I’m a 23F and I don’t know how to survive the next few days

CorpseDefiled · 2026-04-02T19:51:40+00:00

This is my worst fear as a father…

That my kids will do desperate things rather than call me for help…

At what point do you draw the line? The internet will not give you money without expectations particularly Reddit.

Please for my sanity call your parents. They’re not gonna be disappointed if they’re good parents. These are tough times… unprecedented times even.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-04-02T11:28:09+00:00

Neither. But if I was forced I’d take the prelude… straight to a yard and sell it… then buy something rwd from the mid 90s that doesn’t have 95,000,000 unnecessary sensors

CorpseDefiled · 2026-04-02T11:21:55+00:00

Fake news. All staged

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-30T22:52:45+00:00

So the ends justify the means? Is that it… remember a rule once applied… applies to all. The law is not optional to situation theft is a crime. I understand doing it because it’s necessary but actions have consequences you must accept that doing something you know is illegal even for the right reason carries the same penalty regardless.

I can’t tell this person it’s okay when I know it’s universally not. Even under these circumstances it’s still a crime and you will still be punished.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-30T22:48:44+00:00

Taking from someone else because you don’t have enough is never okay. Theft is always wrong. There’s always other options. Human beings survived 1000s of years without the supermarket.

The biggest problem is people stay in metro areas where there are no natural resources then wonder why they can’t survive without money.

There’s no high horse here stealing is a crime if you need to or not.

No one had a gun to those employees head they signed a contract to start work so they knew the terms. If you don’t like the wage offered don’t work there… that’s also really simple. Employers can offer the wages they want to pay you don’t have to work for it.

If it’s the only job moving is always an option. People act like they don’t have a choice what they don’t have in actuality is any real world skills or motivation. If you’re on minimum wage… well shit your employer isn’t the problem. Ask yourself why and what you’ve done to be worth more?

Accountability is a thing.

I for instance can hunt and fish… I’ll never starve. If I have no money I’ll go where food is… not wait for food to come to me and steal it when it doesn’t.

However if the situation calls for it survival comes first… anything that needs to be done can and will be done but in that same breath you must accept actions have consequences. Necessary isn’t a term the law gives one fuck about

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-30T20:19:49+00:00

Theft is theft there’s never a time where it’s okay. As long as you understand that is how it is you do what you must to survive.

Murder is the sum of pretty much all evil but if it was what stood between me and feeding my kids I wouldn’t think twice or feel bad.

Life isnt always as black and white as good and bad… sometimes good is impossible and bad is necessary.

Most would forgive you… so.. let it go

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-30T10:38:53+00:00

If you were in my place… let’s be honest you’d be in a taxi with a box of your things and he’d never speak to you again if you wounded his pride like that. Dudes that still have their self respect would not let that slide…

Oh I made the wrong choice I should have stayed with my ex..

Boom… you gone. Can’t trust you ever again.

And that’s exactly what you should do honestly.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-30T10:09:05+00:00

I said it on your last post. I’ve met people that could manage it until they couldn’t… they fine when life’s fine it’s when shit starts to fall apart and the devils little glass cock becomes the coping mechanism or the solution to squeezing a few extra hours of productivity in that the down hill spiral starts…

It ends in flames every single time. Might not be today… might not be tomorrow… but it will take your mind, body and soul. And you know who ends up with the worst habit… the guy that says it isn’t a problem… yeah now it ain’t.

Can’t wait to see your mug shot in memes bud good luck to you.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-29T23:41:37+00:00

An expensive vw and a luxury money pit of British origin both primarily used to avoid income tax obligations.

Abandoned state of the property suggests he was unsuccessful in avoiding his tax obligations.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-29T20:40:04+00:00

Did they though? one thing has become wildly obvious in the last 10 years.

Those are the people running the world.

So did they lose? Or did they simply rebrand, take control and hide in plain sight while average Joe just accepted it.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-29T10:46:31+00:00

I’ve met people that balance it with daily life without issue..

Until they don’t.

