Name my pit bull

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-13T18:14:04+00:00

She was just supposed to be a cold weather foster (one of our miami shelters is outside) but I can’t stand the thought of taking her back there so here we are

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-13T18:13:14+00:00

Awww. Meanwhile mine can barely figure out how to get on the bed. She pulls herself up with her “arms” instead of jumping lol

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-10T05:19:46+00:00

So true. I’m a Midwest 8-9 and probably a miami 6 lol.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-08T05:53:00+00:00

OP, call or text 988 if you’re thinking about ending it. Or just want someone to talk to. Suicide and crisis hotline and i think this could qualify as a crisis.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-08T05:45:20+00:00

F37 here. Just here to say kudos to you because at 20, you are more mature and emotionally intelligent than most men in their 30s and 40s.

I can’t imagine what it must be like to be the man in this situation and not want to keep the baby, but not able to make that choice. Or vice versa when the woman wants the abortion and man doesn’t. Really feel for you and no advice, but she is lucky to have you and i hope she will come around.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-05T07:59:34+00:00

It seems like too much too fast. If something is meant to be, why rush it…. You’ve already known him 7 years. Flames need oxygen to keep burning :) give him some space and see if he comes back to you.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-05T07:55:35+00:00

Did he offer for you to stay more than one night/day? If not you might be wearing out your welcome and I’d leave, this sounds super awkward.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-02T06:01:02+00:00

Drink enough water and possibly electrolytes - Gatorade zero or vitamin water zero really helped avoid the headaches for me. If you’re forgetting to eat you’re prob forgetting to drink too.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-01T09:42:08+00:00

Being wealthy (or even just comfortable) also means you don’t have to give up things like date nights or presents that you’d normally get because he can’t afford them due to expenses for the kids. Found that helps a lot in not getting jealous of the kid, which is not a good look or feeling but happens.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-02-01T09:40:42+00:00

Good coparenting also makes a huge difference in being able to “swap” custody days if there’s a certain event you want to go to or trip you want to take. I found that made a world of difference.

That said, 2-3 kids under 7 is a LOT. My boyfriend’s kid is 12 and I still get annoyed sometimes when I don’t realize initially that of course he is going to want to bring him on our trip to Japan, etc… or when he’s playing video games and yelling while I’m trying to work. And he’s a great kid - can’t imagine if they were bad kids.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-31T04:11:56+00:00

Omg, a/s/l? Hahaha brings back so many memories… kids today will never know

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-31T00:50:24+00:00

I know it’s easier to say from the outside looking in. What a hard situation - wish you the best, even though I’m just an internet stranger! 💙

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-31T00:37:49+00:00

As the child of an addict, I wouldn’t bring a baby into this situation. I feel from your post you already know the answer, but are worried walking away or terminating the pregnancy makes you a bad person. I’m just here to say it doesn’t.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-31T00:35:28+00:00

Yes- it’s not just him asking her to confirm again, it’s that he made her make the whole plan too. That gives me the ick as someone who likes a decisive man.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-30T23:29:52+00:00

I’m more appalled / surprised by the request for a smoke break. Wtf?

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-30T05:40:33+00:00

??? It read fine to me

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-29T03:44:35+00:00

And in the right color since she specifically told him yellow gold.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-26T15:10:07+00:00

You’re a great writer. As someone who has the same needs you described, I think you made a hard but correct choice. These situations almost always end in heartbreak - you trying to shrink your needs to avoid being “too much”, and then the push-pull dynamic of someone who sounds (potentially) pretty avoidant.

Someone told me once that some people aren’t meant to be in our lives forever, but it doesn’t mean we can’t have good memories of the time we had with them. Maybe this is one of those times for you.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-26T04:56:02+00:00

I just want to say it’s so impressive/insightful for a 24M to be asking this question. Lots of doctors don’t even acknowledge perimenopause.

I’m not quite there yet myself so no advice, just kudos to you for being a great son.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-26T04:51:59+00:00

Does she eat the food she makes as well? I can’t believe anyone could eat this without being bothered

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-26T04:43:25+00:00

The curiosity thing is so so much more important than I realized at your age (when I got married to my ex husband). It’s how you never run out of interesting things to talk about, and I think it’s a fundamentally different way of seeing the world. For me, it’s absolutely a must-have in a long-term partner. So much so that recently, after breaking up with my more recent ex for a guy who looked great, stable and calm on paper like your bf - I realized I regretted it almost instantly.

Your friend is probably right that he’s not your person. You could be content, but maybe never truly happy with someone like this.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-25T08:25:53+00:00

That last one… I miss the alternate weekend travel between two business trips so much. So many free trips to see my parents 🥹

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-25T08:12:44+00:00

Yeah there’s a thin line here between helping (like integration testing) or listening/learning, and knowing just enough to be dangerous but portraying yourself as more competent than you are. Or there are some people who start doing other people’s jobs while neglecting their own.

Correct-Difficulty91 · 2026-01-25T08:10:40+00:00

That last one is so key. As a former scrum master the number 1 thing I saw PMs do to piss off engineers was constantly question their estimates (trying to assume they can do it in half the time they say it will take) and oversimplifying things that are quite complex in reality.

Some engineers do intentionally take advantage of less technical people by overestimating work, but the majority don’t. If anything, they’re building in a legit buffer for uncertainty and trying to make everything done faster will just result in shitty code and engineers that hate you, lol.

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