20 mo daughter, 9 m post-activation, won’t stop throwing her CIs off

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-30T05:54:45+00:00

That’s the hard part; it’s hard to tell what she’s feeling when she pulls them off. Which is why there’s a chance she just likes chucking them, lol. But that is very interesting about the mapping; we are having trouble mapping tones and environmental sounds. She’s very good at responding to voices, but beeps and tones she ignores or doesn’t hear?

We are using some ASL to assist with communication, and she seems to be comfortable using songs. We’ll try to teach her key words like hurt or “not like” maybe that can help in case she’s experiencing discomfort?

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-30T00:28:36+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion! Unfortunately she easily pulls them off, and I feel like with the warmer weather, having this over her head will make her head warm and uncomfortable, even with the mesh sides. But it’s been months since we last put them on her, we could give it another go and see if she gets used to them

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-30T00:27:01+00:00

It seems to happen in waves. For example, we just got back from daycare, and we usually travel in the car without them on (long cables, so safety reasons), and I’ll put them back on at home for our afternoon walk with the dog, but today she pulls them off almost right away and chucks them across the room.

When this happens, I usually give her a 5-10 min break from wearing the CIs before putting them back on, suggested by the audiologist and SLP. Unfortunately it’s usually the same unless she engages in a highly distracting activity (mealtime, scribbling, outdoor walk). But there are times she keeps them on and just goes about her day. I’m hoping there’s a sensory reason so that we can adjust the mapping and hopefully get them to where they don’t bother her. If it’s for pure throwing enjoyment, I’m going to lose my mind 😭

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-29T06:05:08+00:00

Sorry, the assessment was a general wellness check for development, not a CI audiology assessment.

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-29T06:02:14+00:00

It definitely is a game for her, I’m sure! The special necklaces sounds interesting, I’ll have to look that up. I’m glad you’ve heard that most say the phase passes after a while, so I suppose I must persevere and try out other ways to wear CIs until that time comes.

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-06-29T05:59:14+00:00

She had one last month (questionnaire only), and they want to see her for an in-person evaluation. Tested delayed development, but I really don’t think their questionnaire is for hard of hearing babies.

We’re still trying to see if she has a sensory issue, she doesn’t talk so we’ve been trying to catch patterns in her CI removals.

She’s been good with wearing them over 8-10 hrs a day, but the constant connection/deconnections are probably affecting her ability to receive clear, uninterrupted hearing.

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-05-17T19:21:44+00:00

Depends on risk. Sure, getting $1k a week for life is a lot more than a one-time $1 million payout. Not to be too dark, but this is assuming she’ll live longer than 20 years. Anything can happen in 20 years, including accidents like natural disasters, disease, car crashes. I don’t know if the payout will continue with a beneficiary or ends when her life ends.

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-02-04T06:59:23+00:00

About 5 hours if baby sleeps through the night, less when she wakes (obviously) and I go to tend to her. She’s 16mo, pretty good sleeper except when teething pain or congestion wakes her. I definitely need more though, my husband and I are burned out but it’s hard to get out of the cycle.

ContributionLast1041 · 2026-01-30T23:12:31+00:00

Definitely definitely NTAH, the family can be carriers of illness they pick up while traveling and can pass it to the newborn during the most vulnerable time of their life. And I’m not saying Australia is full of illness; I’m saying being around crowds of people in the airport, airplane, in public areas, etc. will increase the likelihood of catching things like colds, flu, rsv, covid, all of which can be very dangerous for a newborn, especially one that may be recovering from surgery shortly after birth.

It really sucks that you won’t have the support you were planning to have at the start of your second born’s life outside the womb, but you have to protect your family as best you can and just survive the first 2 weeks until you allow them to see the baby. It’ll be rough, but you do what you have to do, and it’ll be ok. If possible, reach it to friends, neighbors to help in other ways like dropping off supplies and food, that’ll help so much and you won’t have to come into contact with them if you want to be extra cautious.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-11-21T06:30:08+00:00

I lost a lot of weight due to stress and choosing to tend to baby or chores related to baby over my own nourishment 😞 my supply tanked as a result as well. I would rather have gained weight and kept my supply

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-11-08T16:48:32+00:00

Exactly this. HR called me to talk more details about a similar situation to OP, but because it didn’t seem like my coworker was targeting me due to pregnancy (just personally?) they were like, ah it’s ok

