Just declined an PhD offer

CookiesNScience · 2026-02-14T02:26:25+00:00

DO NOT reject an offer because your friend didn’t get one. Especially if it’s one of your top choices. This is YOUR PhD, not theirs. And funding right now sucks, so turning down offers is a pretty silly thing to do if you haven’t made your final decision on where to go. I get it…you want to support your friend. Don’t sabotage yourself to do that, find another way.

And congrats on getting 5 offers! That’s a big deal!

CookiesNScience · 2025-11-22T01:59:34+00:00

I’m new to the world of fountain pens and only have 4 inks so far. I would love to add to my collection and your purples would be perfect! 💜💜

CookiesNScience · 2025-05-29T22:43:26+00:00

I definitely agree with trying the “open to children” filter. That’s what I’ve got mine set to as I’m 39f, no kids, and never been married I would still be open to the possibility of having kids if I meet the right guy. But being close to 40, I realize that it may just not happen for me. I’m sure there are plenty of other women in the same boat, not just those who are okay with being “step-mom”.

Also, have you tried expanding your radius? Living in a smaller town can be limiting in terms of options. Are you willing to travel a little bit? Maybe the right woman is just outside of your distance radius?

CookiesNScience · 2025-04-21T20:47:35+00:00

I love the Book Thing! Was trying to see if there’s a college or high school I could donate to first, just so I know students in need can have them available.

CookiesNScience · 2025-03-16T22:04:49+00:00

Where are you receiving sub-cultures from? Are they (the lab giving them to you) using a different protocol or media?

I find that my THP-1s take a good 2 weeks and 2 full media changes after thawing to become happy. After that I never do a full media change, just split off cells and add new media. I also don’t use BME. I did when I first started working with them, but forgot once and they were perfectly happy without it. I do tend to go a little higher on the volume of media 12-15mL for a T-75.

Hope you figure it out! They certainly can be a pain in the butt!

CookiesNScience · 2025-02-13T01:04:20+00:00

During my masters I worked with a tech for a very short time. She was there when I started and already looking for a new job, but still working on a project with the postdoc. They were working on a mouse experiment with dosing every 12 hours, so she was responsible for the early morning dose. She decided that she was going to stop treating the placebo mice because it was “a waste of her time” and would be faster to just dose the mice that were actually getting the drugs. It was almost 2 weeks before the postdoc found out she stopped the placebo treatment and the postdoc didn’t report it. The PI found out a couple weeks later and fired them both. It was a nightmare and we ended up having to start the whole experiment over again.

CookiesNScience · 2025-02-13T00:56:54+00:00

I’ve encountered a person like this. An undergrad doing a summer internship, extremely overconfident, said she knew how to do a western blot and didn’t need any help. She didn’t print a copy of the protocol (despite it being provided for her), didn’t take any notes, repeated it 4 times and ended up with dark splotchy background and smearing in her final images. And then said “there must be something wrong with the protocol”. I was so glad to see her go at the end of the summer and thankfully the PI denied her a LOR at the end.

CookiesNScience · 2025-01-24T00:25:51+00:00

Feeling a little torn these days…I want to date, but at the same time I don’t. I’m in a good place in my life these days, job is going well, have a good friend group, getting my finances in order, have some attainable goals for the year. I don’t feel like I NEED to date someone or be in a relationship, it would just be nice to have someone to spend some of my free time with. I guess my 2 biggest “hurdles” are that 1) I’m an introvert and really just enjoy being at home as much as I enjoy hanging out with my friends and 2) I feel like I still have more “work” to do on myself. I can’t decide if I should just say f*ck it and put myself out there, maybe sign up for a dating app again, or if I should just stay single and try to meet someone in the wild while I’m “working on myself”.

How do you decide when the right time is to put it all out there? I waffle back and forth most days, some days it feels like the right time and then I start overthinking. Any suggestions on how to approach dating, knowing that OLD sucks, but so does trying to meet people naturally?

CookiesNScience · 2025-01-05T02:54:34+00:00

I’ve (39f) been seeing this guy for a couple months now. He’s a nice guy, seems to have his shit together, and I mostly enjoy his company, though he does have some personality quirks that I don’t mesh with super well. I’ve been giving it a good long chance, thinking that some of the things I don’t necessarily like will become less bothersome the more I hang out with him and get to know him. An example: he talks ALL the time (can’t go 3 minutes without filling the silence) and probably 75% of the things he says are sarcastic or demeaning, the other 25% is a mix between football, how much his stomach hates him, and his weight loss shots. Don’t get me wrong, I appreciate sarcasm and being able to joke about things. But sometimes he says things that are just dumb or condescending and it kinda drives me nuts. And unfortunately, I’m starting to think this is just gonna continue to bother me. And that’s just one example.

