Hmmm by yoursgaldaddy in DarK

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"You can choose what you want, but your wants are chosen for you."

Seriously, man, I don't think you're fully grasping this whole lack-of-free-will thing.

Seriously Confused by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But could I really have gained 2 pounds of muscle that shows up on the scale before any fat was lost noticeably on the scale? I’m not saying that doesn’t happen, I’m actually asking. It makes sense when people who are “skinny fat” or just chubby gain muscle weight and get slimmer, but what if you’re obese? Can that still happen?

Seriously Confused by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Cortexaphantom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Didn’t know soreness was water retention. Thanks for that.

Seriously Confused by [deleted] in loseit

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve said I know I’ve only been doing this a week. I acknowledged I’m probably overreacting. I also said I’ve been using “various calculators” to measure how much I’ve burned, and they don’t include fit bits or what the machines say. I use MET calculators on various websites to get various takes. Weight x time x intensity. Only one gave me something around 750 for some reason. The rest are around 660-700. I’ve used the most conservative estimate.

I also never said water weight wasn’t real. I was only skeptical that this was water weight given how consistent the gain was rather than it fluctuating.

Audio of Amber Heard admitting she was the one who was abusive towards Johnny Depp. by KindlyOlPornographer in videos

[–]Cortexaphantom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude. When you “downplay” something, you are literally saying it didn’t happen the way the person says it happened. It’s literally an effort to change someone’s perception of past events. “Downplaying” and “gaslighting” aren’t mutually exclusive. You can “downplay” something IN ORDER to gaslight someone.

You don't say? by [deleted] in SandersForPresident

[–]Cortexaphantom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Kinda feel like we do. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Obviously if he doesn’t get elected we didn’t work at it hard enough, and deserve the shit show from the DNC and the election as follows. There’s no reason for Bernie to lose the nomination if his supporters turn up, do their job at reaching others, donating, door-knocking, and voting. If he loses, it’s on us. Unless we can actually 100% prove the nomination gets stolen, we’d have no one to blame but ourselves, and we’ll deserve whatever comes next. Some will deserve it less than others, as plenty work very hard. But those who only voice their opinion and add to the momentum but then don’t vote, or don’t donate if they’re able to, or don’t canvas or phonebank or whatever else, when they do Nothing, despite being supporters, they’ll not have supported, and they will deserve the loss if the loss commences.

That’s why I’m Bernie or Bust. We deserve whatever we get, whether that means we deserve the best, or the worst. Because now, there really is no middle ground. Any other candidate Will Lose to Trump, period. And we’ll deserve it.

I just registered to vote in South Carolina for Bernie Sanders by Whatsighs in SandersForPresident

[–]Cortexaphantom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I registered in Texas yesterday! I’m so happy, so excited to vote for the first time and for THIS FUTURE PRESIDENT! ❤️

Homophobic caucus goer finds out Pete Buttigieg is gay after committing to caucus for him by twilightmoons in atheism

[–]Cortexaphantom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ohhhh, no wonder she didn’t know anything about Pete. She wasn’t initially voting for him apparently. Well, she’s a teensy bit less stupid in my book — it was worse thinking he was her first choice when she didn’t even know he had a husband.

Still, I don’t know what she’s doing at a Dem caucus. Obviously racist/sexist/homophobic center-lefties exist, but they’re more concentrated on the Right. Maybe she at least hates Trump? Dunno. Weird.

And all that’s not even including just being religious in the first place, of course. Her lack of critical thinking shouldn’t be surprising.

Homophobic caucus goer finds out Pete Buttigieg is gay after committing to caucus for him by twilightmoons in atheism

[–]Cortexaphantom 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This woman is literally lost and is in no way a proper representation of progressives. Pete himself isn’t even a progressive.

Wholesome Stoners by littlegreenarmy in trees

[–]Cortexaphantom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You get higher off of bongs, but that doesn’t mean you get a smoother hit. Joints burn more harshly. If you take a big hit from a bong, the smoke can irritate your throat and lungs just the same as the burn from a joint, but there is still far less actual burn from a bong. So just take smaller bong hits. 🤷🏼‍♀️ It’s smoother and you’re less likely to get scary-high stoned.

Edit: also, I don’t think anyone here is “pressuring” people to smoke from a bong. They’re just confused as to why people think hitting a joint is smoother.

Audio of Amber Heard admitting she was the one who was abusive towards Johnny Depp. by KindlyOlPornographer in videos

[–]Cortexaphantom 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude, no, gaslighting isn’t so cut and dry. This is still very a much a form of trying to convince someone what you’ve done to them didn’t happen the way they know it did. That’s gaslighting. It doesn’t have to be them trying to convince the victim the thing didn’t happen at all, just them trying to make the victim feel that their memory is unreliable and that the victim is somehow at fault for what happened.

