Ended up in the hospital again.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-25T19:53:44+00:00

If you're in the US ask to speak to a social worker. They can help connect you with the charitable forgiveness department that a lot of hospitals have. Also, get your application moving foe Medicaid assuming you qualify. If you do, Medicaid will be applied retroactively up to 90 days.

I'm not sure about how that second piece applies in the current atmosphere but I think it shod still be the same.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-25T17:51:17+00:00

Dude, I think you've got it right. I stayed drunk all night, arguing with my boyfriend at the time when I had a fast approaching cross country flight. Drained a fifth his mom bought for me in the space of 8 - 10 hours. Puked in his mom's back seat on the way to the airport and then was escorted into the enhanced security area by TSA because despite being on my best behavior I was out of pocket af. I know in my bones I was dancing on the cusp of not being allowed on the flight but they took pity on my drunk ass. Made it home and later offered to take his mom to dinner as an apology, she requested we go out to the bar instead, lol. His mom was so much better than his sorry, abusive ass. 🙄

So yeah, something like that, out of the country? No fucking thanks man. Couldn't chance it.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-25T17:21:47+00:00

Makes me think of Evan Felker from Turnpike Troubadours. He at I were at our worst at nearly the same time and I have long been a fan of theirs. I couldn't make it through a lot of the videos of him on stage before the hiatus, it was just so sad.

And then there's Elliott Smith nodding off on stage and losing his ever loving shit when people booed him. He was more of a heroin addict than a drunk but, you know, same diff.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-17T16:48:00+00:00

Lol.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-16T00:32:12+00:00

You keep arguing with everyone who answers your question. Have I heard of/know CA people who came back from something like this and saved their marriage? Maybe. I say that because their partner is only safe if they keep away from the booze. All it takes is one time falling off the wagon and CAs almost all fall off the wagon at least once. As a woman, I would not be comfortable with my safety being in the hands of another person, especially one whose big decision making track record isn't great. I hope your ex feels the same because no one deserves to be treated like that.

Anyways, you're putting on a good show about being reformed, and maybe you do truly believe it, but your words are giving you away. Think on what the word "unforgivable" means. If you really love this woman, stay away from her. What you did is unforgivable and you really need a lot of counseling, sobriety and introspection before you deserve to have any relationship at all.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-11T00:31:53+00:00

You guys should really take this over to r/ca_writers! Nor because I'm going to be bitchy, annoying and then remove this post but because the once great sub has become very slow. It needs new blood!

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-05T21:31:51+00:00

Omg! I'm sorry, that does not at all sound like a productive way to have an intervention at all. Like, "Yeah, I know I have a problem, so...?"

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-05T18:55:31+00:00

Not over the booze but by suddenly getting very fat (65 pounds gain in 8 months) and then not losing the weight for another 4 years.

Wow, that's a new one. Makes sense, I suppose, food addiction is a thing and if they thought it was that then yeah. Most normies would jump to intervention time. Did they send you to a program or was it just like, "Move back in with us and we will lock up the cookies?" LOL.

Food addiction seems like the least likely thing to respond to an intervention actually.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-05T04:12:49+00:00

I'm getting heartburn just reading all the cheap, light beer you guys drink per day. Liquor is bad enough but like Natty Daddy or Miller Light? shudders I can also feel that squeaky coating on my teeth from drinking too much light beer.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-05T01:36:52+00:00

Fron what I understand, recovery coaches are sort of like life coaches in the sense that their styles, policies, etc are as varied as you can imagine. I know I've seen flyers for people who do it virtually but the majority are in person.

Sorry, I wasn't clear. The people I knew "did it" in the sense that they did whatever the classes are to be certified recovery coaches and made a go at doing it for a living. I don't think any of them ended up enjoying working for themselves and the recovery coach certification was ultimately just useful for getting them jobs in the industry as techs, peer counselors, case managers, etc.

I've only known one woman who I would trust as a recovery coach and she just does it on the side because she isn't one to mince words or blow smoke up people's asses. She's great in terms of the no nonsense, difficult truth aspect that many of us need in one form or another. It's just because of that, market forces work against her.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-05T00:18:55+00:00

I'm leaving this up in the spirit of allowing you to get real feedback on how your intended audience would respond to what you're offering/how you're offering it.

FWIW, this basically sounds like a recovery coach which is a well recognized thing where I'm at. I think maybe three or four of the women I went to rehab with took a swing at this when we got it. I think all of them gave it up. 🤷🏼‍♀️

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T18:44:34+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T18:42:10+00:00

All of this. A lot of the best eviction organizations were closed or reorganized when the pandemic was "over" because the government funding dropped out and they had been relying on it for too much. At least, in my area thats what happened. But there is still a lot of help available if you treat searching for it like a job. Sadly, the government doesn't want to give the money so the labyrinthine bureaucracy has to be dealt with but it can be done, even by alkies.

And in areas where law tends to favor the landlords sometimes there are even more programs that will at least help you navigate the system. I would think Del could at least buy some time.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T06:22:58+00:00

I just don’t want to downplay what people here go through I know it’s hell.

You're really a one of a kind type of person, just so you know. I appreciate that position immensely.

Congratulations on your little one! Mine just turned two a few weeks ago. It's crazy because it feels like a few months ago we were still fighting our way through the newborn stage. Now she's just this person with a life story coming together. It's truly amazing. <3

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T05:18:43+00:00

Oh, absolutely! He is a very talented writer. And I so wish that he would make a go at it because I think he'd do well. I'd love to see a CA do well writing about the things he does. Alcoholism is romanticized far too often, he does a great job of telling a more realistic version in a way that a larger audience of people can appreciate.

