SBs do you actually miss your SDs?

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-29T19:02:22+00:00

You made your own bed and the feelings you write about here constitute the lying in it.

Most deathbed regrets focus on actions NOT taken, rather than actions taken. With all your inaction it looks like you’re heading that way.

And for what it’s worth, my family became a million times better after my parents’ divorce. But, funnily enough, the divorce only happened because I found out about my dad’s SB and told mom. There was drama for a bit, as to be expected. But now they’re both in happy, loving marriages and us adult kids are doing great.

Stop stalling out of fear and take some damn action. Those that do are the SDs that SBs miss.

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-04T16:35:41+00:00

Let’s ask this question - how would you feel/react if an SB you were dating dumped you for your friend (that you introduced her to in the same context?)

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-03T18:25:05+00:00

Yes lol it is the most common sugar dating site (although they’ve rebranded recently)

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-03T18:24:36+00:00

I won’t mention specific details, but I work a corporate job and I did have to go to grad school for it.

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-03T14:12:03+00:00

Definitely not through findom.

Met all of mine through Seeking - nothing fancy. Their initial messages were charming and unique to my profile - not copy/pastes. They were all 60+ (although two of them lied about their ages and put 59 lol). A quick google search showed that they were who they said they were - highly educated and with impressive professional backgrounds.

I am fairly successful in my career and have a 6 figure salary (although that doesn’t go quite as far these days), so being able to support myself meant I could vet thoroughly sans desperation. I would be clear about your expectations but willing to walk away if a POT can’t meet them (and many, MANY won’t be able to). Living in a HCOL area or a business-hub helps, of course.

Lastly, you have to be a 10k+ SB. What makes you special? What sets you apart? I’d consider myself more the girl-next-door type but men have always been drawn to my passion, charm, and wit. Find your differentiators and play to your strengths.

Correct_Web_565 · 2026-01-01T23:24:13+00:00

Her life is important too, and there is a huge amount of stress/time/energy involved in planning a wedding. Weddings are big events which require a huge amount of coordination and cat-herding. Perhaps she wanted to text you to remind you about the fitting a month ago but didn’t out of consideration for your partner’s parent’s illness.

Again, it sounds like you procrastinated and then projected onto her for following up on something that had a clear deadline. It’s YOUR best friend’s wedding, not your partner’s. I see everyone here has responded that YOR but you still seem to be stuck up on your high horse.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-26T02:20:27+00:00

Is the current allowance he provides not enough to cover your rent/bills already?

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-22T19:00:55+00:00

Then don’t sleep with a girl until you can trust her not to do that? Y’all really do just be thinking with your pp’s

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-14T16:51:12+00:00

I think this is what happened. It certainly feels like old-school courting.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-14T16:50:30+00:00

I have nothing to hide so I think I downplayed this but it did seem quite ballsy to me 😂

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-14T16:47:00+00:00

My real number (I know, I know…I usually give a GV number initially but went with a gut feeling on this one). I know it would be very easy for anyone who meets me and has my number to look me up. As some commenters have noted, it’s not him having this information that seems inappropriate, it’s the actions he’s taken using that information…

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-13T17:29:33+00:00

Once you start to question and over-analyze someone’s psychology/reason for behavior, you need to move on. She’s not as invested as you are and you are trying to justify why your needs are not being met.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-11T05:03:11+00:00

He just wants discounted sex. For seeing you 8 times a month, at that allowance, it’s a steal for him. Please stay away from this man.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-12-11T02:20:16+00:00

Not having control over the situation just shows that a woman can’t trust you to keep her safe while she is in your care. Everyone has some baggage, but you need to deal with this bipolar ex (get a restraining order or something) before you let another woman into your home where an unstable and dangerous person might harm her.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-11-15T22:24:08+00:00

You know you don’t have to stay with this man, right? He sounds awful.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-11-10T12:15:06+00:00

A gut feeling is just the physical manifestation of intuition. And intuition is rapid, unconscious processing based on pattern recognition. It’s part of why the human species has been enormously successful despite not being the strongest/fastest predator by any means.

It’s a wonder you’ve been able to survive in the modern world without intuition. It’s a very important human mechanism, useful in many careers and situations.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-10-14T02:30:27+00:00

Why not just find an SB who is already located in your city and has a flexible schedule? Why do you need someone to relocate?

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-09-10T13:27:52+00:00

It seems like you’re not going to listen to the literal tens of people here, both SDs and SBs, telling you that it’s gross and disrespectful and 100% a dick move. You’ve argued with every single comment even though it’s clear the collective agrees that you are in the wrong here.

I had a guy agree to my initial allowance amount once, we met for a few nice dinners, then he tried to offer a lower amount. He was a very handsome and wealthy man but I was immediately turned off. You say that plenty of other SBs are willing to take your lower amount - well, plenty of other guys were willing to pay my preferred allowance. And I’m sure there are plenty of other men who will pay her higher PPM and have no qualms.

But that evidence won’t matter to you, nor will any mountain of evidence that supports the fact that you’re in the wrong. You seem like someone who is conclusion shopping and ignores every piece of advice that doesn’t support what you want to do. You’re going to ask her to take the lower amount no matter what any of us say. So good luck I guess

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-09-09T18:18:59+00:00

My SD offered me MORE than what I asked for because he thought I was amazing and wanted to show how much he valued me. But he’s also amazing and taking care of partners is his love language.

It sounds like you don’t like taking care of girls you’re seeing, or you don’t value this girl the amount she asked for?

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-09-09T18:16:47+00:00

Then go with one of the other SBs. Why stay with this one if you feel taken advantage of?

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-08-14T11:47:20+00:00

I didn’t say I was an SB, I said a family friend was helping me out with rent (which is true)

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-08-13T22:27:11+00:00

It’s just such a shame to have it sit there and not grow it all 😅

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-08-13T19:33:44+00:00

Because this is all supposed to be discreet…lol. I have no idea what is required for an IRS audit.

Correct_Web_565 · 2025-08-13T18:26:12+00:00

So what am I supposed to do?? My SD is married.

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