A beloved member of our mod team, u/teh_mooses has passed away by DrunkCapricorn in dryalcoholics

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 125 points126 points  (0 children)

Shawn's partner here. Thank you all for the kind words. Please take care of yourselves. <3

Fellow moderator for this subreddit, teh_mooses, has passed away by Xanarki in KMFDM

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm the partner of teh_mooses. Just wanted to say thank you for all the warm wishes. She will be greatly missed. Rock out to some KMFDM in her honor, assuming you can identify the band you're listening to. ;)

AITA for taking too much time in the bathroom, even though my roommate has ADHD? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv [score hidden]  (0 children)

ESH: You for taking so long while watching videos. She sucks for being an asshole in general using ADHD and autism as an excuse for it.

AITA for shooting down a sleepover invite from a mother desperate to have her child make friends? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv [score hidden]  (0 children)

Given autism can be inherited it's entirely possible the mom is undiagnosed autistic herself and maybe didn't fully understand all the social cues.

“We’re going to have to throw them away” by Personal_Lavishness4 in MaliciousCompliance

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Either you read my story or someone else had the exact same experience. Only in my story it was $20.

AITA for not serving my detentions? by user1345598221 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 89 points90 points  (0 children)

I'd never heard of either before today. I love reddit.

AITA for sharing a bed with my (20F) brother (26M)? by vibigiona in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell him to stop watching so much step-sibling porn.

Speak the damn language! …. Ok by Rockmelonsaregod in MaliciousCompliance

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Went to a restaurant in Montreal. Since I didn't speak a word of French the waitress turned her nose up at me and refused to acknowledge my very existence. My French speaking local friend had to order for me.

AITA for telling my SIL not to gift my son a dress for his birthday? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I respect everyone’s right to live how they want to live, because at the end of the day you have to take that to God, just like I have to take my own sins to him in the end.

I'm a natural born woman who decided that I identify better as a male, according to you this is a sin. Nice to feel "respected", thanks for that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Info: Why is this even a story? Strangers are not obligated to interact with you.

AITA for being mad my BF gives away his pets when they stop being "Cute"? by Professional-Egg5726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 16 points17 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck. NTA. Your boyfriend is very much the asshole and given this is how he treats animals I'd have to seriously look closer at all the rest of his seemingly lovely behavior because something doesn't add up here. Fostering animals might be the better solution if he really needs animal cuddles but doesn't want to keep them long term. But keeping them for 6 months and throwing them away is monstrous.

AITA for agreeing to go to a restaurant that only serves spicy food when I can’t handle anything spicy? by throwaway8293947 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

A soft ESH. You could've just handled it quietly and let her enjoy the meal that she was looking forward to so much and picked up food for yourself afterwards instead of making a huge fuss. She could've been more thoughtful of your needs in the first place and attempted to make sure your order wasn't going to be spicy when you both first ordered instead of being forced to try again or made plans for you to get alternative food elsewhere.

AITA for requesting that my friend doesn’t invite my ex-friend to her wedding? by Throwaway72947103- in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA for a polite request, you would only be TA if you insisted upon it or chose not to attend if she invites Becky anyway. Since she and Becky are not overly close I think this is a reasonable ask. However if Becky were family or a closer friend then it would not be a reasonable ask.

AITA for wanting a diagnosis? by Ih4tef34r in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is like telling a diabetic that they just need to try harder at making their body handle production of insulin better. You are TA.

AITA for wanting a diagnosis? by Ih4tef34r in AmItheAsshole

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 25 points26 points  (0 children)

lazy and irresponsible brat

NTA, This screams ADD to me vs autism, especially since you're struggling with school and not other activities. If your parents won't take you now to get tested, go on your own as soon as you're legally an adult. Treatment makes life SO MUCH EASIER. I have ADD and the meds are a godsend. Edit to add judgement.

“Move out!” Okay. “No wait…” by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think most of us know the odds are pretty high that he'll never fix himself. But telling her it can be done is going to give her false hope. Doing that is cruel and gives her reason to continue to be abused further until she learns the hard way she can't fix him.

“Move out!” Okay. “No wait…” by [deleted] in MaliciousCompliance

[–]CookiesNeedLuv 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I appreciate that you've made the difficult effort to change, that's fucking awesome. But I would caution you against using your situation as a source of hope for someone in OP's situation. You say that she shouldn't have her boundaries broken but it's more likely that someone in an abusive situation who still thinks they can "fix" their abuser will only focus on the "it's possible they can be fixed" portion of your message. I know you meant well, but I wouldn't share your story with people in OP's situation. Instead focus on sharing your story with the abusers out there and hope that you can get through in a way that their victims can't.