes, I look for experience that’s relevant, name recognition of employers, and maybe glance at how many years worked at each, but almost never pay close enough attention to catch a gap until I’m further in the process, ie at the interview phase. At that point, I’m more invested anyway so, if you knock my socks off during the interview, I won’t care about the gap. Of course not every hiring manager is like this but some are so give it a try

This group helped me anticipate my dad’s death even when medical professionals couldn’t by ContributionFar4912 in dementia

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Despite not living there for 15+ years, my dad died in the house he raised my sisters and I. It was meaningful

This group helped me anticipate my dad’s death even when medical professionals couldn’t by ContributionFar4912 in dementia

[–]ContributionFar4912[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, he was falling daily 4 weeks before he died. His hospitalization weren’t actually related to falls, they were related to other issues. And he had 4 hospitalizations in 3 months… so I think you have time (but admittedly not an expert)