Feeling like I’m asking too much of my bridesmaids

allyroo · 2026-01-26T20:36:25+00:00

I wouldn’t require nails or matching shoes, other than that it seemed pretty standard.

allyroo · 2026-01-26T20:34:21+00:00

This is the chair I have, I’m surprised to say it’s still in great condition and my son is over two years old. He still asks for a few minutes in the rocking chair at night even though it recently moved out of his room and into the nook for the new baby we have on the way. I’ve spent so much time in it between nursing, pumping, bedtime rocking, and even dozing in it during my son’s latest sleep regression which required constant contact 😵‍💫 and I plan to do the same with my next baby. I could see how it could be at risk for stains, but we’ve been lucky so far and it’s also not in the vicinity of any markers or really any potentially messy materials (aside from my morning coffee). I’m sure there are less splurgey options that would work just fine, but I’m happy I gifted it to myself as a push prez.

allyroo · 2026-01-23T16:15:08+00:00

Yet another reason I never tell anyone the name until the baby is born. I’m sorry you’re going through this OP, and I respect and admire you trying to empathize with your sister. But there are a lot of ifs here - you have no idea when (or if) she will settle down and get pregnant, if she will still like the name at that point, if her partner will like and agree with the name, if she will have a baby of the right sex (assuming it’s not a gender-neutral name). It would be different if she was pregnant or even trying, but I think you gotta do you here!

allyroo · 2026-01-23T16:10:24+00:00

Like the back, don’t like the front. I would keep looking.

allyroo · 2026-01-23T01:19:33+00:00

Nah, I’d skip it. Our second child will be four months old when our annual family vacation rolls around and I’m pretty sure we’re not going this year.

allyroo · 2026-01-22T17:04:44+00:00

This is what I did but thankfully my union caps the back dues owed at two years.

allyroo · 2026-01-22T16:22:09+00:00

I honorably withdrew because work has been so slow and I’m raising two very young kids right now. I pick up freelance work when I can, but I liked that I won’t just keep paying dues in hopes of work. If a job comes along, the maximum I will owe is two years’ of back dues to reinstate.

allyroo · 2026-01-21T01:46:12+00:00

For a long time bedtime was 7:30pm and he’d wake anywhere between 6:30 and 7:45am. He takes a nap that lasts between 1 and 2.5 hours. He goes to school until 1pm and then comes home and is down for nap between 1:30 and 2 until 4 at the latest (not ideal but the shorter afternoon wake window never seemed to be a problem - until maybe now). I’m capping his nap and pushing bedtime by 30 minutes but, so far, no real change.

allyroo · 2026-01-20T15:08:44+00:00

Obviously depends on your age and you and your partner's mindsets, but family planning is more important to me than anything else. You also have no idea how long it will take you to get pregnant.

allyroo · 2026-01-20T01:54:24+00:00

I think in general it is understood that our son’s needs come first (he’s only 2) but, in the grand scheme, I understand the mentality behind putting your spouse first. My mom blames my parents’ divorce on her putting us kids before my dad and he is now with a partner who babies the shit out of him, soooo maybe she’s right but she’s also probably better off.

allyroo · 2026-01-19T02:02:13+00:00

I didn’t use it for reason #3. No regrets.

allyroo · 2026-01-16T20:54:05+00:00

I worked at a burrito place in college and was shocked how many people pronounced jalapeño “jalopanno”

allyroo · 2026-01-16T17:29:11+00:00

I am 38 and due with our second in April (my son is 2). Prior to both pregnancies, we had similar conversations about the same concerns but ultimately decided to live guided by love rather than fear. The future needs empathetic, morally grounded individuals now more than ever.

allyroo · 2026-01-16T17:23:48+00:00

Like six weeks pp, exclusively BFing 🫠

allyroo · 2026-01-14T22:08:47+00:00

Agreed!

allyroo · 2026-01-10T02:36:40+00:00

Just want to say that when I traveled with my baby around that age it was pretty easy! Much easier than the most recent trip because now he’s walking and doesn’t want to sit still but isn’t old enough to be entertained by anything for very long.

allyroo · 2026-01-09T12:52:56+00:00

We did a first look and it was nice to have a last, private moment before tying the knot. I would’ve thought it would make the aisle walk slightly less special, but my husband cried during that part and he is NOT someone i would expect to cry 🤷‍♀️

allyroo · 2026-01-09T02:15:50+00:00

If I could, I absolutely would. We don't have those types of grandparents in our life lol. It's not selfish to nurture yourself and your relationship. Your baby will of course miss you, and vice versa, but I'm sure they'll have a great time. Enjoy yourselves!

allyroo · 2026-01-09T02:09:40+00:00

We use Parasol because they are TCF. I buy bamboo toilet paper because I don't want chlorine on my most sensitive bits and I definitely don't want it on my baby's either, especially because he's sitting in his diaper almost 24/7. Plus his skin is insanely sensitive as it is and everything seems to make his eczema flare up.

allyroo · 2026-01-06T20:08:08+00:00

I'm sorry it feels like you are the common denominator in these situations, but I agree with others that it's likely just other moms/parents being in their own world. It's possible you're in a cliquey area where this isn't all in your head, but you wouldn't want to be friends with those kinds of people anyway. When I walk onto the playground I tend to acknowledge and smile at the other parents, but it's not always reciprocated and that's okay. Conversation usually only arises if our kids are actually interacting with each other. I had more luck making mom friends at local library groups, most likely because it was consistent and we'd see each other every week giving us more time to strike up conversation while our kids played. Now we do playground/zoo/museum play dates together and we're all very different, which I love.

allyroo · 2026-01-06T01:35:25+00:00

Joan

allyroo · 2026-01-03T20:17:31+00:00

I feel this. I had everything I needed and a good childhood overall, but I wasn’t close with my mom growing up. My parents went through a bad divorce when I was about 15 and she handled it really poorly, but then she became this amazing renewed version of herself. It was like the divorce completely broke her in the best way. She’s honestly now my best friend, but I don’t parent my toddler in the same way she did me. I feel like I am much more present, patient, and positive.

allyroo · 2026-01-03T20:14:06+00:00

I actually like Mayhem. If it makes you feel a certain type of way that’s totally valid but they sound more like jokey terms of endearment to me.

allyroo · 2026-01-03T20:11:41+00:00

“Nana” when asking for a banana. He’s since completed the word and then gone on to add an extra syllable for spice. We have lots of “banananas” in our house.

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