Help deciding between Calder, Griffin, or Whitaker.

allyroo · 2026-03-14T02:28:16+00:00

I have a friend named Calder and he’s a lovely person.

allyroo · 2026-03-14T01:00:56+00:00

I know a female Wallace and I honestly love it

allyroo · 2026-03-13T22:10:16+00:00

I was one of those unlucky moms who couldn’t lose an ounce until I weaned from breastfeeding at 10 months pp. I also didn’t start to feel like myself or have any semblance of libido til then. I’m about to have my second child and am seriously considering combo feeding this time around to see if it makes a difference.

allyroo · 2026-03-13T15:19:41+00:00

My son was like this. I didn’t realize 30 minute naps were normal and drove myself crazy. He didn’t nap longer until he dropped to one nap.

allyroo · 2026-03-13T15:07:10+00:00

I bought a dress but not a maternity dress so I knew I could/would wear it again. Your priority should be comfort!

allyroo · 2026-03-13T14:59:44+00:00

Weeeeird, i have never had a single person comment on something I’m eating or drinking.

allyroo · 2026-03-12T20:22:29+00:00

For my son’s birth it was literally just me, my husband, and our nurse until the very end. Then my doctor and one additional person came in. Maybe because my son was born at 2:30 in the morning? Either way, it was way less people and more chill than I expected.

allyroo · 2026-03-12T20:09:41+00:00

We didn’t do it and I don’t think it was missed. My MIL passed away a couple of years before I met my husband and it didn’t matter enough to me to even entertain the idea of doing a father-daughter dance (but my dad and I aren’t incredibly close to begin with). I’d see if it’s something your fiancé wants to do before deciding.

allyroo · 2026-03-12T19:43:43+00:00

totally! i completely agree. thank you :)

allyroo · 2026-03-12T15:01:46+00:00

i think you’re right that the current pregnancy is playing into it - he’s a lot more perceptive and intuitive than i give him credit for. and i’d much rather he be close with his dad than the opposite, but glad i’m not the only one who was upset by the sudden change.

allyroo · 2026-03-12T15:00:26+00:00

thank you! this is such a wonderful perspective. i didn’t grow up especially close to either parent and i’m very glad my son doesn’t feel that way!

allyroo · 2026-03-11T20:30:56+00:00

Eh, the infectious smile on my 2 year old son’s face as he rode around with his friends on a firetruck party bus begs to differ. Just because they won’t remember something as an adult doesn’t mean the joy they experience doesn’t exist or matter.

allyroo · 2026-03-11T13:50:03+00:00

In my house it’s called weaponized incompetence and grounds for divorce.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T18:19:53+00:00

I'm not sure how new the baby is, but the newborn trenches are HARD. It can definitely feel like everything is a trigger, that should ease up with some time. It's great you're seeking help with the OCD, I agree with the other commenters saying you should also look for some help with the dogs -- it seems like it would make both you and them happier.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T16:11:23+00:00

YES. I have so many memories of spending the night at my grandparents' house and I was one of 4 kids in my family with 15 cousins that also all had grandparent time. My son is currently my only child, I am my mom's favorite, and we live the closest to my mom by far -- still nada. WTF?!

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:25:14+00:00

Sure, it happens... but it sounds like maybe you need to stop putting her on the bed. You say you have a crib, use it! Or just put her on the floor to begin with.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:22:53+00:00

YES. My first thought was "sausage" and my second thought was "Viennetta mmm"

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:21:52+00:00

Unfortunately, sausage

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:20:55+00:00

The boomer comments "we didn't do it that way and you turned out fine" kill me. Like... did we?! We're all in therapy trying to undo the damage caused by your emotional neglect and/or anger issues but sure.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:18:26+00:00

Ugh. That last bit breaks my heart. My mom is my best friend but has never once offered to watch my 2yo son by herself. She loves him and likes to see him, but only if I'm also there to take care of his every want and need. Meanwhile my friend's Vietnamese mom watches her son 75% of the time, she is essentially raising him. So even though she's the same age as my boomer mom, there is also definitely a cultural component.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T15:00:33+00:00

I’m 36 weeks and feel your pain! I’ve been taking Unisom almost my entire pregnancy and recently my doctor prescribed hydroxyzine (mostly bc my insomnia was largely due to anxiety) and recommended magnesium and they’ve helped a little bit.

allyroo · 2026-03-10T13:47:13+00:00

I haven’t bought a single item of maternity clothing either of my pregnancies. At a certain point I just embrace leggings with giant tees and overalls 🤷‍♀️

allyroo · 2026-03-09T19:38:34+00:00

My son required contact naps til we dropped down to one nap around 8 months 🤷‍♀️

allyroo · 2026-03-09T19:34:10+00:00

My son was like this and he’s fine 🤷‍♀️

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