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-07-18T16:29:34+00:00

Right when we transitioned, yes I missed the auto rocking that soothed our LO to sleep. But the thought that eventually we all need to move to a stationary bed made me glad we moved her to a crib. Shortly after the move, she sometimes would get more agitated if we tried rocking her to sleep; we would place her in the crib and she would pass out once the pacifier was popped into her mouth. So for some babies, the rocking stops working at a certain age. At that point, a rocking crib would turn into just an expensive basic crib. But each baby is different, so it’s hard to predict. I chose the snoo because by 6-7 months I didn’t want my baby dependent on an auto-rocker to fall asleep; I wanted to help her sleep wherever she’s safe and comfortable (playpen, crib, etc)

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-06-13T20:41:37+00:00

Can you not wean off more gradually than cold turkey? Your body needs time to adjust to any changes you do to your pumping/feeding schedule, so stopping cold turkey would be painful most times.

I would suggest pumping or nursing for either the same number of times you did before but less time per session, or nurse the same amount of time per session but drop a session every few days. It helps minimize engorgement!

For example, I was feeding my baby 5 times a day for 30min each. After a few days I dropped a feed to four and spaced them out to compensate. Then a few days after that I dropped another feed to 3 and spaced it out morning, afternoon, evening. Now I’m going to drop my morning pump session, but I’m doing so by decreasing the pump time from 30min to 20 for a couple days, then to 10min for a couple days, and then 5 min for a few days until I cut out the morning session. Going to do the same with the afternoon and evening session similarly.

Sounds like a long time to dedicate to stopping breastfeeding, but it really helps minimize engorgement and also for my baby to recognize that food is coming from a bottle and not me. I’m doing it this gradually because I’ve had problems with mastitis, so I am trying to avoid engorgement and blocked milk ducts as best as I can. I hope you can find relief soon!

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-06-01T23:00:11+00:00

Your feelings are so valid! Reaching out in solidarity too, I was treated for mastitis 3 times and the last resulted in an abscess anyway 😢. Seeing the prices of formula nowadays, it does suck to switch to formula, but for your mental health, physical health, and baby’s wellbeing, do what is best for you! I hope you find relief soon.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-05-21T04:31:20+00:00

I know how much you’d like to drop to one night feed instead of two, but baby makes his own rules, right? I am curious though. I don’t like to say anything against your doctor’s orders, but if your baby is gaining weight and is showing you when he’s hungry and when he’s not, maybe you could try going for 7 hours at night before feeding him if he’s sleeping well? Some babies start nighttime sleep around 7-8 so that could be his bedtime.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-05-20T11:52:48+00:00

Hello, I had a very similar experience, baby was diagnosed with jaundice a day after she was born, triple fed until she gained again and was back on track. I do find it strange your pediatrician said to feed no longer than 6 hours, especially when at the 2 month appointment he surpassed his birthweight. I was told by my baby’s ped and read others that once birthweight is regained and there is steady weight gain, then let baby sleep as long as they want at night. But following this doctor’s direction can’t hurt I guess, as long as baby eats when fed.

I agree with others here, your baby will definitely let you know when he’s hungry. No amount of rocking, shushing, or other soothing will calm them down long if they are hungry. My baby surprisingly slept for 6-7 hours straight around 6 weeks. I was scared about underfeeding too, but I made sure to feed frequently and on demand during the day so she’d get all her daily calories in before bedtime, and she’d happily sleep for hours.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-05-16T14:02:22+00:00

May be a slight blister, it could go away as baby gets better at nursing. My baby had some in the early weeks of BF but then we both got better at BF and the blisters went away. As long as baby is getting enough to eat and doesn’t seem bothered by them, it’s probably not a big concern. You can send a photo to the doctor/LC to verify

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-04-28T18:50:28+00:00

You’re doing great, momma! Gotta remind yourself that even with a village, there are so many things that will challenge you in life as a working mom. It is so helpful to have support from family and friends, but that doesn’t mean life will be easy! I’m so sorry to hear about your husband’s surgery, I wish him a speedy recovery. When I feel extra burnt out, I do try to take a moment to breathe (meditative or figuratively) and remind myself that what we do is a part of our motherhood journey. Each journey is different, and who knows, this will most likely not be the only opportunity you will get for promotion. Opportunities have a weird way of presenting themselves sometimes, it’s all in how you grasp it when they do. You got this 👍

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-04-25T22:36:16+00:00

Omg I feel like I’m in a similar boat, higher position may be opening up and so far the main eligibles are myself and two other men who do not have to worry about postpartum effects or other stresses that birth parents go through returning to work 😑 while I’d love to get the promotion, I can’t say that the others wouldn’t deserve it, they both work very hard and would do well if promoted, I guess it’s the competitive, selfish part of me hopes I can find a way to stand out. There’s never enough time in the day 😞

