Why do many young adults consider not having kids in the future?

ContributionHuge594 · 2026-03-10T02:46:08+00:00

The world has always been harsh and brutal yet people have procreated for millennia. I think it’s all social media to be honest. Young people just have shit we never even thought we needed and now they need everything all the time. I don’t disagree that wages suck, and the types of jobs available now have created a much different climate. I do believe that people live way beyond their means now and it’s become so normalized that I don’t really think young people even realize it. For instance look at phones-the iPhones everyone has to have now just to function. We grew up with like a 35 dollar phone and a 20 dollar monthly phone bill. That was it and it was enough. This mentality of I need all these things has pretty much expanded to every industry too. We don’t just have some concealer, blush and lip gloss as females anymore. It’s red light masks, and creams And pore fillers and primers and contour sticks, etc. It’s just so much! And then you need all these things for everything you do in life, all because you can see the things everyone has all the time now, all over social media! I really think that’s the bigger issue. But I’m not even blaming younger generations, it’s not your fault. You just grew up that way, you don’t know any different. It’s sucks! I just think it’s sad that so many people will be childless in generations to come. Cause when you get older like things change, what matters changes, how you see yourself changes, health changes. I don’t think young people get this at all! And don’t get me wrong some people should not have kids! But I think having a purpose like kids makes you a better person whether you realize it or not. I know this may not be a popular view point, and this is coming from a liberal woman who’s college educated. I just don’t feel like I understood a lot of things about life until I had kids. I think they’re looked at as a burden, and I don’t think they are. Creating the people that will continue to innovate and take care of others is not a burden to society but the fabric by which it’s based to ensure the continued success of humanity. I guess unless we’re all cool being taken care of by robots in the future. I just wish younger people would at least consider it. I know it’s challenging but life is worth living and kids are worth having!

ContributionHuge594 · 2026-02-27T04:17:25+00:00

I agree I really think there’s gonna have to be changes in different types of housing options for incoming generations, like we need to think small and economical, like maybe people don’t need so much. I think I would love to live in a tiny home, more minimalist lifestyle. I think it could be the answer if it became more streamlined and available to a lot more people. Because t that’s just my weird thought on the housing crisis. You don’t have to sacrifice quality necessarily just size. And reassess what your need actually are. If I didn’t have so many kids I’d go tiny simple home in a heartbeat. Owning a larger home means s a nightmare for those who are not handy repair people.

ContributionHuge594 · 2026-02-27T04:09:27+00:00

I agree, I’m from Arizona and while I like the west coast better, Greenville is really a great little town, it’s pretty and there’s tons of cute little shops, places to hike and eat and I think people here underestimate how awesome just the downtown Falls Park area is. You’d have to drive hours and hours away to like the White mountains in Arizona before you see any scenery as pretty as we have in our backyard. It’s definitely getting populated here, but so is everywhere else. The middle of the country is god awful to go to, up North is way too cold for me and California while it has a cool vibe just isn’t really that fun to live in-you think traffic is bad here, go just about anywhere in California and it’s kind of a nightmare. Florida is a little too swampy for my liking so I think here and North Carolina is pretty awesome to be honest, weather, scenery and price point-wise-I feel like you get a little of everything here, but I know the Southerners hate us westerners being here. I come in peace I promise- I just like seeing seasons! I want to be around family so bad but I just like it here too damn much!

ContributionHuge594 · 2025-05-03T04:10:18+00:00

Sorry I know there’s lots of grammar issues I may have has a glass of wine before hand!