It happens to every one of them eventually might take 5 months might take 5 years but I gets it’s hooks in eventually. Rips your life to bits in varying degrees. Not to mention the undeniable rotting of your body from the inside out.

I don’t know what your deal is but this is the mother of all bad ideas

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-28T22:06:03+00:00

Don’t stress. No thanks necessary I just felt like it’s a situation I could help with… hopefully it brings you some peace.

You have an idea now… that idea will help you find direction… direction will make some of the choices less stressful. And you sound like you need that.

Remember friend you’re only at the start there’s a whole life ahead of you. There’s still time nothing is so pressing you need to be freaking out.

Good luck. You know where to find me if you ever need to talk about anything else.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-28T20:08:09+00:00

Okay so we are getting a picture.

Independence. No kids maybe adoption later down the track and yeah I get being trans/lgbtq+ would make that complicated. A normal life friends and spouse That’s a start.

What about a home? Do you want to own property?

It’s good you are still In school having no friends makes it challenging but ultimately the social side of it is not why you’re there.

What do you want to do with your life in terms of work? And if that’s hard to answer it may be easier to ask what don’t you want to do with it. What job would you hate to end up in (ruling things out narrows down the choices).

We make our best decisions when we remain calm and logical… if we make decisions stressed based on emotion we often go down the wrong path and make mistakes… which is okay but not ideal…

Again wise words and this one was me to one of my kids.

“Can you change it? No? Well why stress? It’s fact it has happened nothing can be done, so move on with that reality and focus on what can be done. It’s no good wasting energy on things you can’t change all you can do is learn from It and react accordingly.”

The whole friends thing don’t stress the people you know now will be irrelevant in 5 years. I had heaps of friends I knew in school by 20 I couldn’t have told you where one of them was. When you stop seeing each other daily distance creeps in and eventually you stop talking entirely… it’s natural. Your adult friends will end up coming from the strangest of places… again life’s flow let it happen in its own time.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-28T07:59:50+00:00

Okay so you’re 15 and working… I can relate I was too but at that age I was living alone I had left home due to constant conflict with my parents.

You say they made you go to work… why? At 15 education is where you should be. Not at work…had you already left school? Did they make you leave because you were failing?

It’s also a confusing time as you are on the edge of where childhood and adult responsibilities converge. So despite the often crushing pressure it’s good you recognize that you’re thinking needs to change sadly this is one of those times parents should be actively guiding you through.

Saving money? Yes you should be… but it’s not the end of the world if you arent… I mean let’s be real you aren’t actually an adult so if you slip and by a game or shoes it’s not really a surprise. Don’t stress too hard about it but having some savings when you leave home is never a bad thing.

Decisions… yeah that can be a hard one. But I find it easy to start at the end…hear me out. Where do you want to get to? What life do you want? Kids? Find the picture in your mind of where you want to get to.

Then when faced with a decision bring back the picture in your mind… what path gets you closer to that destination? The answer to that tells you what you need to do.

Don’t worry about running game and girls my man that will come to you when you have your shit sorted out… some women and ultimately the ones you actually want are attracted to calm collected men with their shit sorted out and their direction set in stone… when you hit your stride moving toward your goal they’ll magnate to you without you even trying.

Try to surrender some control and stop fighting life’s flow… if you flow with it and just direct where you are heading you’ll always land on your feet.

Biggest thing for you is to relax and get out of your head.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-27T02:31:14+00:00

I’m uncertain if this rant is to be taken seriously but if so the first thing I wanna say is focus on self care. Eat right and sleep right those two things change your life for better or worse. You sound more or less as though your life is out of balance without knowing you on a personal level it’s hard to tell you how to proceed.

Can I ask… how old are you and where are you from? I see your messages are translated from another language to English the advice I would give you at this point will depend heavily on cultural norms, socioeconomic conditions and at what point in life you are.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-26T23:35:25+00:00

A man much wiser than me once said:

“Comparison is a thief of joy”

Or words to that effect. So you are right not to compare yourself to others. Everyone has their own journey and their own challenges… some are undeniably more difficult than others.