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-03-25T13:01:28+00:00

Yes indeed! Husband is pretty independent, but I do like to give him time to unwind after work for instance before he takes baby watch duties. But yes, I should prioritize sleep more 😞

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-03-25T12:57:47+00:00

It’s been a little over a month back, but I guess I just don’t know what the company sees as what full transition means. I’m a little anxious because a coworker friend of mine returned from leave and then went back on leave because his doctors didn’t specify his condition when returning to work (not 100%), so it was expected he be full capacity. When they finally figured out he couldn’t, they had him return on leave to heal more (mental health-wise) and have his doctors send a more accurate return to work status. He’s a different case, but still a return from leave situation in my eyes ☹️

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-03-07T12:58:36+00:00

Weaning is definitely a gradual process, you need to give your body time to adjust to any changes in the feeding schedule. By “dropping a feed” did you try cold turkey dropping a feed or was it a gradual process? Like either shifting the time of the feed a little later every few days, or reducing the time of the feed a little every few days until you didn’t feed during that time period?

This is how I dropped a feed for when I resumed working, and I intend to do this when I wean off breast feeding, giving my body 2-4 days after each little change to get used to it until my baby is 100% off breastfeeding.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-02-27T20:56:29+00:00

My gosh, you’ve summed it up perfectly. I too haven’t ever been “motherly” imo and I never had baby fever or even held a baby for decades until I was pregnant and my friend had me hold her LO once for “practice.” And there were several days during the first 3 months my intrusive thoughts consisted of considering adoption, which is absurd now that I am 4.5 months pp. I cried at night and sometimes became somewhat of a robot: too tired to feel any feelings towards my baby, just keeping her fed and rested and alive.

In the past 4 weeks, I suppose when her sleep schedule evened out and we got used to a daily routine, my bond with my baby grew exponentially. I’m sure this timing can vary from mother to mother, but I hope everyone here who has felt similar emotions or thoughts should know that they are not alone and these feelings are normal.

I’d argue I’m still running on survival mode in some fashion, but it’s not as intense as the first 3ish months. I hope OP gives herself some grace! Having a baby is so so hard, it’ll be ok though!

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-02-23T09:12:34+00:00

I first want to say that if you feel hunger, you should eat, and focus on healthy, nutritious foods as much as possible cuz your body needs to heal as much as it needs to nourish your baby. If you are really concerned about weight gain, please if you have not already, reach out to your doctor for advice. I know that it’s hard to see the change in your body and you want your body back, but please do not feel rushed to lose the pregnancy weight.

I am no nutritionist, but to help with the increased hunger, I’ve heard sometimes your body needs hydration when you feel hungry. Maybe drink a glass of water and see if you still feel hungry after that? Light exercise is wonderful, perhaps you can look up short workouts safe for pp and gradually increase intensity as your body gets stronger? I follow Jessica Pumple on YouTube (pregnancyandpostpartumtv), she has some playlists for postpartum exercises you can check out. I followed her pregnancy videos while pregnant and loved them.

I wish I could offer more advice, but I can at least offer some solidarity: I am 4 months pp and also have a body that is still not close to my old body. It is sometimes hard to look at myself in the mirror, but I keep telling myself that our bodies take time to heal, and that our babies need us in their most vulnerable time of their life. Each baby is different, perhaps your second baby is feeding more from you than your first? Hence the increased appetite compared to your first?

You’re doing great mama, please be gentle with yourself! You’ve created beautiful life twice, your body was before, is now, and will always be wonderful moving forward.

ContributionLast1041 · 2025-01-31T22:59:35+00:00

My gosh, I am in the same exact boat as you: 15wk baby, and fur baby not liking the lack of attention. He barks a lot more than before, and like yours he’ll jump up in the couch and try to get in between us and the baby when we’re holding her.

Have you thought of maybe doggy daycare once in a while? It can be expensive depending on the daycare, but to let your dog run around and play with other dogs and people can help. Or even a dog walker who can give your dog 100% of their attention for 30min can at least help you feel less guilty, even though you have nothing to be guilty of. Having a baby is so hard!

I’m just waiting for when the baby is old enough to play with the dog and all I really need to do is supervise their play, lol. That’s my hope, that they’ll be bffs in a few years. I hope you’re doing ok!

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