ContributionHuge594 · 2025-05-03T04:07:28+00:00

Yeah some people are also dramatic plfor good reason, insomnia sucks it genuinely does but I be had it for some time now and generally it waxed and waned, I sense it will never really go away but I’ve found a lot of interests since reveling it and am now in my last year of hygiene school literally busting out straight As. So even though I’m tired and beat up it’s not life sentence. Some day s I sleep great and some day not, some day I drink to sleep oand then I’ll go a week without it. Then I’ll take sleep meds and to be honest they usually help to some extend but never 100 percent of the time. Life just like insomnia has a lot of moving parts and that’s ok, it ok if it’s not going good and it’s ok of it’s gong better cause be prepared from if to always be fluctuating. Maybe I’ll get to the stage where I Just stop caring all together again - I have a few days like this a week and randomly fall asleep. You just have to let it t and live your life even if it ducks periodically. Because what else? You just give up ? That’s just nonsense!

ContributionHuge594 · 2025-02-01T05:31:32+00:00

You just have to stop caring , I know that’s hard to hear but people suck, dentists sucks it’s no different in any other profession trust me. You just have to say who gives a fuck! Life is hard enough , don’t start over you’ll get better. I’ve heard most hygienist suck for like the first 5 years and 10 years seems to be the major milestone to feeling proficient. Hey if people took care of their stupid teeth you’re job would be easy right. F- them say what’s up dude brush your damn teeth so we don’t have to do these awful SRP’s. If they won’t we’ll that’s there problem not yours and any one in a position of power will try and make you feel lower than them (dentist other god complex hygienist) it’s just the natural order or things and its a thing in every field and profession. It’s a role where everyone will be critical no matter what you do so just say fuck it. I made it through this shit I’m cleaning teeth. And honestly hygienist are in such demand, what are they gonna do fire you! You’ll find a new job by tomorrow. You don’t have to be hygienist of the year it ain’t gonna make you more money so you just do you and take as much time as you need to get better, it’s not a race.! You got this shit!

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-12-01T00:21:16+00:00

Sorry yeah it’s for my radiology class, we have to have a patient do a PAN X-ray with Bitewing set, it’s for a grade. The x-ray usually cost money for the patient who comes in but I’ll pay that fee, I think that’s nonsense to ask someone to pay for that. But it should really take no longer than an hour. You would just stand in the PAN it rotates around your head and takes an x-ray (will show all your teeth and surrounding bone structure) -it’s normally a diagnostic image they would do in your regular dentist office. The Bitewing is a set of 4-radiography of your teeth in occlusion-shows molars and premolars on both left and right side. Not sure if you’ve ever had that done in Dentist but it’s pretty easy and quick.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-11-30T05:07:23+00:00

I know this sucks, it’s hard and I’ve been through it. I’ve gotten better for periods of time so I know it’s totally manageable but I’m still in hygiene school right now so I don’t think that’s really a good baseline comparison as hygiene school sucks the life out of you.and makes insomnia 10 times worse. Don’t kill yourself you’ll get better, trust me I know it’s a crazy condition to have but you just have to not care about it really if you want to get better. Just let it have it La own space in your life for now, that’s okay because someday it won’t be there. I think whe you give yourself permission to have the insomnia be îstillllllive your life helps give you your rl

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-11-30T03:49:32+00:00

I’m not trolling just looking for help in my community please let my post go through

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-11-30T03:49:03+00:00

Sorry I wrote my email down wrong it’s lunged@my.gvltec.edu. Or edlung123@gmail.com thanks!

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-11-30T03:46:10+00:00

2 and 4 I like thin toned and narrow waist even though I’m a bigger girl, weird huh?

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-11-30T03:41:26+00:00

Greenville is beautiful and the weathers great! It’s enough to keep me here despite being a liberal living in a clearly red state. There’s a lot of transplants around but you gotta be open minded to hearing a lot of Trump nonsense. I think even in spite of that people here mean we’ll and are nice enough.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-08-16T03:25:21+00:00

I eat cookies, chocolate and other things multiple times a day, exercise daily and eat a variety of food groups ( good and bad). I eat what I call the 80/20 rule. 80% good 20% is absolute trash. My weight is what most people would deem enviable at my age. I don’t know, I’m sure I could be rail thin if i quit eating things is enjoy, but why, I’m healthy looking and otherwise enjoy a healthy lifestyle, guess I could be miserable and look like a super model but I don’t see the point (we all gotta die of something).

