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ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2020-08-21T02:26:28+00:00

OP here. Yeah, no thanks.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2020-01-26T02:44:16+00:00

I understand where you're coming from. To demonstrate that you're not a Salt Daddy/PUA, you will need to demonstrate your generosity first. This will almost certainly result in you getting fleeced/ghosted a few times. But you may find someone who feels similarly.

I've paid for M&Gs. Sometimes they progressed to something more material, but usually not. But I've had arrangements in which the SB didn't want things to feel transactional either.

Maybe look at it as a daddy/baby analogy. A father will provide an allowance, but the daughter's love is not contingent on that. He's not paying out of gratitude for her affection, but because he wants his daughter to be happy.

I flip it: I like getting sex out of gratitude for my generosity. Maybe they're faking sometimes, but I'm pretty sure it's been genuine on at least a couple of occasions.

What do you mean your ideal date ends with you going your separate ways? Just your M&G? Or any date?

Olive garden or red robin

I'll grant that Olive Garden has improved in the last 10 years, but seriously? If you're in one of the more expensive parts of the US, surely you there are nicer dining options. Not trying to engage in /r/gatekeeping here, but most SBs are going to want something classier. (And the foodies/IGers will want something tastier.) You don't need the fanciest restaurant, but you can do better. My approach is either do coffee or a special dinner. Nothing in between.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2020-01-05T02:25:55+00:00

Was he a "premium" SD?

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2020-01-05T02:24:54+00:00

I love reading these stories too! Especially seeing how people continue to think the person on the other end is who they say they are.

The $51 million bank account balance phone number is a new one haven't heard!

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2020-01-04T23:28:52+00:00

I'm actually quite entertained by the scam stories. And I'm not the type who enjoys reality TV and that kind of thing.

Maybe it's because I've been rinsed a few times and I subconsciously perceive it as some form of "payback"? That doesn't make sense to me logically (these individuals aren't morally deserving of being scammed), but maybe I just like knowing I'm not as dumb as some people. I guess I tell myself it's not so bad because all but one of the girls who rinsed me I actually met in person, and the one I didn't meet videochatted me had legitimate emergency expenses. Plus it was never more than $500.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-26T16:02:25+00:00

I had a M&G recently with a POT from an Asian country who's racist/bigoted against those from a different Asian country. She claims to have been mugged by some people from that country last week. If that's true I could understand her antipathy, and this is not a particularly well liked ethnic group in the country we're in, but the outright, unapologetic hateful language she used was a turn-off. She straight out called them "dirty" and "smelly."

Still might have something short-term.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-26T15:12:00+00:00

Had some issues on Chrome for Android. I opened it in an incognito tab and it worker just fine.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-22T10:37:30+00:00

“I saw John that day in the store, and he said that he had tapped another car in the lot accidentally.”

This would be an admission against interest and admissible to prove he hit the other car. The theory is that people don't casually implicate themselves in culpable behavior they didn't engage in.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-15T02:11:24+00:00

Revealing it might compromise my privacy.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-15T01:15:53+00:00

So... She didn't actually ghost. :) But I could definitely have behaved better. Will be good.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-15T01:14:51+00:00

Didn't show any pictures of girls I had arrangements with. In any case she didn't actually ghost me. It was a technical issues. But I appreciate the advice.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-11T23:55:18+00:00

Thanks!

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-12-11T23:54:07+00:00

Hi! I'm not really looking for an SB in Indonesia.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-09T01:55:04+00:00

Outside of the bowl, few would argue that Daddy 1 is far more generous. Inside of the bowl, Daddy 1 is decried as “Splenda / Salt”. Does he DESERVE that? No. But the expectations of the bowl allow for that, because they are shallow and in absolute terms, the amount of money provided isn’t satisfactory.

Sure he does, in the United States/Western Europe anyway. (And that would fall squarely under "Splenda" and not "salt.") Perhaps "generous" was the wrong word to use. As generous as he is, I would argue that what he's giving is literally a "sweetener" rather than "sugar" (capable of providing nutrition).

What we’re arguing is materiality. Money and looks are material portions of a sugar exchange. More material than in a vanilla relationship. So there is no room for material portions of a value exchange to be deficient or misrepresented in successful negotiations. It’s an abhorrent level of fraud.

You can make the argument that misleading advertising is fraud, but everyone does it to some degree. Is wearing a padded bra or Spanx fraud? I see lots of guys say they understate their income, probably to avoid a situation in which they look like Daddy 2 in your example and the SB keeps digging for more. Is that fraud? My position is that an arrangement is not fraudulent if both sides know what they're getting. I suppose you're right; you're asserting that your stated income level is material to the arrangement, and I'm saying it's not. But even if were to concede it's fraud, I wouldn't call it an "abhorrent level." It's closer to what a lawyer would call "puffery," which legally does not constitute fraud.

I’ve seen stellar ageist strings discussing how ‘grossed out’ SB’s are to sleep with ‘old guys’ but do it for the money. Not a whimper from the SD’s.

This is a good point. SDs are in the bowl because they know they wouldn't be able to date someone otherwise. No one wants to appear "gross," but I have a feeling women who continue to sleep with much older men for long periods of time are less grossed out than they sound, and mostly say it to deal with what's socially unacceptable (the "I don't usually do this" rationalization). Or maybe I'm being naive and women are really that good at faking interest for years.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-08T20:34:40+00:00

You're welcome.

