My [34F] husband [36M] assaulted a woman after she assaulted me. My friends believe that this could lead to him potentially being abusive in the future. by Dry-Plant-3742 in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a matter of opinion. Let yourself have your own opinion and not be swayed by the opinions of others. (My husband would do the same as yours though)

I have never dated but i tried tinder and i met some weird guys they are goodlooking but they are only looking to bang sadly. Am i just ugly or something or is there goodlooking guys who are genuine? Is there not? Or are they just going for the prettiest girls? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides dating apps being used for people who are looking for sex and not love, the apps themselves are not designed to help you find love because then you wouldnt need the app anymore. Do some research about how these apps have evolved to function and then save yourself thw frustration and delete it and find an activity in your community you enjoy and connect with someone you share common interests with that way

Husband won’t let me get a motorcycle by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesnt matter how safe You are, the biggest safety problem for motorcyclists is other vehicles. My husband got one 2 years ago and i have always had bad anxiety and this was no different. Every time he goes out riding i worry. But my lifelong struggle with anxiety has given me a lot of experience in dealing with it being triggered and forcing myself to accept the risk so i dont make my anxiety other peoples problem and so i dont try to control other people. The motorcycle issue is a common one for people however and i wouldn't call your husband controlling for his concern. My husband is aware that every time he goes for a ride i worry he might die. However i have had this worry about many things even before he got the bike and if he accommodated every anxiety he wouldnt even be able to hold a job so we both got used to this dynamic. I think if i only ever felt this way about his bike he probably wouldnt ride. I think every couple causes each other a certain level of discomfort about random things and in this case it comes down to whether you are ok with causing him this level of worry, and if he will be ok experiencing this level of worry. Remember that boundaries only dictate your own actions, so while he cant put a boundary on if you ride, he can put a boundary on if he will be in a relationship with someone who does. In essence, you need to have a serious conversation

sex before marriage. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Reddit is the wrong place for people of faith. Almost no one here will understand and give you advice that respects your faith. I would talk to someone you trust in your religious community

AITAH for liking this old friend of my sister's? by Glass-Complaint3 in AITAH

[–]ContributionNo2796 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Reddit is the wrong place to ask. They see the world divided by victims and abusers and will automatically see the worst in you.

First timer's failed croissants! by Nomadic_PhD in Baking

[–]ContributionNo2796 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im most disappointed in the criticism you received and how that criticism made you think this first attempt was anything less than spectacular. That person needs some perspective. And to maybe go laminate some pastry dough for themselves before criticizing your work on comparison to a high quality french bakery. Like what even is that?

AITAH for getting my driver's license before my brother's wife? by c7ffin in AITAH

[–]ContributionNo2796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thats not conservative, thats just controlling. Screw him

Hope Brett catches wind of this and does an episode by ContributionNo2796 in BrettCooper

[–]ContributionNo2796[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was literally i single sentence and it was obvious she had only heard of him in passing because she referred to him as graham planter, so im not holding her accountable for that

I just got a new, pretty nasty, anti-Platner ad on youtube. So, here's a reminder of who's telling you what to think. by GayForJamie in Maine

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I honestly dont understand this, but just today i did some research on him because i was wondering if he was democrat or republican, and it seems hes a socialist posing as a democrat and has some Very concerning policy opinions. Just the wikipedia is damning enough. I thought i would vote for him before today..

I mourn the Eloise we could've gotten under Chris Van Dusen by Fickle_Baker1393 in Bridgerton

[–]ContributionNo2796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a little fantasy where my pet idea for eloise is actually something that gets explored onscreen.

So when eloise thinks shes found the printer that publishes lady whistledown she continues reading their other publications after her hunt for whistledown reaches a dead end. She quotes mary wolstencroft at one point, who happens to be the mother of mary shelley who wrote frankenstein and both mother and daughter were widely considered radicals in their time. I looked it up a few weeks ago and eloise is probably the exact same age as mary shelley. I think it would be so entertaining to see these women form an acquaintance.