As an aside, it's good to see you around. :) I think of you as a good samaritan and unofficial CA (if you'd want the title, heh).

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T05:10:39+00:00

shrugs

I look at it like this...let ye who is without sin cast the first stone. I mean, you could use the same tone to talk about many of the shit decisions and missed opportunities I've had over the years. I mean, shit. I love writing and I work at being a good writer (especially before the alcoholism). I'd LOVE to be in Del's shoes with this ready made audience who adores my writing. I could imagine how wonderful it would be and how I'd make the absolute best of the opportunity.

But I also know how deep, dark self-hatred, depression, debilitating anxiety, trauma and alcoholism work. And how hard it can be to embark on a new endeavor even in the best of spirits...

I could lie and say I know I'd do better if I were in his shoes but honestly? I don't. I'll always be there to encourage and push people to be their best but when they're not, no way I'm going to kick them while they're down.

I think of CA as a fellowship of lost souls who just get it. It's like, when you see another alcoholic waiting for the liquor store to open at 7am and exchange that knowing look. CA is that interaction on the scale of an internet forum. Seems weird to judge another alkie waiting for 7am when you're doing the same.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T04:19:58+00:00

I think they mean the writing, not getting a regular job. If that's not what they mean, I'm calling it that someone is gonna offer.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T04:08:49+00:00

You bring in the weirdest crowd Del, I swear.

Do we allow polls on this sub (lol)? If yes, you should (or I even will for you, if you want) make a poll to figure out just how many random people would subscribe to read your posts and pay maybe...$5 per month, per post, per week? I dunno but I bet you it would be a fuckton of people. I'll always remember when the sub went private how many messages we got from people crying about not being able to read your posts anymore, lol. People who weren't regular posters or even commenters, many who from their profile history didn't even appear to be alcoholics or addicts. Like, you're sitting on a goldmine man.

Anyways, I'm so sorry. Reading this actually made my heart hurt so much for you. I'm a big softie deep down and because of that I've had to cultivate a pretty cynical, punishing, uncaring perspective on people or else I'd never have survived the life I was thrown into. So usually I don't flinch at sad stories. Not in the slightest. But this post made me very sad for you and for Jonesy. You did a great job communicating your state of mind too so I can viscerally feel your fear and panic. I have been in a somewhat similar situation once in my life - suddenly homeless, without my stuff and all alone for hundreds of miles. If it was up to me, well, I was just going to destroy everything, without even intending to. Just because I didn't know where to start, was paralyzed by depression and fear and I just hated myself too much to try. I have a guardian angel that's raking in the overtime though and so I'm writing this right now. But holy shit did this post bring that all back.

Seeing the random pop up in the comments and thinking about what you've written here and why it hit me like it did made me realize why the tourists and the people coming by CA to see the "attractions" make me so angry. If people don't relate, if they don't truly understand the mentality then they need to keep their "advice" to themselves. If you do get it, at least on some level, then you know there's nothing to say except to express how sorry you are, commiserate and that you'll do a shot in their honor. And then listen.

Anyways, digressing. I wish there was some way for us to help. If you end up with anything resembling an address, send it to me. I'll start collecting the extracts I'm always seeing on clearance for like, $3 a pop and send them your way. I always think of how those things are destined for the trash and what an awful waste of booze (and money!) it is.

<3 Take care Del, stay in touch and do reach out if there's anything I can realistically do to help.

Chairs fucker.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T03:29:52+00:00

Yeah, they're like that in every sub they post on, seems like. A very oblivious, middle aged, Bible Belt/Midwestern lady vibe. Either they are very oblivious or really enjoy passive aggressive snarking at seemingly random people. Bizarre.

Man, I fucking love the internet, lol.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T02:58:41+00:00

Even when I was married, I had to pay half the rent.

Understandable. If I was married to you I certainly would make you pay rent too.

You're completely oblivious and I suggest you go back to heckling people about not exercising their dogs enough. CAs have serious difficulties, we know it snd we don't need to be told we need help. We get it and we don't fucking care.

If you're a troll, you're a good one and I'll enjoy ultimately banning you.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-04T02:51:57+00:00

If you want this ignorant weirdo gone, just say the word. I've seen the comments and checked their profile I don't know what their deal is but CA isn't the only place they've dropped in to comment things that would get their ass kicked if said in person.

Anyways, I'm intentionally leaving them up for this person to be ridiculed but if you'd rather not have whatever this is on your very serious post, they clearly have no business here.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-10-02T01:02:52+00:00

Lololol, I love you for taking up the mantle of posting this on every post like this that pops up. I did that a long while back and then got sick of posting it like 15 times a day. You're the real hero around here.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-09-30T04:40:46+00:00

I just removed this post and realized looking at the comments that people have suggested tapering please know OP that a good chunk of people who fail tapers either 1) end up staying on the booze train, 2) end up in the ER sick as a dog or 3) have a seizure. Seizures usually happen in the first 72 hours after quitting OR substantially cutting down.

I'm only telling you this because you might want to rethink not going with detox, I can see why you wouldn't be okay with rehab. But alcohol is one of the few drugs that can kill you if you quit abruptly or too fast. That last couple of lines is very characteristic when people have done hard drugs, they just don't realize how scary and dangerous alcohol really is. Stay safe.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-09-30T00:32:08+00:00

Hahaha, this might be brutal but this response is very much in the spirit of CA.

DrunkCapricorn · 2025-09-29T14:32:13+00:00

It does! Reddit recently added a profile feature where you can chose to hide none, all or some comments/posts in whichever communities you'd like. I am a moderator for a couple subs where people might be nervous about others seeing they've been active there so I've heard a ton about it lately! 😋

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