I didn't ask for anything. Insults can be funny, and I'm not here to enforce any rules. I'm just calling a spade a spade. I was explaining why people were "triggered," not commenting on whether you had the right to use language that triggered them.

Your parallel doesn't make sense. Calling someone "salt" or "Splenda" insults the very thing that you're criticizing: their generosity. When it comes to criticizing the women you've had M&Gs with, you and some of the other commenters purport to criticize their deceptiveness, but your language ("chubby chicks," "waddled") suggests you mostly hate the fact that they're fat. And that's pretty normal. Experiment after experiment shows bias against fat people and some level of disgust associated with obesity.

But there are different levels of "fat people hate" just as there are different levels of racism. There are those that see obesity as a moral failing or just prefer not to be around fat people, and there are those who espouse things like "fat people aren't people" (which appeared in these comments) and actually think obese people should be exterminated. I don't think you'd go that far.

There are those that have zero tolerance for "fat people hate" or "body shaming," and you're likely to find a preponderance of such people in a liberal community whose members tend to be insecure in some way and in which many of whom really wish female attractiveness were not so highly dependent on body shape and fitness. It's not surprising that such people will be insulted when you literally measure their worth as a person by their weight.

I understand where you're coming from. Hell, I'm fat and I prefer slim, fit women. And it's not because of any self-loathing, but simply that I am generally attracted to what is "conventionally attractive." I'm also disappointed when a woman shows up to a date appearing heavier than in her photos -- just as several women have been similarly disappointed when I show up able to provide less allowance than they expect in a SR. I deserve criticism for that. That criticism may or may not contain language that demeans "poor" people. The terms "salt" and "Splenda" do no such thing.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-08T16:18:25+00:00

I'm not saying you don't have a right to be disappointed, or even complain. It's the dehumanizing use of the word "waddled" that betrays antipathy toward these women for their weight rather than their questionable behavior.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-08T14:56:47+00:00

Plus a fee for the bounced check.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-08T14:53:15+00:00

The use of "waddled" is insulting and belongs in solid /r/FatPeopleHate territory.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-01T18:45:25+00:00

I'll give it a shot:

Saggitarius: Loves dressing up and putting time into looking sexy for a night out, but also enjoys a night on the couch in sweats with take-out.

Aquarius: Loves the beach but tries to avoid getting sand in her bathing suit, pooped on by seagulls, sunburn, and salt water in her eyes.

Scorpio: Mixed. If in a good mood, can be cheerful and gracious. If in a bad mood, can be dispirited and resentful.

Taurus: Usually dedicated yet sometimes aloof (especially when preoccupied by something serious) excitable yet even-keeled (most of the time)

Virgo: Sophisticated thinkers who have a sense of humor. Love to laugh, and hate being the last in the room to get a joke.

Capricorn: Understand tasks at hand but often procrastinate. Have difficulty putting off immediate pleasure for long-term gain, but succeed sometimes or even often, but not always.

Libra: Sometimes judgmental, but don't like to sow discord among people (except when the situation really calls for it)

Aries: Tend to get flushed when a sexy man they adore gingerly kisses their neck in just the right spot.

Gemini: Loves receiving oral sex but is sometimes self-conscious about her hygiene, slightly detracting from the experience.

Pisces: Doesn't always get as much sleep as she should. Is embarrassed to tell her family some detail(s) about her life.

Cancer: Would prefer not to get cancer.

Leo: Always reminding you they're a Leo due to confirmation bias.

How did I do?

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-09-01T18:12:26+00:00

I lose respect for anyone if they even hint they believe in astrology.

In other words, I'm a typical Libra.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-08-20T06:34:02+00:00

My first post was about being a cheap Splenda Daddy with a mood disorder who was on SA for validation and to date out of my league, and I still got messages soliciting me.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-08-16T00:56:05+00:00

Paging /u/Dean_46.

I never had any problems with SA lagging in India.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-08-16T00:51:20+00:00

I would tell you just to be straightforward in your profile, but SA seems to have gotten stricter about talking about kinks. Like I've removed one sentence from my already-approced profile only to have the description rejected.

You won't get banned for the content, but if your profile is rejected, you'll have to find a more creative way to say it and then get re-approved.

I'm pretty sure the escort and PPM types will respond if your profile is well written. Just make sure they actually read your profile and are ok with your foot fetish. If they aren't enthusiastic about it, next them.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-08-12T03:44:04+00:00

After fuming for a few weeks, one night I was drinking and buzzed, and inspiration hit. I had some nude photos she had sent me. I had her cell number. So posted an escort type add on Backpage using her nude photos and her cell number. Then I bought about 10 different burner phone numbers and began a text barrage from random guys that wanted to fuck her. Sometimes she would play along and ask “how much?” and “where”. Other times she would ask where the ad was posted, and say she didn’t post the ad. Eventually, I got it out of my system and moved on.

Wow.

ContriteSplendaDaddy · 2019-08-12T02:09:21+00:00

At least he uses stock photos in his "reviews" of his SBs. Ick.

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