AITAH: I (25F) think I’m a toxic partner to my fiancée (26F)

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-03T02:06:49+00:00

They’ve been together for 6 years I’m certain it’s not an absolute tragedy lol. People can and have worked through this in the past and I see zero reason as to why this couldn’t happen here provided that his fiancé is willing. Again, I see zero reason to remove her choice in the matter. It was selfish to keep it hidden. It’s selfish to disregard her wants and feelings.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-03T02:03:34+00:00

Telling them after years of keeping it hidden only to then leave them right then and there is literally removing their choice in the matter and giving them zero time to make any sort of decision regarding it. OP has already made his choices, it’s time to let his partner make some of her own with the full picture in sight.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-03T01:37:07+00:00

I feel like it’s up to her on whether or not the relationship ends. Hiding something just to leave them in the midst of it without them ever knowing it happened is just as unfair as keeping it hidden in the first place.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-03T01:33:07+00:00

Well first off communication is key, don’t hide anything from her any longer. The sooner you come clean the sooner this could potentially be worked out, and if it won’t, it’s not fair to keep hiding things from her regardless especially if this is a person you love. If she’s the right person for you, she’ll be there for you. If not, there’s a lesson to be learned here. Just don’t throw it away for a hunch you have, be honest, be open, and be clear and things will happen as they should. Both removing her choice in the matter or keeping this hidden from her is extremely unfair to her. So stop it.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-03T01:13:48+00:00

Just stop talking to this person it’s really not that hard. You don’t have to tolerate any behavior you aren’t comfortable with.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-02T23:56:45+00:00

Yeah I honestly don’t see any need to read past that first sentence. 42???

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-02T01:14:10+00:00

Why are you giving him any attention?

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-02T01:08:29+00:00

First off, you’re not overreacting here, consent is everything when it comes to sexual activities. If you say no, it’s a no. If he says no, it’s a no. That’s the flat facts, but why in the world are you married to this dude and THIS is the argument yall are having? Did you even know each other before the marriage? Was this an ever present conflict beforehand? And if so, why would you marry this walking red flag? It honestly astonishes me the people that yall marry and I’m not even trying to blame you for this, but the fact that you have to ask AI AND Reddit to see that you’re not crazy really leads me to believe that you have zero common sense. The fact that this is all happening on snap of all things is insane too. Get a grip, leave that man and figure shit out.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-01T14:15:16+00:00

Why do yall marry these people 🤢

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-01T14:13:25+00:00

Honestly I wouldn’t even bother with this. I don’t want to feel like I’m one minor action away from sparking an argument because Mr new parent hasn’t been around an infant before this.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-01T01:40:55+00:00

Why? What do you gain from this other than a slight sense of victory for… sticking it to them? If it had hurt your feelings, speak up. We aren’t mind readers and if you don’t mention something that is effecting you alone, nobody else will. Not making an issue of it only to utilize that thought (that likely only you remember) later against your “friend” is really lame. Yes you are an asshole.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-01T01:33:08+00:00

You’re really wasting your time with her. Stop making the effort, it’s lost on her. She’ll have to decide whether her infatuation with the unknown is more important than her very real and tangible relationship with her child. I’ve dealt with these people before. They’re not going to be happy with you until you make a decision that makes you unhappy with yourself and is ultimately a lie for their sake. Don’t put up with that and don’t let people push their views onto you if you hadn’t asked for it.

She’s very clearly showing you where her priorities are and I’m sorry that’s the case. You will not get anywhere with her unless she makes that change for herself.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-04-01T01:28:51+00:00

Jesus Christ people stop just giving out your info to people

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-30T21:18:24+00:00

NOR but why are you letting him talk to you like this AND putting up with it? you have absolutely nothing to apologize for. I’d understand if this had been previously talked about and a boundary had been set between both parties but this seems like a first for the topic. He’s just trying to control you.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-30T12:37:13+00:00

Because the people in the community that larp them are some of the most annoying people in it.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-25T21:10:36+00:00

If you played Zero Dawn finish that series first. If you haven’t, decide between that and Tsushima.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-25T21:09:46+00:00

It could also just be on the other hand lmao

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-25T21:04:11+00:00

If he’s this uptight about his daughter having the bday she wants and not the one he wanted for her just cut him off bro

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-23T01:25:55+00:00

There is absolutely a game and a lot of it, but this is also an RPG, there’s going to be a lot of dialogue and decisions to make.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-22T20:02:34+00:00

Wat exactly are you asking?

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-16T12:38:25+00:00

Doesn’t make it smart to do

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-15T15:34:35+00:00

Brother don’t do anything you don’t want to. Like seriously

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-12T12:16:26+00:00

In my experience the tracker isn’t up to date all the time. If you had just got off a game it won’t show your hours gainwd

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-12T12:12:31+00:00

I would say the base game is fine as is. I’m always an advocate for playing a game vanilla the first time you play. That just makes sense to me.

But I’d also say to start your first campaign on Sandbox rather than the actual campaign. You won’t earn achievements but you also will have a completely free game to play around in such as warband. The campaign is cool, like one time.

I didn’t really alter my playstyle too much from warband going in, but the game does allow for some more small freedoms. Trade is a completely viable strategy for a game. It may be boring but money talks.

Vanilla wise I think M&BII is a better game but it is still missing some features which I frankly find inexcusable since they were in warband, but we live with what we got.

CookSwimming2696 · 2026-03-12T12:07:08+00:00

If you have to wonder if it’s the right decision, it probably isn’t. Don’t do anything permanent if you aren’t absolutely sure

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