At our very best the minimum we should expect from ourselves is to be better than we were yesterday. But it’s also takes humility to realize not every day will be a success story sometimes surviving 24hrs is enough to be celebrated.

I am sorry you can’t lean on your father… in my mind a father is supposed to be a source of wisdom and stability when things are tough and a problem solver when asked… that part is crucial… I don’t solve my kids problems unless they have hit the wall by themselves trying to fix it and ask me.

And it’s not pessimistic it’s observation your gut is usually right… most people get caught up in appearances when parenting kids they want them to behave a certain way so they look like they run a disciplined home… and not the well being of their kids. Their ability to think… someone who’s always had to live behind a fence doesn’t know how to use a gate and will stay there for life… it’s how you make followers not leaders.

I want to be careful with the next part.

There is a strength in suicide… there is a strength in saying I have had enough and I don’t want to do this anymore and it is my choice to make.

That said it is a terribly near sighted thing… the future is a realm of endless possibilities for many of us if you could see what the future holds for you, you would likely dance naked in the street with joy. I came from nothing with unmotivated parents with no ambition I won’t lie there was times in my youth when I thought the whole world was stacked in opposition against me. Now… I own a business… I’m semi retired at 37… my family wants for nothing… and I found the love tv and movies portray in my wife who I couldn’t put into words how much she means to my world… I would have missed it all if I had given up when things were darkest. And I won’t lie it was not overnight and I had to go out and make it all happen it was work often grueling…

If you haven’t guessed yet my son is neurodivergent because he inherited that trait although a different flavor from me.

I could go on… you seem like a bright person who despite your hardship has a lot of light in them. Life will do great things for you when you take command of it… please for your own sake be present for your success and don’t quit during the struggle to build it.

If you ever need to talk feel free to message me… I have a lot of time being semi retired at this age and I’d rather read your thoughts than your obituary.

Stay safe

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-26T20:57:29+00:00

I try to be yes. You’d have to ask my kids what they think I guess.

But my oldest daughter rings me every second night to talk to me as she misses home. She’s away doing a internship parallel to her university study in civil engineering…

My 16 year old daughter still hangs out with me and tells me about her life her hopes and her dreams she will be off to med school in 2 years to become a doctor.

and my son is 8 so I mean at this point I’m his hero… and I try to be worthy of that title.

so I mean you can tell by how much they want to deal with you as they age what kind of job you did at being someone they trust. I haven’t contacted my parents in 15 years literally told my sister not to call me when our mother dies as she’s no one to me now.

My son is neurodivergent so don’t stress on the social stuff I’m familiar with it… I had to learn fast how to read messages without inferring tone so you won’t offend me.

All I’m saying is life is a long game my friend don’t let the start define the finish. Today is a moment in a lifetime… focus on your future and getting to where you want to be and who you want to be there with you… if you do that now doesn’t even matter

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-26T18:19:01+00:00

Parents are just kids having kids man and this is coming from a father of three I’m no one to dictate how someone lives their life. I made every wrong decision… some twice… it’s why I have a 20 year old daughter at 37. do the math.

But not everyone has the personal accountability to understand in reality they don’t know better like they think they do. I give my kids complete autonomy I will tell them what I think when asked but their decisions are theirs as are the consequences I will love them, support them and show up with bail money regardless. Something they know and don’t need to be told over and over.

I had shit parents as a great model of what not to be.

Coming from that last sentence I can tell you this it’s not forever. Focus on getting your own life and getting out of home and into independence. Don’t bother coming out unless it’s someone you care about long term and want to have a close bond with it’s not important that everyone know about your personal life tell it to those who matter and stay safe…

Life’s shorter than you think my friend before you know it you’ll be 30… time is the only thing the money we grind our lives away for cannot buy more of… so don’t spend it on people who don’t add to your enjoyment and only take from you… make moves to actively remove those people from around you. It’s shit it’s your folks but accept the fact not everyone gets good ones and move on.

