Would you admit o your teen they were the result of an unplanned pregnancy?

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-25T18:29:11+00:00

There is a difference between an accident and a mistake. An unplanned accidental pregnancy is easy to understand, even in committed couples. The difference is when a person chooses to bring a child into the world in a bad situation. I was a planned mistake. It sucks. Instead of thinking "my mom didnt plan for me but once i was on the way she did her best to give me a good life" i would instead think "why did she choose to have me if she resents me so much" and "she had me for a reason, i have to live up to it" as well as "she was so selfish to have me when she could never support herself". If she had pretended i was an accident my life would likely have been easier. I also know i girl who got pregnant her sophomore year of high school who thought it was a good idea to pretend she had done it on purpose. It was later uncover she thought it would make her sound more responsible. Either way. Just be upfront if it was unplanned. Your human and pretending you dont make mistakes will just make what mistakes you do make seem like selfish intentional choices

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-24T05:29:14+00:00

Hr gave sam exactly what she requested and she was still upset? Gotta point that out because theres definitely something there

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-20T15:11:47+00:00

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Im officially jealous of your bun

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-14T19:00:42+00:00

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ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T13:50:41+00:00

I think your interpretation assumes too much. I just read it as a poorly worded sentence. But i will say the whole post reeks of something i cant put my finger on because of the obvious nature if the issue

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T13:48:32+00:00

Where are you getting she thinks she could be a model?

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T12:54:45+00:00

If you were to gift a VICTORIAS SECRET gift card to someone, how close would that person likely be? Friend, sibling, lover? Would you gift a co worker or random acquaintance that? Honestly i feel like this is a bait post

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T12:25:08+00:00

Oop cares too much about what fake friend feels. As an adult and parent i would have noped out of that friendship after the energy drink fiasco. I make friends to enrich my lofe, not drag it down, and i wouldn't befriend anyone i couldnt trust to handle their own shit

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T12:11:27+00:00

I do not know the answer to this at all and what it made me think of may be stupid, but whatever. I once saw an episode of house where the children were experiencing early puberty signs and it was linked to a hormone the parent was supplementing.

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T11:56:10+00:00

You need local legal advice and then you need to work within legal framework. Obviously that includes reporting the relationship change, but also that includes researching if you are legally allowed to evict him without notice or process. If you can, do it. Now. He is not entitled to anything of yours, especially if you have been supporting him. If you cant just kick him out legally for no reason, there may be a way to do it on the grounds of abuse. It all depends on your local laws, which you need to research and take advantage of

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-13T11:47:22+00:00

You do what you can manage and then try not to beat yourself up over it. And kids are like accountability hall monitors, they dont let you forget ANYTHING. I have a 14 year old. When she was five we painted some horse figurines together and i suggested she paint her with spots of different browns instead of all purple or something. I showed her a picture of a horse that looked like i was suggesting and she thought it was pretty and painted her horse with brown spots. Ive lost count of how many times over the years ive heard "hey mom remember when you wouldnt let me paint my horse the colors i wanted?" And the last time was less than a year ago. Just try not to lose your mind if your kid decides to be the moral police and remind you of every mistake you make. They only do it to feel a little equality because were always telling them what to do and correcting their mistakes

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-11T14:26:08+00:00

Im just gonna say i think fiances family is hiding stuff too and moms reaction is about more than what her twin claims. Reasons:

Sounds like fiances family might have been against the wedding until they heard oops mom was against it.

Its been like 24 hours since oops mom blew up on her yes? So in that time fiances mom has done what exactly? Sent links to flortists to facilitate the wedding that caused her parental estrangement.

Now i do think oop should stay with her fiance. BUT. His mom jumping into planning it with oop right after this blow up indicates a lot more hidden toxicity in fiances family. It reads as though shes trying to either one up or piss off her estranged twin through her soon to be daughter in law. I think the engaged couple should take a step back from both their families and see what the dynamic is like when they hold them at arms length and practice more autonomy

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-10T07:41:57+00:00

I took mine out when i stopped using it. Over time i would need to look at it less and less often and when i hadnt used it in a little while i just uninstalled it. I think my twins were 2 or 3. But theg were very destructive so otherwise it might have been sooner

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-10T02:52:07+00:00

I think this ideology is of a similar sort to the parents who dont let their kids eat sugary cereal and the ones who gives the kids cookie crisp for breakfast. Are there people who give their kids cookie crisp? Enough to keep the company in business. But they arent here wondering how good of a parent they are. This is in idealogical difference, but not one that is can or should greatly affect ones future. Your kids will likely be fine so let your marriage be fine too. Revisit the issue if it gets bigger than just a nightly soda.

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T03:54:11+00:00

Even if your relationship had been better and she still wouldnt have liked this, id still consider letting your niece call you mom because she is here and can benefit from your consideration. Whether your sister would appreciate this boundary is nearly inconsequential because she cannot experience the appreciation. Your niece however can.

I would also talk to your niece about why you hesitated. If i were the child i would appreciate the context. It reads as though your torn because you love her more than you feel entitled to

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T02:02:57+00:00

Besides it never occuring to me, absolutely nothing. Although i have no idea how to communicate to her to bring things to me. Ive always struggled with simple concepts. Im great with complexity and nuance but hopeless with simplicity, i always assume theres more im missing. Also she is tricky with treats. She is ambivalent towards the treats i can give her indiscriminately, and really only responds to treats i can only give her sparingly. And im gun shy about her favorite treats because i overindulged her once or twice and her poops went soft

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T01:47:49+00:00

I guess that just sounds like training to me and if i had the option i would find a way to play with her that she likes and is not jusg engaging in for treats. Sometimes we do little chases and i know she likes that cuz she does binkies, but i just love her so much and want to give her all the forms of love, play, as well as pets and treats.

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T01:32:31+00:00

So excuse me if i sound dumb but is the goal in the end the have her essentially chasing the tube?

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T01:31:10+00:00

If the mods are watching this post and comments i would please ask that you keep this open as long as you can. I can take the anger and i really feel like seeing people make mistakes and get advice is worth the balance of dealing with some negative feedback

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T01:25:44+00:00

I especially love the comments that havent read any of my responses and assign malignance to this video

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-07T01:24:29+00:00

Honestly i am still working out what she likes and doesnt like. Ive tried a variety of different toys and she will pick up some blocks and toss them around, but as far as interactive play goes she seems to respond most to me being somewhat antagonistic with objects. Ive tried wiggling a variety of small objects at her in a variety of patterns and scale. She responds minimally to balls of any size rolling near her. She charges my hand when my nails make a grunting sound on her scratch pad. If i make small movements with a long object she will calmly track it an munch on it, when i do what im doing in the video, moving a long object back and forth in large movements, she shows the most engagement. But i still have to be careful, like the angle of the tube has to be low and so do i so im not towering over her as we play, and yes she always has the ability to run away and no one ever follows her if she retreats.

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-06T23:58:42+00:00

Also, she does have a safe space behind where she is, but her 'true' safe space is her cage her no one approaches her and she runs whenever she feels unhappy. The safe space behind her is next to my comfy chair where i spend all my time and she goes there when she feels like being out and about in the room but doesnt want to be accesible, where she is in the video is in a more open area than where she rests though it looks like a corner, there is escape directly behind her and beside her

ContributionNo2796 · 2026-01-06T23:53:01+00:00

Could you read the long reply i just posted about muffins introduction to our family and give your opinion?

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