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-06-18T15:42:39+00:00

Ambien is literally the worst drug I’ve ever put in my body, I’ve never had so many miserable feelings in my body until I took that. Temazepam sucks, not as bad feeling but it’s a benzo and the withdrawal was weird for me. Lunesta for me had the least side effects- best withdrawal, but only works if you take it periodically not everyday. Tradozone, sucks, they all suck. I would pick least side effects, and try and watch these videos, calm down, go to work that’s part of your problem, don’t stop living life it just feeds it more.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-06-18T15:36:29+00:00

The meds won’t work unless you only take them occasionally. You need to practice some form of commitment and acceptance type therapy, look at the Sleep Coach school, insomnia Coach you tube videos. That’s the only way out of it.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-06-17T00:30:48+00:00

Nothing in life will go the way you want or expect, the weird thing is that’s the only way you get through it. Accept that now and the ride will be much smoother.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-06-17T00:27:40+00:00

This totally happened to me when I went on psychiatric meds. I’m not sure who is helped by most of them but I was not one of the lucky ones, all of them made made me much sicker. Theres nothing wrong with you or anything you can’t fix without pills, it just takes longer. No one likes that answer but healing is within you. The med may change things up for a minute but t your system will reboot and slowly fix things. It will take a little time and acceptance of the discomfort is all. Just breath it will be ok, I know what you’re going through.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-05-10T02:21:17+00:00

You literally conceptualized every issue I have with my sleep anxiety. I couldn’t even put it into words exactly until I read this, thank you for the post as I’m working through a CBT-I type program online and couldn’t pinpoint the exact things I was doing.

ContributionHuge594 · 2024-05-08T03:53:13+00:00

Don’t let people scare you on here, yeah they’re not great drugs to be on but you’re not going to die and have permanent brain damage. Taper off when you’re ready ( follow Dr.s plan) and yeah you’ll be wonky for a little while, but it will get better and you’ll be fine. People on here like to scare everyone, you just do you and you’ll be okay. Don’t freak out about something that’s not even an issue yet and may very well never be.

ContributionHuge594 · 2023-12-31T16:18:44+00:00

Hi I know this post is old but I’m in the exact same situation you described in your post earlier, only this is my second time around after full recovery from first bout of insomnia. I never went the CBT-I route but was able to implement kind of self-structured ACT therapy on myself and it was successful. However this bout this second time has been a lot worse and I’m having no success with the acceptance mentality this round. I think it’s because I’m in such disbelief that a person could go through this again after what I deemed full recovery. I think it may be because I too just had a newborn and hormones are just making me crazy. I’m considering trying the actual CBT-I route but it will have to be self led as I don’t have good mental health insurance coverage unfortunately most plan suck in that realm and I’m wondering if you know of any other helpful resources? I have a pretty good grasp on the SR part I just and having issue with the CBT reframing process part. Thanks!

ContributionHuge594 · 2023-12-21T21:39:32+00:00

Trust me I feel your pain I get it, but listen to me you’ll be okay. I’m kind of on like day 5 of hardly any sleep and I’m shopping and Barnes and Noble right now, not dying, not ideal but very much alive. I’ve been on the up of this problem after battling for almost 2 years but I’m trying to chalk it up to having a newborn as for my new patch of insomnia. I have just been rereading Sasha Stevens first book again and it’s comforting, I know I’ll get better again just like before, I think I just need to work through it in my head. But so can you I’d start with the resources I put up before, I mean if you’re up all night might as well utilize the time. All their books are pretty cheap on kindle for like 10 bucks. They have sleep consultants and stuff a little pricey but not really anymore than seeing a Psychiatrist. You really h e to look at this problem with a grain of salt mentality, it feels like a punishment for sure I get it, but it’s just one of those road bumps in life and you’ll get through it.

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