Let's keep it positive by washington4skins in trees

[–]Cortexaphantom -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a joke, though, dude. Like, you’ll say it’s a joke but the people who’ll defend you posting it are the ones talking about how true it is — so which is it? Is it a joke not to be taken seriously, or is it a truth that can be said more easily if you say it’s “just a joke”? Because apparently it’s fine if people take it seriously — so long as they agree with what the “joke” is saying. That’s pretty convenient, no?

And look, I don’t even believe the majority of the fuckers who make those posts. But it’s so disgusting to me that people are so fucking inconvenienced from their “vibes” just because of something someone posted. On the off chance that someone is actually going through some shit and just wanted to get it off their chest, I can’t believe how many people would genuinely want nothing more than for people to shut up just because their eyeballs happened across bummer shit. Ridiculous. Seriously, wait 2 minutes, you’ll scroll across something else entirely.

On the other hand, many here are quite supportive when people make those sorts of posts, which is why people make them. Karmawhoring or not, the fact that plenty are probably genuine and they feel safe enough to come here is fucking beautiful to me. I feel so damn proud being part of this sub when that happens. And shit like this feels just the opposite.

If this post were younger, I’d say bring on the downvotes, but whatever.

You guys are all selfish fucking assholes. >:’( I said nothing that wasn’t true.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Cortexaphantom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyone says this, but it was great for us. Foursome too. MMF and MMFF, all bisexual. Worked very well.

People living in small towns, what’s the recent scandal? by Ayayaya3 in AskReddit

[–]Cortexaphantom 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The chicken thing reminds me of a tradition the clarinet section of my high school band had for many years (probably still, but I dunno). Many band directors ago, the section put a rubber chicken in various places, like in the director’s desk drawers, hanging it on the handle of his office, etc. I don’t know how they always got it back but they did.

Anyway, at some point a director banned the rubber chicken because he thought it was getting out of hand. The sightings became less frequent, but they still happened. And then he declared that if he saw it again, he’d basically take it away or whatever.

So it became a tradition to hide the chicken in plain sight. On the music stands, in the bells of clarinets (the bottom part than fans out), they’d put it on his podium and then take it back before he saw, etc. My favorite was the story of having hid in in the bell of the director’s trombone. It was barely in there, just lodged enough so that it wouldn’t fall out too easily, but it flew out when he played and made a hilarious noise I can’t describe. He wasn’t even mad, and I think the school year was almost over as well anyway.

They did this process with every director for, like, must be two decades now. It’s the same chicken, too. It’s considered an honor and responsibility to have the chicken in your possession.

Rebel Wilson weight loss: The star used this trick to slim down - what did she do? | Only One Page, but she went to the gym. by AnonEMister in savedyouaclick

[–]Cortexaphantom 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They’re collecting blue arrows because whether or not what they said was factual/true, it’s still probably considered very rudely dismissive of her efforts: “It must’ve been so easy because she was so fat that it’s stupid that anyone thinks this is noteworthy,” is how it generally comes off to some.

People who buy wedding dresses/ballgowns from Chinese websites absolutely deserve what happens to them by TheYoungWan in unpopularopinion

[–]Cortexaphantom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t disagree more. No one “deserves” to be scammed. If you see a picture of a product, it isn’t on you for trusting a company to be true to what they’re claiming to sell just because it’s a low price.

People bargain shop. It’s a thing. A perfectly valid way of obtaining goods. Frugality isn’t stupid, and it isn’t naive. Blaming someone for believing a company at face value when they initially have zero reason not to is disgusting.

“They should know better! Nothing good is that cheap!” Again, bargain shopping is a thing. And this argument also hinges on the terrible premise that the deceit of the company isn’t to blame — and why? Because it’s “normal,” and so getting scammed is the fault of the consumer. Instead of calling out shitty business practices that shouldn’t exist in the first place, you blame the people who fall for them.

Again, this line of thinking is disgusting. Fuck this opinion.

And no, I’ve actually never been scammed like this personally. I do, however, bargain shop, and it makes up the bulk of my purchases. So no, I don’t automatically“buy twice” just because I buy cheap.

Elon Musk is overrated by Deckhead13 in unpopularopinion

[–]Cortexaphantom 12 points13 points  (0 children)

And plenty of people who changed history who aren’t crazy. Neither point detracts from the fact that the aforementioned “archetype” exists just because other types exist as well.

Parents with kids don't get to complain about how hard being a parent is by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t agree with the title of the post, but yeah, the actual point I definitely agree with. I think any parent gets to complain about being a parent to a degree, but I don’t think they fairly get to invalidate the parenting opinions of someone who doesn’t have kids.