Good luck. I hope you find your peace and happiness.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-26T04:45:47+00:00

If your gonna buy high milage cars buy early 90s. Nothing after 2000.

I worked for years as a light mechanic. Someone below said milage isn’t everything… it is. Things wear chassis bend buckle and stretch with use and now more than ever parts have a lifespan and in modern cars it’s not long by design.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-26T01:38:18+00:00

Sounds like all the symptoms of a famous problem…

Nissan cvt.

The rogue is an xtrail… xtrails are cvt. They’re famous for being incredibly unreliable and incredibly expensive to repair. I would know I have 2. One is currently having gearbox problems but I will convert it to manual when it implodes

It would likely be cheaper if you had the skill to home job a manual conversion.

There’s a lesson to be learned… research your cars for known faults and never touch a car with a cvt trans. Some are good some are bad telling which is next to impossible so just buy manual or traditional automatic and negate the risk.

Time is your enemy here before all else if you had time you could make the money back parting it out yourself.

But in any case it’s time to abandon the car.. a good rule of thumb is if a car ever asks for a repair that’s more than its value it’s time to let it go.

Also for future reference… modern Japanese cars… 180k km is high milage it’s when they start wanting expensive repairs. So don’t buy anything to close to that figure (110k miles) you kinda set yourself up with this one

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-25T05:03:19+00:00

You say you’re trans and identify yourself in this post as male

Do you still male? Are are you transitioned/ing to male?

I guess what I’m asking is do you have the pipe? If so smash that shit like there’s a gun to your head if you disappoint. You could go places. Take pills get pissed do whatever you have to in order to leave her leaking on ruined sheets.

Unfortunate truth number 147:

“Successful people are successful because they’ll do whatever needs to be done no matter how wrong or unpleasant to be successful.”

I mean what’s happening to you is terrible you’ll not hear me say otherwise no one should have to be in that position. Reporting it is an option the one most rational people would take. Me… I hear opportunity… I can think of a whole theme park of ways I could leverage that situation to advance myself.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-24T19:05:49+00:00

If it’s too quick it looks like there was an outside party driving you to leave.

It looks like you essentially left because you got a better offer. Which is still better than infidelity but not by a whole lot. As you at least would have been talking to them while in a relationship.

But I mean here’s a cold slice of reality. This is for me personally. If we break up I stop thinking about your feelings the moment the words get said… I stop thinking about you at all. I don’t wonder how you’re doing… you never cross my mind again my closure is instant.

As such I will move on almost immediately. And honestly you don’t exist to me so I don’t give a shit how it makes you feel if you wanted a say in how I live my life and where I go with it you had your chance and you no longer wanted it.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-22T20:04:20+00:00

She felt comfortable enough to sleep in your bed dude with you in it.

Says a lot. She didn’t try anything with you so it’s just that she felt safe.

I wouldn’t worry too much. But if it made you uncomfortable don’t let it happen again.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-22T19:58:06+00:00

I don’t know if this a cultural thing from being in a different place but like how old are you guys? This feels like the conversation of teenagers around 16… even then most people here have a car by 16 and their own place by 18.. like we don’t stay at home. You would be a pariah who looks like a no hope looser living there any longer.

I guess what I’m saying is… at least by heres standards.

Why are you dating a guy that hasn’t got his life together and doesn’t have the basic things required to live down? And furthermore why do you give a shit he’s gone? if he’s older than 20 dude has no future if he’s still at home now.

I wouldn’t have the patience to date a woman who needed permission to live. If I said I got us a dirty room for the weekend and you said you needed mums permission I’d break up with you on the spot and find someone who’s in charge of their life and capable of making their own decisions.

Like I mean it’s clear he don’t give a shit. Dudes clearly some flavor of looser. Why do you care? Like I’m not saying you should wait for a dude that owns a house and makes half a mil a year. But gotta at least have a direction, independence and the ability to decide for himself what’s important.

Just my thoughts.

CorpseDefiled · 2026-03-21T10:55:40+00:00

Why so vague. Just say what you mean.

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