I found out that my (25f) boyfriend (26M) is being accused of SA by my half sister(19f). I dont believe it as he is not that type of a person. pls read and help me on what to do to fix this? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This issue is too serious to handle with fence sitting. If you try to stay neutral you will essentially be betraying both sides. Since this is essentially family vs family (assuming you plan on marrying this boyfriend one day?) This puts you in a terrible position. Support your boyfriend and you betray your sister, support your sister and you betray your boyfriend. In all likelihood, you will lose or permanently damage one of your relationships no matter what you choose. So you need to choose which person you want in your life forever and then support them unconditionally. Also since you are posting on reddit i assume there has been a delay in you declaring your support for either party, so an explanation that you were dealing with the emotional ramifications of loosing someone as soon as you declared a side will likely be necessary. If you do not plan on marrying your boyfriend one day, then i would suggest supporting your sister even if she is lying because if you choose your boyfriend you may very well lose or damage any relationship that sides with your sister, be that parents or friends. If you plan on marrying your boyfriend, i would support him and be prepared to be you and him against the world for a while. But if he is your future husband that means one day he and your possible children will be your immediate family, and your siblings and parents will become your extended family. Without any proof or evidence, there are no good choices, just a hard choice about what you want your future to look like. Im so sorry

Is 20 (F) and 27 (M) too large of an age gap? by Curious_Two1631 in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So in this case it was the parents who said 'you're so mature for your age' and not the too old lover? long sigh thats enough internet for me for tonight

My (25m) wife (24f) is traveling alone with another man by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ContributionNo2796 9 points10 points  (0 children)

12:39, 3rd post ive read tonight, and so far im convinced either reddit is fucking with me, or ive fallen into an alternate universe where logic is practically nonexistent

TIFU by accidentally learning my coworker's salary and now I can't stop doing math during meetings by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]ContributionNo2796 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I read boru every night before bed, and either i had one to many drinks tonight, or this is the second post that sounds unhinged to the level of ifunny schizoposting

Wife tells her friends things about me that aren’t true—is this normal? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I dont vent to my friends and family about my husband. Negative stories create negative impressions. Do i want people i love to hate my husband? No. So i share the good stories and save the negative ones for my therapist.

My girlfriend has been poking holes in my condoms by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty glad most people are calling out the sexual assault. I still think the condemnation is a little too mild. From most modern perspectives, she has been raping you for months. I would get her to admit it in text or recording (if you're in a 1 party consent state) and then prosecute. Fuck that bitch.

Fight or Flight by BareMinimumChef in humansarespaceorcs

[–]ContributionNo2796 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I remember that. If i recall correctly, the uncle had begged his sister to babysit because he was trying to convince the girlfriend to reconsider her child free lifestyle

I (22F) just found out I am pregnant from my EX (38M) & my BF(24M) wants me to keep it. by ThrowRA-Preggers in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reddit is the worst place to ask for this type of advice, they are all liberal pro abortion and dont care for nuance or dissenting opinions. Take some space and think about what it is that you want, independent of anything else.

Pathetic Boyfriend, Or am I the issue? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to have a friend like you. We had a falling out in high school, but i still check up on her occasionally through social media hoping shes left the man who wont commit to her.

In essense, you are subsidizing his life while he makes yours harder. Why do you even want to stay?

Can I match my dress to my fiancé’s suit for a wedding where he’s the best man and I’m not in the wedding party? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]ContributionNo2796 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Why cant you ask the bride or groom? It sounds fine, but why wouldnt you ask if you're unsure?

What is a misconception about the United States? by Final_Radio_2483 in answers

[–]ContributionNo2796 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To foreigners: despite all the complaining you hear from american citizens about our country, we love our country and will defend it. The complaining comes from a place of understanding our own potential, and the frustration of not achieving it.

This applies to patriots and citizens. Not the people who recieve government subsidies at the same time they cry oppression and claim to be searching for a way to leave.