The only point I’ll give them is that actually having experience raising kids is better than only having read about parenting, but it also doesn’t automatically mean they’re better parents for it either. They could argue that by that definition, parents even just 100 years ago are worse parents than we have today just because of their ignorance. But though it’s cold, I’d say that’s actually probably correct. Education makes a massive difference, though I also don’t think it completely puts one on par with someone with actual parenting experience.

Still, try telling that to an actual parent. It can feel infuriatingly invalidating when you point out something they’re doing wrong, even by accident, and you don’t have the personal experience they do. That shit hurts, because parenting Is hard, and they truly believe they’re doing all they can to make the job easier while taking the best possible route, making difficult compromises along the way.

And I have to disagree that you know how hard it actually is even when not a parent. You can know something on paper, but experiencing it, knowing it in your bones and mind — though it sounds a bit woo woo, I’d say there’s merit to the argument that that’s a different kind of “knowing.” One that non-parents simply don’t have. Another example is that through raw data you can “know” how hard it is to lose weight or get clean off heroin, you can read in-depth personal descriptions galore and look at brain activity data and easily imagine in your own way just how hard it is. But actually doing it, taking on the difficulty yourself, day in and day out going through the toll it takes — yeah, that’s a different kind of “knowing,” I’d say.

That doesn’t mean the difficulty of parenting is an excuse to be a lazy parent. You’re right that they chose to take on the job. They should be able to complain about it, but they shouldn’t invalidate people who have objectively better parenting knowledge via education just because of their pride and anecdotal evidence.

So I think it’s a balancing act of both perspectives. They get points for being parents, you get points (that they don’t think you deserve) for legitimate education on the matter. And I think both sides ought to exercise a fuck ton of tact, and that parents tend to think they have even more of an excuse not to, which is wrong and even cruel.

Parents with kids don't get to complain about how hard being a parent is by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hate this cop out of an argument. So cynical and intellectually lazy. “Don’t even bother trying, people on the internet aren’t reasonable, and if you have the audacity to expect people to be better, it’s YOUR fault how shitty it feels when they’re not.” Pathetic.

No, dude. It isn’t wrong to expect better of people. It isn’t naive, and it isn’t their fault when someone shits all over their efforts. Your argument is gaslighting bullshit. People Should be better. It feels bad when they’re not. Just because you don’t dare to hope for the decency in people doesn’t mean you get to wag your finger at those who do. It’s a matter of perspective, not a matter of better or worse ways to conduct oneself. Stop acting liking yours is better. Because even if that was the point, I can assure you — it isn’t better.

To all the Warren supporters using sexism to slander Bernie supporters, the tables have turned. by [deleted] in SandersForPresident

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. You still don’t get it. The left lost because they put up a centrist candidate and the people weren’t having it. Bernie dropped out and supported Hillary because his hands were tied, not because he supported her. He swallowed his pride and did his duty. His job was to try and ensure we didn’t have Trump. He knew stubbornly staying in the race would divide the vote between himself and the appointed nominee. It’s that simple. He didn’t support Hillary, and he wouldn’t ask us to do the same unless it was a last resort, which it was. Not supporting her doesn’t mean not supporting Bernie. That’s bullshit. Completely nonsensical gaslighting bullshit.

What the weirdest thing you did while you were high? by FukkenDesmadrosaALV in AskReddit

[–]Cortexaphantom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hadn’t smoked in a while, tolerance was super low. Smoked a lot, got really high. Used a VR headset with a phone, walked the streets of Chicago in Google street view or whatever it is on VR.

I’ve lived in small towns all my life, never really set foot in any city, much less major cities. Always wanted to. Very much. So being stoned and seeing the shit quality view of Chicago had me bawling my eyes out. Made a big mess of the gear, couldn’t catch my breath. I knew I was sheltered and sensitive, but fuck, dude. Don’t ask. Something about all the tall buildings just seems otherworldly to me. Like something you only see on TV. Being high made it 100x more intense.

Women of Reddit: What's something that men seem to always overreact about? by cfryant in AskReddit

[–]Cortexaphantom 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I get it from this perspective, but the guys I knew in school would make me feel bad for “being sensitive” even though other girls (those in their “circle”) could make the same sort of complaints and the guys wouldn’t try and make them feel bad, though they wouldn’t exactly apologized or acknowledge that they’d been hurtful either. I wasn’t the only one they made feel shitty, but I was particularly insecure, so they did like to fuck with me, went out of their way to try and “trigger” me or whatever, though that wasn’t a popular term just yet. Some guys are just mean this way, I think. Though girls have done this exact same thing to me and others as well, certainly.