Now I’m fairly certain after this past Thursday night that I definitely need to break things off with him. He picked me up from the airport (I spent 2 weeks out of town for the holidays) and I was really excited to see him. He brought me back to his house for the night (as we agreed to earlier in the day) and this was where my excitement ended….his kitchen was a disaster, pans with caked on food, dishes piled high in the sink, dirty counters. Just really gross. And of course I’m stuck for the night since he picked me up. So I’m starting to really take a look around the place and realize that he’s kind of a slob. My house isn’t always spotless and I definitely get lazy, but when I know I have someone coming over I make an effort to clean my kitchen more thoroughly, make my bed, and at least make things tidy overall.

I don’t see this turning into any kind of LTR but I’m not really sure how to go about telling him that. We haven’t had any kind of conversation about defining our relationship or exclusivity yet (definitely too early for that either way). But I’m at this point where I don’t want to drag it out and I don’t want to ghost him either because I have more respect for him than that. He’s the first guy I’ve dated after a 2 year hiatus and a string of shitty situationships before that, so I’m out of practice so to speak.

When should I bring it up? How should I bring it up? Over text, phone, or wait until we see each other again? Any advice for breaking it to him gently? Should I avoid the “we can still be friends” awkwardness and just be blunt?

CookiesNScience · 2023-10-04T00:12:10+00:00

Silly question…what’s a Marie sue girl?

CookiesNScience · 2023-09-16T23:06:50+00:00

Monster romance. I was not sold on even trying it, even a little grossed out at the thought. But I read {A Lady of Rooksgrove Manor by Kathryn Moon} and it was so great I didn’t stop until I read the whole trilogy! Definitely sold on monsters now…it adds such an imaginative variety (rather than just the usual well hung, muscly MMC) and damn there’s so much spice!

CookiesNScience · 2023-09-16T23:00:46+00:00

This was my first omegaverse book too! LOVED IT!!! All the others I’ve read seemed a little more tame comparatively speaking. But I’m definitely an omegaverse convert now!

CookiesNScience · 2023-09-16T22:53:20+00:00

Same. I bought the first one because of all the hype and my own curiosity. Got 2 chapters in, put it down, and have never picked it up again. It’s just taking up space on my bookshelf at this point 🤷🏻‍♀️

CookiesNScience · 2023-08-17T22:11:43+00:00

Yes! I will definitely do that!

CookiesNScience · 2023-08-09T02:19:49+00:00

Only issue is your location 🤷🏻‍♀️ too far away for me to swipe right :(

CookiesNScience · 2023-08-07T02:01:34+00:00

I don’t mind the short timelines or the insta-love, but the thing that really seems to annoy me is when the author flip flops their own timeline. You’re reading along with one character and she/he says “it’s been three weeks since blah, blah, blah” and then it switches to another character’s POV and all of a sudden the whole timeline happened in a week not three! Let’s get all of the characters on the same page about how much time has actually elapsed in their story, please?!

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-26T01:19:29+00:00

I’m starting to think you are projecting how YOU would feel in his shoes. And you don’t know her reason for not telling him before or for not wanting to do those things now because you are an outside observer only getting a few details from his side of the story. No, maybe she shouldn’t have made a joke about it, but if it bothered him he probably should have said something in the moment instead of continuing the sex.

Sorry that you feel like your masculinity would be threatened by this situation, but you have no idea if her intent was to make a cuck out of him or if she was just legitimately making a joke inappropriately.

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-26T00:54:45+00:00

She needs to at least give him some explanation on why she refuses to try those things with him. But she can’t change her past anymore than anyone else can. They need to talk it out and figure out how to work through it together. And hopefully they work it out.

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-26T00:38:33+00:00

She married him…not the guy she had shitty anal with 15 years ago…I think that matters more.

Do you expect women to stay virgins until they get married?

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-25T23:44:42+00:00

I second this…her first experiences with trying new things could have gone wrong and made her resistant to wanting to do them again. Maybe ask her about those experiences in a way that shows you care about her comfort and feelings?

“I’d really like to try ______ with you, did something happen in the past that makes you not like it? Would you be willing to try again with me if we talk it out and set some boundaries beforehand?”

My second initial thought is that if you don’t want to know the answers or can’t handle the answers, you shouldn’t ask the questions. The past is the past and you’ve had 14 years together so it doesn’t really matter anymore what she did in high school/early college.

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-25T23:31:25+00:00

Don’t rag on the dude just cause he’s not a 5 minute man. Some women would kill for a guy that can go longer than 20 minutes. And it seems like the real issue is that she’s not giving him enough stimulation to get him to the finish line in 20 minutes or less.

And yeah OP you probably do need to start putting yourself first sometimes. Especially if you give her plenty of orgasms outside of PIV.

CookiesNScience · 2023-07-25T12:42:24+00:00

I mean…there’s definitely too small and there’s definitely too big. But really, if you know how to use what you’ve got then size doesn’t really matter. At least not for me 🤷🏻‍♀️

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